Hysterectomy - Page 2

Jashobeam · 12-07-2006, 08:52 PM

FWIW I know a lady who wanted a hyster at a young age. She was 100% sure kids were not for her. She was talked out of the hyster and is very glad she didn't have the surgery. She has a child now.

cloud_shade · 12-09-2006, 04:09 AM

I'm 26 and considering hysterectomy as an option if nothing else works. I don't want kids. I've never wanted to give birth--I've always (since I was 4 years old) said that if I ever had kids, it would be through adoption. My only reservations have to do with the fact that it is a major surgery, and there is always the risk of complications. That, and I promised my mom (who had a hysterectomy at the age of 37 or so due to heavy periods) that I wouldn't jump into it--I think she's still hoping for grandkids, but I told her that will be my brother's department.

Jashobeam · 12-09-2006, 11:45 AM

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Originally Posted by cloud_shade

I'm 26 and considering hysterectomy as an option if nothing else works. I don't want kids. I've never wanted to give birth--I've always (since I was 4 years old) said that if I ever had kids, it would be through adoption. My only reservations have to do with the fact that it is a major surgery, and there is always the risk of complications. That, and I promised my mom (who had a hysterectomy at the age of 37 or so due to heavy periods) that I wouldn't jump into it--I think she's still hoping for grandkids, but I told her that will be my brother's department.

Wow, I could have written that post at 26! It's amazing how just 4 years later we were TTC and then the next year had DD. At 26 I was still telling my Mom she would just have to appreciate the grandkids she already had.

JennaBC · 12-09-2006, 12:10 PM

I wouldn't have the hysterectomy. I'm believe that you should always leave some room to change your mind. You never know what life is going to send your way and how you as a person will change. I would also add that my mother had a hysterectomy at around 40, and though her uterus is gone...she still has to deal with hormonal issues and things from her ovaries. But her pain from uterine fibroids and endo is gone.

luvinme · 12-10-2006, 04:43 PM

I wouldn't have a hysterectomy either. Even if i was sure i didn't want to have kids (which i'm definitely not) i wouldn't want one because i would be afraid i'd change my mind. I'd be soooooo afraid that i might regret it.
But that's just me.

AudaciousFurball · 12-10-2006, 09:05 PM

I voted yes. I would have a hysterectomy, but ONLY if things got so severe that it was the only feasible way out. As things stand right now, I want kids and will be ttc in the near future, but I wouldn't rule it out later on in life. Again, life can always throw you a curveball, and you don't know what's what from one day to the next. Voting yes doesn't necessarily mean I'll actually have one.

ibcnuldu · 12-10-2006, 11:20 PM

No never. It's not reversible and you can never be sure you won't regret it. And besides just because you take out those parts doesn't mean PCOS goes away. Plus if you wanted to take out the ovaries you'd have to do hormone therapy.

LeeDawson · 12-10-2006, 11:38 PM

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Originally Posted by cloud_shade

I'm 26 and considering hysterectomy as an option if nothing else works. I don't want kids. I've never wanted to give birth--I've always (since I was 4 years old) said that if I ever had kids, it would be through adoption. My only reservations have to do with the fact that it is a major surgery, and there is always the risk of complications. That, and I promised my mom (who had a hysterectomy at the age of 37 or so due to heavy periods) that I wouldn't jump into it--I think she's still hoping for grandkids, but I told her that will be my brother's department.

wow!
I voted no..
I am 29, I was told last year that i had to have a hysterecomy because my utreus is very thin and because of this I was bleeidng for 18 weeks.

It was the biggest decison not to have it done becuase I just didnt know if I was going to be angry about not being able to have anymore chidlren. I have 2 children there ages are 4 and 2 and I will never turn back after having them for the world.

I saw a comments saying "I dont want children and I dont want to go through childbirth"

I am so greatful i didnt have the hysterecomy. it doesnt resolve pcos either! I could never imagine our life (dh & mine)with no children!

ttara123 · 12-10-2006, 11:47 PM

I voted that I would have one. You are 99% sure that you don't want to have kids - I know that leaves 1% doubt and that meand you could regret it later... but honestly, I don't know that I've ever been 100% sure about anything in my life. I don't know that anyone can be. So that 1% doesn't worry me.

I guess I'd think about it a little more, though - you are still young, and you could still change your mind. But if you're honestly 99% sure you dont' want to have kids, I say have at it. It sounds like the pain is keeping you from living your life. I can't see holding on to your uterus, on the off chance that the 1% of you will change your mind and want kids later, if it's hard to even have a day-to-day life right now. What if you don't get it done, never have kids, and in 30 or 40 years you regret that you went through all that suffering for something? You could very well waste a lot of valuable time.

missaretha · 12-11-2006, 02:06 PM

We TTC for almost 4 years and nothing. We're not into adopting either. We've accepted that it's just me and DH and we have each other.

I'd only have one if it was 100% guaranteed that all of the PCOS, ALL OF IT, would go away. I'd love to give up facial waxes, Glucophage, painful ovulation, even more painful periods and the all around pain in the a$$ PCOS can be.

But, there is no guarantee. The real guarantee of having a hysterectomy is that you'll go through instant menopuase which brings its own crap.

If you have only just a little doubt, don't do it until you know you're 100% positive this is what you want.

LeeDawson · 12-11-2006, 08:57 PM

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Originally Posted by missaretha

We TTC for almost 4 years and nothing. We're not into adopting either. We've accepted that it's just me and DH and we have each other.

If you have only just a little doubt, don't do it until you know you're 100% positive this is what you want.

missaretha, when there was just dh and myself we were the same.. but now i have 2 girls, dont give up!

its so true

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If you have only just a little doubt, don't do it until you know you're 100% positive this is what you want.

em6 · 03-28-2007, 01:56 PM

Not only do i want a hysterectomy, i'm quite looking forward to it. it's very exciting having a goal to work towards. but i think it is most exciting to finally have a doctor who CARES! having suffered for best part of 20 years or more, been fobbed off, insulted, patronised and ignored, to walk into a gynaecologist's office and say "i want a hysterectomy" and to receive the reply "okay, but you need to lose some weight first" was quite possibly the most transcedingly happy moment of my entire life.

if you don't want kids, go for it. why lug around all this misery and discomfort for no reason whatsoever? and if you later change your mind, you can always adopt. there are plenty of lonely, unloved children in the world who need a good home.

i'm sorry to say that i find that women who have children, especially women who have struggled to conceive (sorry, cysters) tend to be VERY anti other people having hysterectomies. but in the end it is your body and your future and i think you should do what makes you happy.

Jashobeam · 03-28-2007, 02:59 PM

FTR, we didn't struggle to conceive. We were TTC about 6 weeks. I woudln't get a hyster except under extreme conditions because I fear what early menopause would do to my already messed up body. If a person has cancer, is living a life of misery due to constant or monthly dibilitating pain, that is one thing. To get a hyster because you just aren't going to have kids is a totaly different matter. If you personally think it's going to enhance your life, make sure to do research. Some ladies find that after a hyster their problems just multiply. I'm also not going to take HRT when I do go into natural menopause, which is a debateable issue. Some swear by HRT, but recent research is suggesting it's not the safe cure all it has been presented as in the past.

yw23 · 03-28-2007, 09:12 PM

when i was younger, i knew for sure i didn't want kids, i'm 24, and right now i know i can't handle kids, but i know in the future i want them..good luck on your decision..i agree, if you have the slightest doubt, i wouldn't have it..you can always have a hyst. later in life, but once you do, you never get the chance to have kids..

patti plummer · 03-29-2007, 01:46 AM

I had a hysterectomy at the age of 33--2 years ago this JUne!! Love it Love it Love it!!
I do have one child! Definatly think and pray about this big change. I would never go back;
Take care
Patti