It drives me nuts that I have to shave my face/legs and even my tummy everyday sometimes twice a day, but then to have hubby remark about the hair growth or that I have to shave my face hurts. I want to just crawl into a corner when he does this. Any suggestions to get him to understand?
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It drives me nuts that I have to shave my face/legs and even my tummy everyday sometimes twice a day, but then to have hubby remark about the hair growth or that I have to shave my face hurts. I want to just crawl into a corner when he does this. Any suggestions to get him to understand?
I'm not too sure what the problem is here. I think it would be unrealistic for me to expect the subject of my facial hair to be a "no go" area for my husband. I don't shave anything but my face -- everything else is hairy, but it doesn't get shaved: I just cover it up. DH doesn't dislike the hair and he isn't nasty about it -- but it is one of the distinctive things that makes me who I am. So while I would have preferred it if I had no more hair than the average woman, I don't mind him talking about the reality that's there. Is the problem that your dh mentions it at all or that he's negative about it?
I understand your feelings. It is a very sensitive topic - and his comments can make you feel less of a lady. My hubby made a comment once. After the hurt/embarassment was over, I simply told him that I am very sensitive to this matter, and would appreciate his compassion instead of comments that may be taken as critical. Turns out he did not mean anything, it was me over-reacting.
Talk to him. Be honest with him about your feelings - not just for this but for all your medical issues relating to PCOS. It is nice to have someone to feel completely comfortable with - and it should be your DH.
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liloppy, Maybe your husband doesn't understand how sensitive you are about the hair. Sit down with him and explain to him how embarrassing and upsetting it is to you and just explain to him your feelings and how his support is really needed right now. I think he will understand and be more compassionate. Not long ago, I was laying with dh in bed watching tv. I caught him off guard and mentioned something about how he would react if my chest got hairy. He looked at me funny and said I sure hope not. I about started crying. I know it caught him off guard, but I sulked all day the following day and cried almost all night that night. Anyway, the following evening, I got on a website about PCOS and handed it too him and said this is what I have and what may or may not happen...Later that evening, he came to me and said he was sorry, that he didn't know that it could happen and that it was okay if it did...He was very supportative and shows me daily just how much he loves me...Good luck...
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My bf (who might as well be my husband...we've been together 7 years) looked at me once when I asked him if I looked ok, and said..."yeah but we're just going to the store, you may want to bleach before we go out with our friends tonight".
I was a little stunned at first and then I thought about it. If I'd come back from an evening with our friends and THEN realised that I'd needed to bleach I'd have felt awful, just as bad as if I'd gone around with my skirt tucked into my pantyhose all evening and no one had said anything.
Here's this man who loves me, and although it freaked him out a bit at first has accepted and gotten used to my heavier than normal lip hair. And his comment was meant not as a barb, but to save me from embarrassment from people who do not love me as much, and may not be as accepting.
It's a radical shift in your thinking to look at it this way, but you may want to ask him why he mentions it. I know once I thought of it this way I realised he wasn't being insenstive, quite the contrary, he was being VERY sensitive to making sure the world saw the best possible me.
To me, this is in the same category as my mom or my sister telling me I have spinach in my teeth or that my breath is bad. People who love you are supposed to be able to tell you things like that. The rest will notice, but will never tell you....maybe someone else, but not you.
How do you get your DH to understand?? 
