CaliHousewife

I'm curious how you are supportive and sympathetic to your wives who are dealing with PCOS... isn't it hard?... with all her symptoms/mood swings/low sex drive...etc??? How do you become supportive when things can get frustrating? Of course you love her but my husband doesn't really know how to be there for me the way I need him to so I'm just trying to find answers. Thank you!

belle84

obviously im not a bloke but i jsut thought id ut my 2cents in! i think the best thing u can do is print some things out for him to explain it all and then he may get a better idea xxx

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Stu (DF)

6 failed rounds of clomid.

Ovarian drilling 4th December - which has only given me an infection

Now back to trying vitex.
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Monita

Hi Calihousewife

I am also not a husband but I can share with you how my husband and I as a couple are dealing with this PCOS and TTC situation.

It is somehow normal that you husband does not fully understand you, because he is not the one with the symptoms and because PCOS is not a "common" condition. As well, many of the symptoms are only fully understood by women, making this even harder for men to understand.

I would suggest that you plan a get away weekend, even a private lunch in which you can talk in private, and you can explain to him all about the condition, from the physical symptoms and explanation, to the mood changes, depression, etc.

It is important he fully understands what PCOS is, and that you take as many times as needed so he gets familiar with your condition.

I also felt in the beginning not supported, and my husband used to be frustrated with my mood swings, depressions, hormone treatments, lack of libido, etc. But now he understands much better and supports me a lot.

PCOS is a condition that affects both as a couple and he needs to understand it as such.

Be sure to always emphasize that any rejection or attitude you may have as a result of PCOS, is BECAUSE of PCOS. Sometimes husbands can feel rejected, or believe that the reason of mood swings or decreased libido is other.

If you talk to him and he is receptive, I am sure he will support you much more.

Good luck !

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So...

I have to say that my husband is the most understanding guy I know and I could not be luckier to have him. While I had not yet been diagnosed when we met I knew that I had it. He came into the relationship having to deal with the body hair where women aren't so post to have it, mood swings, bad acne and scaring, then realizing that he may never have a child that is biologically his. You know he has been so awesome. He tells me daily how beautiful I am and how he doesn't care if I every loose a pound or if we are never able to conceive...all he cares about is me and as long as I am happy and with him, then he is happy. We have tried infertility in the past (before diagnose) and the mood swings were so bad for me that he stopped it...he said that he couldn't stand to see my cry anymore. But now with the new PCOS information that we have learned we are both excited and hopeful that there is hope.
Oh well I just wanted to give a shout out to all of our guys that are so wonderful and so understanding...thank you and we love you!!!
Oh well I just wanted to give a shout out to all of our guys that are so wonderful and so understanding...thank you and we love you!!!

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Metformin 500mg 1X Daily (June 2006)
Metformin 850mg 1X Daily (July 2006)
Metformin 850mg 2X Daily (October 2006)






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dwrm73

hey cali my name is Dwayne and my wife Amanda was told abt PCOS abt 7 months ago. At first I admit it was over whelming to me but over a little time and with a little effort on my part by reading. But please I beg of you that if you read any books try not to take it to far. My wife ( Amanda) read a part in a book abt towels and since I work away for weeks at a time she said that I was going to start to bring my own towels to work????? I told her she was not allowed to read that book anymore. When we went to the fertility doc he agreed with me that some of the things are kinda stupid to be in the books. But anyway I"m way off track now so just sit with your hubby and talk with him and express your thoughts/fears/ anything that's going through your mind. Don't forget to ask him for his thoughts and fears abt anything. You might get into a few arguements but trust me it'll be better than not talking abt it. Amanda and I have been trying to concieve for the last 5 yrs and we actually got it once maybe twice but it miscarried. I was so mad and discouraged at the same time it seems like the ppl who can't take care of kids seem to be popping them out like chicklets. Please feel free to IM me I have yahoo messenger and MSN so just check the profile and send me a message. Well I'll say this thing even though men seem to have the easy side of this but in all honesty what man does'nt want to have kids??? It's just as hard on us as it is on you women. Amanda told me most women feel that being a woman is alll abt being able to have kids but in response I think most men feel it's the most important thing they have to do as well. Even though I had a sperm count done and it came back VERY WELL I feel like my manhood was stolen when I can't get Amanda pregnant Well I hope this helps you a little with your concerns. Wishing you all the luck in the world in TTC

ickle pands bf

hey there

I am a BF, so does that count??

I have to say that when i started going out with Pand i didnt really know what this PCOS thing really was, however i am learning as i go. All i can say is that i am looking after the person i love the best way i can. I deal with each moment as they arise and just tell her that things can and will get better,

Though we are not tryin at the moment for little 'uns. We both know the problems that might arise and will deal with them as they come as well.

I can only ask Pand to add to this to say how i am treating her, i feel i am doing the best i can and hope that its working the way i hope....

Kev

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'oops, everyone understands oops, it's like a universal language'

glen t

i am husband to a cyster i have tried many things to help support her and most have had no success what i found works the best is to just shut up and let her blame me it gives her a feeling of some controle in an uncontroleable situation at first i took it personaly but i have gotten over that and have almost mastered the art of shuting up lol i know this is not what i want (solving the problem) but that is not going to happen i love her more than life itself and whatever it takes to help her she is my world i love that she has a place to get support and a place to vent about me lol


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