How OUR significant others deal with US having PCOS

RaeBolt06 · 01-19-2007, 03:50 PM

I know there is a forum for Husband/Boyfriends but I thought it would be cool to start a thread for those of us in here. Those of us in a relationship can talk about how they deal with us having PCOS. What issues come up if any, etc.

Like examples: Do they get mad at you a lot because your moody?

Do they never seem to understand you?

Do they try to understand you?

Do the feel awful for you or don't care?

I think it would be good to talk about these kinds of questions. I know it can be hard sometimes when your significant other can't completely understand what you are going through.

LookingForHope16 · 01-20-2007, 03:45 AM

Well I guess I will be the first to respond.

Amanda and I both have PCOS. I guess we both get moody, but she does tend to understand when I cry for nothing.

Amanda will try to understand when she can. Sometimes she doesn't and she will apologize and sit there and listen to me tell her what's wrong. Sometimes after the explination she will understand and sometimes not.

I really feel loved that she will listen. Sometimes I think that it's a great thing that we both have it. then sometimes it's bad when we both are in moods.

oddly though, both Amanda and the last girl that I've dated had it.

RaeBolt06 · 01-20-2007, 12:27 PM

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Originally Posted by LookingForHope16

Well I guess I will be the first to respond.

Amanda and I both have PCOS. I guess we both get moody, but she does tend to understand when I cry for nothing.

Amanda will try to understand when she can. Sometimes she doesn't and she will apologize and sit there and listen to me tell her what's wrong. Sometimes after the explination she will understand and sometimes not.

I really feel loved that she will listen. Sometimes I think that it's a great thing that we both have it. then sometimes it's bad when we both are in moods.

oddly though, both Amanda and the last girl that I've dated had it.

I bet it can be hard with both of you having it. Like because I think you've talked about wanting to have kids and with PCOS most women have a hard time having babies. Do you both fear that or just one of you or neither or what?

Also I can see where it could be good that you both have it to relate and understand each other better.

LookingForHope16 · 01-21-2007, 04:04 AM

She doesn't want to carry a child. We've already talked about it and that if I can't carry a child that we can adopt.

RaeBolt06 · 01-21-2007, 04:22 AM

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Originally Posted by LookingForHope16

She doesn't want to carry a child. We've already talked about it and that if I can't carry a child that we can adopt.

Why doesn't she want to? I hope your able to have babies.

LookingForHope16 · 01-21-2007, 05:18 AM

She said she just doesn't want to carry a child. She doesn't feel the want to carry the child.

Me on the other hand, I can't wait to feel what it's like.

Courtneyh29 · 02-02-2007, 12:44 PM

Well, lets see here. My boyfriend and i have been together for about 2 years now roughly and he was with me when i first got Dx'd. He has been with me through all my struggles. He deals with it pretty well. When i was dx'd he was very supportive, but now when i get in my moods he cannot seem to stand it. I have a very hard time describing my feelings about PCOS to him because I am scared of how he will respond. Everytime i tell him that i feel really ugly or fat or whatever the case is he yells at me because he says none of its true. He says i am so beautiful and all this other stuff. I feel that i am not. And i feel bad when he says it to me because i never know what to say... do i just say thank you? or what do i do.. i need advice!

RaeBolt06 · 02-04-2007, 05:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Courtneyh29

Well, lets see here. My boyfriend and i have been together for about 2 years now roughly and he was with me when i first got Dx'd. He has been with me through all my struggles. He deals with it pretty well. When i was dx'd he was very supportive, but now when i get in my moods he cannot seem to stand it. I have a very hard time describing my feelings about PCOS to him because I am scared of how he will respond. Everytime i tell him that i feel really ugly or fat or whatever the case is he yells at me because he says none of its true. He says i am so beautiful and all this other stuff. I feel that i am not. And i feel bad when he says it to me because i never know what to say... do i just say thank you? or what do i do.. i need advice!

I definitely know what you mean. It can be hard believing what your signifcant other is saying is true sometimes. But I truly believe when my hubby tells me Im beautiful and whatnot that I truly am. I may not be beauitufl to another guy but I am BEAUTIFUL to my hubby and that's what is important, right?

ibcnuldu · 02-04-2007, 01:40 PM

My dh to be is okay with it now. He had a really hard time with it at first. We always wanted to have a big family, and he felt like it was a death sentence. But we've gotten over it, after all he's marrying me, not our future kids God willing. There's still moments when he gets a little moody, but they're few. I'm not really moody, but when I feel ill he worries a lot and gets concerned.

LookingForHope16 · 02-08-2007, 08:04 AM

Is he open to adoption?