And feeling quite stupid. I belong to a fertilty group where we can chart online. And theres quite a few women there who arent ttc, but using the site to make sure they dont cuz they dont want any more children. One has 4 kids and another has 2 (also they are functioning normally, no PCOS or anything) and they feel the need to always tell me how confusing and inaccurate my charts are. Well after at least 10 years of being anovulatory I FINALLY got a O date on my chart. I was so excited, and I posted my glee. All they (again) said was how confusing my chart is and how I probably didnt O. I am so angry. Maybe I didnt really O but I needed to see that O there. I am so on the verge of giving up. Now I am doubting my chart and starting to think maybe I am wrong, and I didnt O. And Im feeling dumb cuz I let these women get me down so I am second guessing things. Am I being a fool here?
hi, i'm sorry you have to put up with thoughtless people and you're not being a fool.
i'm anovulatory, too, and when i charted when i was TTC, my charts were far from picture perfect. i know there's a specific pattern your temps should take, but we all don't follow that pattern...so you're not the only one, believe me. there are always exceptions to a rule.
don't give up!!! it's a worthwhile pursuit! you may have a confusing chart, but that's not the end of the world. you just have to deal with things a little differently, that's all.
I'm sorry about what you are going through with the other ladies. They don't realize how difficult it is to be annovulatory. People are just mean sometimes, too. Don't let them take away your feeling of glee!! That's so exciting that you O'd, and even if it wasn't an O, it's still exciting that the possibility of O is there.
Personally, I haven't started charting, I'm afraid of what the charts may or may not reveal to me. Part of me likes to just be able to guess if I O'd. I commend you for taking that step, it's one that I haven't been brave enough to make myself.
Your chart isn't for their amuzement, it's so that you can become more knowledgeable about what is going on with you!! Don't let these mean spirited ladies get to you! I'm sure if you were to post your chart here ladies would be leaping with joy over your successes. We all understand where you are coming from.
Congrats on the potential O!!!!
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I feel so much better now. I swear I am about to quit that group. They are a bunch of temping divas. Like its the ONLY way to tell if youre ovulating.
I cringe to think how many O's I may have missed listening to these people. Im just going to avoid the messagebaords there and chart how I want to. And I can block my chart from everyone but the mods so Im going to.
You know, it never ceases to amaze me how thoughtless and insensative some people can be... instead of making me feel optimistic, they make me feel like theres no hope. And I know there is.
I cringe to think how many O's I may have missed listening to these people. Im just going to avoid the messagebaords there and chart how I want to. And I can block my chart from everyone but the mods so Im going to.
You know, it never ceases to amaze me how thoughtless and insensative some people can be... instead of making me feel optimistic, they make me feel like theres no hope. And I know there is.
How rude of them! I suggest you do just that, don't listen to them at all! They are just putting you down, hun. Just track your own progress and if it says you might O then assume there is a chance and dont waste it!! Good luck TTC!
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I would "think" that someone who had no problems getting pregnanat would not be as educated on charting. I know that charting never came into my life until I was ready to get serious. On the other hand they most likely are charting to AVOID pregnancy as you mentioned. Don't let them get you down! Bah Humbug on them =) I'd be happy to look at your chart and see if we can figure something out. Your not out until the ugly witch shows up!!!! Good Luck cysters. Sticik to talking with us were the nicest if I do say so myself!
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It amazes me how these groups ( present company excluded of course) are set up in order to support an aid women in their pursuit of their goals, be it pregnancy, weight loss, whatever and there are still mindless morons who feel the need to point out other peoples failings and put others down. Whether they do it to feel superior, or maybe in some hidden region of their mind they think they're being helpful by pointing out these things, it'd be nice if just for once, they'd engage their brain before opening their mouths.
Anyway, you know you can always tell us whats going on and we'll celebrate right along with ya!
Congratulations on the O, and I wish you the best of luck with TTC.
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First of all, thank you everyone for all the words of encouragement, relation, and support. I have need that more than I can express!
Heres something you will never believe (or maybe you will). I changed my charting method with the online group from advanced to OPK monitor so that the software can better detect my O through OPK's. All the moderators insist that the only/best way to use the software is with the advanced setting. I figured on them, I need to do what works for me, so I left it on the OPK monitor. Sometime during the holiday the mods changed it back to advanced and sent me a private message that they had changed it back for my "best interests" . Oh was I P'd off!! I changed it to OPK and sent them a message telling them to leave my settings where I want them. I said how dare you change it without my permission. I told them that I pay to use the software and that It was MY choice how I wanted to use it. I told them not to do it again. They responded by telling me that if I was not going to listen to thier "expertise" then dont bother asking them anything, and I was on my own. Like I am the one who's wrong! Heh... fine bunch of people huh?
Btw-
For anyone who is interested heres the link to my chart...
I too have "anovulatory" really strange cycles that can range anywhere from 36 days to 6 months. Went to an RE to try and get PG...and we ended up going through 1 1/2 years of infertility treatments where he would try and make me "o" on CD14. I know my body...and it doesn't like to "o" before CD 20-21...so I just kept charting. Finally left the RE...and 2 cycles later...here I am PG again.
DON'T let anyone tell you that you're anovulatory...and that it won't work for you...you know better than anyone what's going on with your body...and it's not up to anyone else to judge your charts.
Trust me on the fact that I had less than stellar charts...and I was told that I wasn't ovulating at all...well...if I'm not ovulating...then how did I get pregnant?
It only takes 1 egg...that's all you're aiming for...good luck...and keep charting for yourself!
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I am so angry 
And feeling quite stupid. I belong to a fertilty group where we can chart online. And theres quite a few women there who arent ttc, but using the site to make sure they dont cuz they dont want any more children. One has 4 kids and another has 2 (also they are functioning normally, no PCOS or anything) and they feel the need to always tell me how confusing and inaccurate my charts are. Well after at least 10 years of being anovulatory I FINALLY got a O date on my chart. I was so excited, and I posted my glee. All they (again) said was how confusing my chart is and how I probably didnt O. I am so angry. Maybe I didnt really O but I needed to see that O there. I am so on the verge of giving up. Now I am doubting my chart and starting to think maybe I am wrong, and I didnt O. And Im feeling dumb cuz I let these women get me down so I am second guessing things. Am I being a fool here?
I feel so much better now. I swear I am about to quit that group. They are a bunch of temping divas. Like its the ONLY way to tell if youre ovulating. 
Good luck TTC! 
on them, I need to do what works for me, so I left it on the OPK monitor. Sometime during the holiday the mods changed it back to advanced and sent me a private message that they had changed it back for my "best interests" 
. Oh was I P'd off!! I changed it to OPK and sent them a message telling them to leave my settings where I want them. I said how dare you change it without my permission. I told them that I pay to use the software and that It was MY choice how I wanted to use it. I told them not to do it again. They responded by telling me that if I was not going to listen to thier "expertise" then dont bother asking them anything, and I was on my own. Like I am the one who's wrong! Heh... fine bunch of people huh? 
