My DH tries to be polite, but my facial hair is so gross, I know it must bother him. It embarrasses me beyond anything to compare. It's so sad I can't lie in bed with him in the morning b/c I have to jump up and go take care of my chin hair before he sees it.
How do you deal with your husbands about the excess hair. I feel so "manly" sometimes and it really embarrasses me when I'm around him. (I know he knows it's there and he knows I can't help it, but still...) Do you just try to hide it from him or does he not really care or...?
Well, I know how you feel. Im only 19 years old and I grow hair on my upper lip..Its not a ton, but it is noticable. My boyfriend recently told me it bothers him and that I should wax it.. Talk about being embarassed ... I am scared to wax it tho because right now it grows in and its not very thick. Im scared if I wax it it will grow back very thick and dark. As for my chin I pluck a few hairs here and there. It seems as if I struggle with hair the most on my chest.. I hate this... ..
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I have that problem, I have been waxing since I was 16. I know how it feels, I go every 2 wks to get it waxed, sometimes 3 or 4. But it dosent grow back thicker, it seems to get thinner.
I have never actually talked about "it" with my husband. He knows and he actually doesn't get freaked out about it all. He actually told me the other day that if we could come up with the money for laser hair removal that I could spend whatever I wanted so I could feel better about myself. He truly means it.
I have a hard time letting him touch my chin and neck on Saturday and Sunday mornings. I don't run to the bathroom, but I don't linger in the bed either.
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To be honest,, my hubby doesn't care. He knows about my PCOS... He doesn't care he tells me I am beautiful even when the hair hasn't been removed! I am very lucky!!! *HUGS*
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I'm so glad I'm not the only one. It hurts my feelings that I have to "hide" this from him and can't enjoy spending close time with him.
I've heard that waxing makes your hair grow back thinner but you have to let it get so long before you can wax, what's the point. Luckily I don't have that bad of an upper lip problem, but my chin is awful (and what makes it worse is my chin kinda sticks out a bit too).
DH also agrees that I can do laser after we pay for all the infertility stuff. I can't wait!
I'm very sorry you have to go through this. When I was first married I had such feelings, but then it just didn't matter so much after we had a good talk about it. It's never really been that big of a deal to him. He went with me to all my laser appointments, also near every time I got electrolysis, and he's even watched me shave a bunch of times in the morning. We even use to joke about what razor is trully the best. I think I would definitely be a mess if I didn't feel I could be open about something that affects my life to such an extent.
Please try and sit down with him and discuss it very frankly. He's your bestfriend and he should understand the hell you are going through with this. If you're too embarressed, tell him right off that you feel very uncomfortable talking about, but that you really need his support. I'm sure he will be understanding. I mean, you guys are together and he loves you, so definitely share your feelings.
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My husband doesn't care he says he will love me no matter what.I know that he means it when he says that but I still dont want him to touch my face before I have time to shave.
My DH tries to be polite, but my facial hair is so gross, I know it must bother him. It embarrasses me beyond anything to compare. It's so sad I can't lie in bed with him in the morning b/c I have to jump up and go take care of my chin hair before he sees it.
How do you deal with your husbands about the excess hair. I feel so "manly" sometimes and it really embarrasses me when I'm around him. (I know he knows it's there and he knows I can't help it, but still...) Do you just try to hide it from him or does he not really care or...?
I'd never try to hide it from him. He knew from the day he met me at 19 that I had a moustache I shaved.
I know what you mean about feeling "manly" -- but the way I look at it, the fact that is that the moustache (and now beard) growth is there, whether I like it or not. He could have had a more feminine wife -- but he chose me. And I couldn't even offer him a decent bust:-( But we have a great physical relationship and the moustache and beard growth have never put him off -- he'll often nuzzle my chin in the morning when it's bristly. The fact that we're both open about it helps enormously. And we simply refer to my "moustache" or my "beard" -- we don't use euphemisms for the facial hair. One thing that helps enormously is that he knows that our great physical relationship is helped considerably by the testosterone excess that leads to the facial hair.
My husband doesn't like to see me pluck, but it's not because he's grossed out by it or anything. He just doesn't like to see me "picking" on my myself. He thinks I'm too critical of myself and he just wants me to feel loved. I think that's something we all struggle with... we're always "picking" on ourselves even when we don't need to.
Thank you ladies for posting here, as a single cyster this gives me hope!
I never dreamed, when I was a teenager, that there would be any guy who wouldn't mind a girl having moustache growth just like a guy. Happily, I was very wrong. Just as well, because my chin's got coarse growth on it now, as well.
Actually, the guys who know I shave are really nice about it. Sure, they're curious, but in a nice, interested sort of way. It certainly hasn't spoiled my relationship with them at all - in fact, I think they treat me nicer because of it.
I wouldn't have chosen to have facial hair, but it's certainly not the end of the world and it does have an upside to it.
My husband says he would never have followed up his interest in me when he first saw me if he hadn't seen the coarse stubble on my upper lip (I hadn't shaved that day). If it hadn't been for the stubble he'd have reckoned I was too young for him. So he says he's glad that I had a moustache or we'd never have got married :-)
My husband is very understanding. He has never seemed grossed out or anything by my excess hair (I am with you joyblack (now beard). He says he loves me for who I am not what I look like and he knows it is not something that I can control. I know he means what he says and whenever I get really embarassed or self concious about it he just gives me a big hug and tells me he loves me.
My husband is very understanding. He has never seemed grossed out or anything by my excess hair (I am with you joyblack (now beard). He says he loves me for who I am not what I look like and he knows it is not something that I can control. I know he means what he says and whenever I get really embarassed or self concious about it he just gives me a big hug and tells me he loves me.
This is exactly how my husband is. I think some men are just a little bothered by it. Then there are those trolly guys that think every women on earth should be perfect. 9 out of 10 of these guys are far from perfect themselves. But I think hairiness really doesn't bother most guys if they love really love you; they love you hair and all.
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I thought for the longest time that he didnt know cuz he never mentioned "it" and neither did I. Then I finally let it out when he was once again trying to touch my face. He said he already knew and didnt care. But I still cant shave in front of him, its like, hey honey wanna shave together? ew, no thanks.
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... I am scared to wax it tho because right now it grows in and its not very thick. Im scared if I wax it it will grow back very thick and dark. As for my chin I pluck a few hairs here and there. It seems as if I struggle with hair the most on my chest.. I hate this... 
