I don't know if this is the right place but....

Sally_raine · 05-21-2006, 07:50 PM

Hey guys,
I'm a newbie here and was not quite sure where to post this. My current partner has PCOS and though i am also female im finding it hard to understand exactly what she's coping with. We've been going out for around three months and so far she's been pretty open about the condition and the ways in which it affects her. My problem is that I am not sure about how to provide adequate support for her. I myself have had several ob/gyn problems in the past but i feel that PCOS is something which i have little understanding of. I have been trying to educate myself about the condition and its implications but I would really like to get an opinion from an impartial (so to speak) party. I don't want to push her into telling me things she is not ready to reveal but any ladies out there who would be willing to give me some insight into how best to support her would be most welcome.
Thanks
Sally
x

RainbowLez · 05-24-2006, 03:18 PM

Well, there are all different kinds of reasons, complications, problems.What kind of symptoms does she have??On this website you can find alot of information and we also have a chat room just come on in and ask away.Everybody here is like family.We ask eachother everythin including advice n our problems.So hunnie, Good luck and come on in and ask questions...

LeelaR · 05-26-2006, 03:01 PM

There's also the "family" section of the boards. It's great that you're doing the research to be supportive--it can be so hard to deal with this condition alone. Welcome!

Aliya · 05-29-2006, 11:49 PM

I am really happying that youa re taking the time to figure out how to help her. I think that the best way to understand her is to get a better understanding of PCOS. The more you know, the better it will be. Talking helps a lot. I know that with me my biggest problem was weight and not having kids. My partner helped me by doing research and being there when I wanted to talk

cjboo1 · 05-31-2006, 01:53 AM

I know that it made me feel alot better when my DH offered to bring home books on PCOS and because weight is an issue for me i'm starting the South Beach diet this coming week, and he's going to go on it with me. Just the little things like telling me how pretty i am and how much he loves me helps me alot. So just the little things help alot (atleast with me) Hope this helps.

Fyn_Hubby · 05-31-2006, 02:58 PM

I've found the little things to be the biggest help too.

Just let her know how much you care about her, how much you like spending time with her, and how good she looks.

Compliments are key in raising my wife's spirits. And sincerety is the key to keeping it that way.

kimstagg · 06-05-2006, 02:34 AM

I have to say, your current partner is lucky to have you. As long as you stay supportive, that's the biggest thing you can do for her. As others have said, keep up on the boards and read around for different things people deal with. When she brings it up, ask questions if you're both comfortable. Also, tell her you want to support her and ask her what the best way to do that is. Kudos to you! Good luck.

firefighters wife · 07-12-2006, 05:40 PM

I think it is so cool that u r doing this!!!! My DH has been understanding but hasn't really researched it with me. But, my girlfriend also has pcos. She has been very uncomfortable in previous relationships because of her symptoms (facial hair, overweight, etc). But since I obviously have a pretty good understanding of pcos she is very comfy with the issue now. So IMO, the more informed u become and support her the more comfy she will become.

BeckyS727 · 07-12-2006, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by firefighters wife

I think it is so cool that u r doing this!!!! My DH has been understanding but hasn't really researched it with me. But, my girlfriend also has pcos. She has been very uncomfortable in previous relationships because of her symptoms (facial hair, overweight, etc). But since I obviously have a pretty good understanding of pcos she is very comfy with the issue now. So IMO, the more informed u become and support her the more comfy she will become.

I couldn't agree more. Since my diagnosis, my DH has learned so much about what's going on in this body of mine that I'm still in shock. We were talking to his dad and step-mom on Father's Day about PCOS and he described everything that was going on with me and how it affects us - not me. There are still things that he doesn't understand (like how hard it is for me to lose weight), but for the most part, I think he's become a lot more understanding since he found out as much as he could about PCOS.