I went to the hospital today to meet the birthmothers social workers and see the baby, WELL, yesterday they told me he's not eating like he's suppose too and he probably would not come home today unless he started eating. He started eating yesterday pretty good and they said they had to do an ultrasound of the baby's head and that looked fine. SO WHAT HAPPENS I am on my way to the hospital and my social worker calls me and tells me the baby has something called floppy arms and his eyes are rolling down, up, to the sides and that should definately not be happening. SO I decide I'm not sure if I should accept this situation because now they want to keep him a few more days and have him checked out by the Neurologist and see what is really going on with him they said when he was first born he had respiratory distress, then was having a hard time with feedings and know this My little sister gets in the car after school today and says YOU GOT THE BABY and my mom tells her No she's not sure what she's going to do because he may be sick and my little sister says "WHAT KINDA MOTHER ARE YOU????" Me being upset already busts out crying and really questioning myself BUT is it wrong for me wanting to be sure I get a healthy baby. This will be my first child and I'm nervous I have been contemplating just accepting him and praying everything works out. I even held him and rocked him for along time today until they told me I had to leave so the specialist could take care of him. I feel so bad leaving him by himself I am thinking about calling the SW and telling her I want him.
What a heartbreaking situation. I am saying a prayer for you right now...you are not a bad mother...your concerns are completely understandable...PRAY and do what you feel is best.
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Oh wow...I'm so sorry you are going through this!!!! I will deffinately pray for you though!!!
Please don't take this in a judgemental way, but think of it like this....if you were having the baby out of your womb would you not accept him if he had problems? This is your baby, no matter who gave birth to him, he is your son. But I do understand where you are coming from...but hey you never know, it might be something quick that can be solved with some meds and he will be perfectly healthy, or this could be something that God is usuing for you and your family to learn or something of that sort....just pray real hard about!! Good luck!!
and I hope you don't mind but....
Lord Jesus I just pray right now that you touch babygirl in her decisions. I pray that you show her the path you want her to take and not just the path she wants to take. I pray that once she makes her decision that you make her confident in her choice and that whatever she chooses she knows it's for the best. I just pray Lord that you just touch this little boy right now. I pray that he will recover fully from whatever is causing these problems and that he will be back to normal in no time. I ask all these things in your name Lord, Amen!
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It definitly seems like a tough situation. We are due to adopt the baby in my sig once she is born. We have been fournate enough to go to Dr.s visit and bond with the baby before birth. I know if something were to be wrong with Bianca we would still adopt her due to the bonding we have already experienced(our adoption is private; we knew someone who knew someone kinda so we have been lucky)I'm not so sure what I would do in your situation. The thought of "nonone wanting" the baby boy is heartbraeking but then again if he is seeing a nurologist you really need to ask yourself if you are willing to parent a disabled child? What if you had actually given birth to him and he had these same issues? It's a tough call I'm here to talk if you wish. I remember your prior posts about the birthmother wanting to parent....maybe this is YOUR baby maybe God planned it this way...noone knows and noone can make the descision except you and DH. How does DH feel about it? GL keep us updated!
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I just wanted to add to the PP......I work in a hospital and you guys might already know this, but Neurologists visit a lot of people, anyone with any type of head injury or anything they "suspect" could be wrong, but that doesn't always mean that something IS wrong...just wanted to add that in. Trying to stay positiveo for ya
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Bella, 10 month old Kitty
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Prenatal Vitamins
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I don't know what to do !!!! 
My little sister gets in the car after school today and says YOU GOT THE BABY and my mom tells her No she's not sure what she's going to do because he may be sick and my little sister says "WHAT KINDA MOTHER ARE YOU????" Me being upset already busts out crying and really questioning myself BUT is it wrong for me wanting to be sure I get a healthy baby. This will be my first child and I'm nervous I have been contemplating just accepting him and praying everything works out. I even held him and rocked him for along time today until they told me I had to leave so the specialist could take care of him. I feel so bad leaving him by himself I am thinking about calling the SW and telling her I want him.
