How supportive is your DH or DB about your hair growth or loss?

Mrs.Z · 07-04-2009, 11:26 PM

I was just wondering how supportive your DH or DB are. Were y'all together when you were diagnosed and the growth or loss began or was it already in the process when y'all met? Mine was very little when me and DH met and has gotten worse. I never told him I had hair growth under my chin, sideburns, breast or belly I just always plucked. After we got married it was harder to keep it from him but he never came out and said anything. He would casual say " oh you have a hair on your chin" and want to pull it out. He's nice about it but I hate it. After I was diagnosed and figured out I had a reason why I was freakishly hairy and could explain it to DH I felt much better. I didn't feel like I had something to hide. I still pluck and all I'm just not as embaressed with DH. I kniw he loves me and he doesn't make me feel bad about my hair growth. I think it helps a lot to have someone supportive. I'm so very glad I do, both DH and this site! Thanks!

Tina Castle · 07-05-2009, 01:14 AM

What does DH or DB stand for?

Sareybear · 07-05-2009, 01:46 AM

Tina:: It means Dear Husband or Dear Boyfriend

Mrs. Z:: I feel the exact same way. I often wondered if I was the only one that felt that way. When we started seriously dating / sleeping over it was there and had been for a while, but it was still sort of mild. I kept it secret and plucked and tweezed and waxed when he was out or when he'd be asleep or preoccupied. As time went by (four years) we'd gotten married and I was getting worse. I didn't know what I had, I had never even heard of it before. I was 86+ lbs higher then and my hair was growing on my chin now, a med mustache, dark hair on my upper arm, chin and toes. Oh yeah, and belly which was now HUGE. He NEVER mentioned. And I know he saw it there. He had to of because I got so depressed it was hard to hide it. It affected me that much. Keeping that secret I mean. It became that important. Then by the grace of God, a wonderful mother, and a FANTASTIC Dr. I was led to find out that I had PCOS. I researched it and immediately began eating properly. I lost 60lbs and was then put on Metformin and lost another 26lbs all in 7months. I am now regular and no new hair is growing;however the old hair did/does keep coming back.

Well, armed with this new information (at the beggining of this journy) I told my now DH what I had been hiding. Something happened.

He said he was sorry that it had made me feel that way, he didn't even really notice (I know he said that to make me feel better) and that he was glad it was something I could A: feel relief from secrets B:the answers I had wanted all along.

He's amazing. I'm so smitten with him at the re-telling of this story, I can't take my eyes off him. Ha.

sorry so long

Tina Castle · 07-05-2009, 04:39 AM

Oh ok thanks!

To answer the question my ex-boyfriend never said anything about the excess hair which I know was painfully obvious since I'd usually forget to shave.

Men are usually more discreet about stuff like that unless they're immature.

Mrs.Z · 07-06-2009, 02:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Sareybear

Tina:: It means Dear Husband or Dear Boyfriend

Mrs. Z:: I feel the exact same way. I often wondered if I was the only one that felt that way. When we started seriously dating / sleeping over it was there and had been for a while, but it was still sort of mild. I kept it secret and plucked and tweezed and waxed when he was out or when he'd be asleep or preoccupied. As time went by (four years) we'd gotten married and I was getting worse. I didn't know what I had, I had never even heard of it before. I was 86+ lbs higher then and my hair was growing on my chin now, a med mustache, dark hair on my upper arm, chin and toes. Oh yeah, and belly which was now HUGE. He NEVER mentioned. And I know he saw it there. He had to of because I got so depressed it was hard to hide it. It affected me that much. Keeping that secret I mean. It became that important. Then by the grace of God, a wonderful mother, and a FANTASTIC Dr. I was led to find out that I had PCOS. I researched it and immediately began eating properly. I lost 60lbs and was then put on Metformin and lost another 26lbs all in 7months. I am now regular and no new hair is growing;however the old hair did/does keep coming back.

Well, armed with this new information (at the beggining of this journy) I told my now DH what I had been hiding. Something happened.

He said he was sorry that it had made me feel that way, he didn't even really notice (I know he said that to make me feel better) and that he was glad it was something I could A: feel relief from secrets B:the answers I had wanted all along.

He's amazing. I'm so smitten with him at the re-telling of this story, I can't take my eyes off him. Ha.

sorry so long

That's awesome! Hearing a story like yours gives me hope. I am now starting to eat better so hopefully I can lose weight and will be going to a new Dr. so I can get put back on metformin. Hopefully I too will have no new hair growth....just have to deal with what I have. Thanks again!

saxymar · 07-06-2009, 03:45 AM

i was actually quite surprised when I brought up laser hair removal that my husband didn't freak out on me because it costs too much. I thought I would really have to talk him into it...but he was supportive of me doing it. But in no way did he make me feel bad or make me think he was unhappy with how I looked.