I can't stand it any longer...

JoJo1793 · 10-19-2005, 02:17 PM

I am at my breaking point. I don't know what I am going to do.. I am so depressed that I am not sleeping at all. I thought things were getting better, but instead they have gotten worse. I really need some prayers and good vibes.

A little background, my husband's job had layoffs in May and then things seem to be going good for the company. But DH was still looking for a job, just in case. I went to work to help out with things. Because even though he didn't get layed off he had to take a 10% pay cut, which really hurts. Things were looking good and I had even started not feeling so depressed.

Then saturday night I was walking my dog and I fell twisting my ankle, well I just thought it was a bad sprain, turns out I broke my ankle. Well when your job is in retail you can't stand on a temporary cast all day, so I had to explain to my boss that I couldn't work this week. She was fine with that. Ok so still not worried, I go on Monday to have the boot put on so I can walk on my ankle and I can go back to work.

Well last night we got the call that I wish that I never had to receive. The company is having layoffs again and this time my husband will be one of them. I can't stop crying. I really don't know what we are going to do. Right now I can't even breathe. I am so afraid of what will happen. I don't know how much more I can take. This past year has been so bad for us that I just don't feel like living if this is how life is going to continue to be. Oct. 28 lost our dear sweet baby, Nov. 18 lost my grandfather that means the world to me, Feb. 18 lost my grandmother that was my best friend. Now Oct. 18 my DH finds out he is going to lose his job this week.

I know that I should be grateful for the things that we do have but right now I just can't be.

Thanks to anyone that has read this..

Jen K · 10-19-2005, 02:39 PM

Wow. You're really going through a tough time now - there's no doubt about that. Hang in there. I don't really have any useful advice other than to try to keep your chin up.

Jen K

AndreaInHouston · 10-19-2005, 02:42 PM

You know, I can't change anything, but I wanted to send you a huge hug and some p&pts. Let's hope that something even BETTER comes along for your DH and your ankle heals quickly!
Keep us posted!

dna · 10-19-2005, 02:53 PM

{{{ hugs }}} So sorry you are having a rough time Jo

Keep your chin up,
Amy

Penelope Pitstop · 10-19-2005, 06:31 PM

Hi
I'm really sorry your having a bad time.. I know how worrying it can be when hubbie faces redundancy, I recently had to through the same thing. My husband works for shell's IT dept in Manchester uk. As the trend is sending call centres to India to cut costs shell decided to follow suit and Kim was going to be redundant from end of April 05 however ashe speaks 5 languages besides English on the last day was offered a job doing specialist language support in other department..I remember the panic I felt as I didn't know how we were going to manage so I took another job luckily I kept it because Kim came home today saying they're going to do study on out sourcing the language support which if successful will close department down in 12 -18 months so we're going to go through it again.. I also understand how your injury is getting on top of you I'm going through same feeling regarding health issues

All the best
Take care of yourself

Becs

nicole47 · 10-19-2005, 10:23 PM

It sounds like you're having a terrible time right now! You have all my deepest sympathy and I hope things start looking up for you very soon.

It's terrible that you've lost so many family members, but think about the wonderful memories you have with them and how lucky you were that they were in your life for as long as they could be. You will always carry a part of them with you.

Your husband getting laid off is just a temporary set-back. He will get a new job, and although (if I'm remembering correctly from class) Canada's unemployment benefits are not high, they last a long time. You should still have healthcare too. You WILL bounce back.

*sends good vibes* Here's hoping for a better, brighter, tomorrow! (And a healing ankle.)

JoJo1793 · 10-20-2005, 12:38 AM

I just wanted to thank each one of you for your well wishes.. They mean so much to me at this time.

I am still crying all the time, I really am trying to stop but I can't. I do have a little bit of good news. I was able to get an appointment with a Doctor thru a friend, so I am going tomorrow to have the different cast put on. Thank goodness now maybe I can get back to work.

Also, Eric has a phone interview tomorrow morning at 10. So I am hoping that things will go really well with that. It is with a company that one of his best friends since age 5 works for and Mike has been working for them since the company started 10 years ago. So Mike told him that he stood a very good chance of getting the job. But one never knows.. He was also informed of another job by a family member that may pan out too.

About our unemployment yes it does last longer but if they do a temp layoff he won't be able to draw anything for 3 months which is really bad. We will have to move from our apartment because we won't have enough money to pay bills for that long. I think that he is going to ask them for a permant layoff, which they will have to pay him severace pay if he takes that. But who knows with this company if they will even have the money for that..

So please keep me in your thoughts as I try to work thru this.. I am so scared of what is going on in my head...

Penelope Pitstop · 10-20-2005, 06:20 AM

Hi I'm glad you've had something positive happen..I really hope the phone interview goes well!!

mrsteddy · 10-20-2005, 06:47 AM

Hang in there JoJo, it sounds to me like you are coping, probably much better than you realise! You sound very strong. I will pray for you. And remember when things are this bad and you're at rock bottom, the only way to go is UP!! Things'll get better. Hugs.

JoJo1793 · 10-20-2005, 10:59 PM

Thank you both so much.. Your thoughts mean more to me than you can ever realize..

The appointment with the doctor didn't go very well, he wants me to NOT return to work full time until my ankle does some healing on its on. I have another appointment monday morning so I am going to beg him to let me work.

Eric's interview went very well she told him that he is quailfied for two positions and that she had already forwarded his resume on to one of the Managers. His friend told him tonight that he knew that Eric was going to be called back for a second interview. Please let's pray that he gets this job. The other job they are discussing with him, but it is a Jr Level position so it will mean almost a 15,000 pay cut. But it would be a lot better than unemployment at this point and there is room to grow at this job. I just pray that he will get something. So far there still hasn't been the lay off yet. I am dreading that so much.. I don't know how Eric will take that part.

Please keep us in your prayers because tomorrow will be a very hard day and I really hope that I will be able to make it..

Thanks again to both of you..

Celie · 10-21-2005, 12:34 PM

This to shall pass, I will keep in my prayers, and I hope everything works out for you!

JoJo1793 · 10-21-2005, 06:50 PM

Well the Layoff is official now. His boss told him that this was the hardest thing that he had ever had to do at work, as Eric has became like a family member to him. Eric asked him for the severence and he said that he didn't see an issue with it, but he would have to talk to the CEO of the company. I already know that we are going to have to fight for this.

Just for a little background on this company. Eric's father and Eric's Boss started this company 10 years ago. Eric was the first person that they hired, this company growed and they then decided to bring in a smooth salesperson. He was so smooth that he actually worked his way into buying into the company, then he talked them into letting him be the CEO. Well he was using the company as his own personal piggy bank. Eric's dad decided that he wanted out, They were supposed to pay him so much every quarter until his part was bought out, well the CEO keeps telling him that they can't pay him anything. So this week they decided to do the layoff and what is so bad they get rid of Eric who is their only IT person and he has been with the company for 10 years. They kept the CEO's girlfriend who has been with the company maybe 4 years and she doesn't do anything. Am I bitter... Yeah I am... Right now I would love to see the CEO and tell him exactly what I think..

So please keep us in your prayers.. Because we are going to really have a hard time.. But we will make it through all of this somehow...

Hugs to everyone that has taken the time to read this..

10-21-2005, 07:39 PM

Jo, sending some wishes from the UK for you...

Penelope Pitstop · 10-22-2005, 09:15 AM

Hi Jojo

I'm really pleased that Eric's telephone interview went well and that his friend thinks he'll be called for a 2nd interview, it sounds really positive I'm sorry to read how his family business deteriorated and that his dad wanted out..Its a real shame that he isn't able to get the money he is obviously owed and entitled to..
Try not to worry about your work.. The doctor would suggest you had time off, if he didn't think it was neccessary and its better to be safe than sorry otherwise you may have further problems..

I Wish Eric well in his interview, let us know how he gets on.
Take care

((HUGS))

Becs