A lot of women talk about hair on the their chin and under their neck. I haven't heard to many women talk about having facial hair on their cheeks. I am 100% Italian so my facial hair is very dark, lets just call it what it is, black. And I have it all over my face. I feel like a monkey and god knows I look like one. I have to shave my entire face and I haven't felt like a woman for somtime now. I have been using Vaniqa since september with some improvement, but not as much as I was hoping for though. I am just really at a lose with the whole shaving thing and not sure how much more I can take. Having facial hair has effected almost every aspect and direction of my life. My younger sister made a comment to me once, she said "you have had this (facial hair) for so long you would think you would be used to it by now." I have to say I think that was one of the stupidest things I have ever heard her say. How does a woman get used to having facial hair and having to shave everyday? But I guess I kinda have to forgive her because unless you have the problem and deal with it on a daily basis how could you possibly know what it's like and how to get used to it.
So I'm curious, if your facial hair is on your entire face, like mine is, how do you deal with the day to day stares, and snickering? (short of locking yourself in your house) Because I have been dealing with this for the last 20 years of my life and not once has it ever gotton any easier or any better. I am fighting a battle that I know I can't win.
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Gosh, I love your post. I feel you 100%. Well I'm blk and I have hair EVERYWHERE. On my chin, chest, face cheeks,butt cheek, between the butt cheeks, etc. lol. TMI, I know. lol. But I'm just keepin it real. I hate when women try to tell you somethin bout your facial hair and they have no idea what it feels like. Its a serious self esteem killer. I know I should probably be tryin to uplift you right now, but its so hard for me to do so when I feel where you comin from. I feel as you do and I'm goin through the same thing.
Only thing I'm doin right now, which I have posted everywhere, I promise you I'm not a spokesperson for this product, lol, but I use Sally Hansen hair remover and I tell myself everyday now "those who mind, don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
I have to tell myself this to keep from closing myself off from the people I love because I have facial hair. I mean this stuff could keep you totally hostaged if you let it. But hey you don't let it do it to you. I know that you feel like you look like a monkey but I'm pretty sure that you don't. lol. I find that as women we are harder on ourselves than others are anyway... And maybe these people are staring at you cuz you are starin at them. lol
I have hair on my face (coarse, black on my neck, chin, and slightly lighter on the cheeks and sideburns). I have light brown on my chest, black on my breasts and around my nipples, black on my stomach from the belly button down, and black on my arms. I am 75% Spanish, then some English and French. I luckily have not been teased. But I know, this ruins your self esteem. I usually don't look people in the eye unless they are specifically talking to me because I don't want to see if they're staring at my face and can see the 5'oclock shadow (which starts around 12pm). There are women who come to terms with this, and you'll see their posts on here, some who even enjoy shaving every morning with their hubbys. This I can't imagine. But I do try to talk myself up and tell myself that I am the INSIDE me, not the OUTSIDE me, and the inside me is what people love about me, and for whatever reason there are a lot of friends and family who love me (though I am too self-conscious about weight, hair, lack of experience to have a boyfriend). I actually used to be suicidal over this, but I haven't been for years now, so that right there is an improvement. I don't know, just my thoughts on the subject.
I can definately relate, however, I have a double edged sword with my hair. Being I am fair and my hair is blonde/red, it is still noticable, but not receptive to laser hair removal. I spend over $2000 for little to no results. I have hair on my entire face, arms, hands, knuckles, spots on my chest and back, belly, toes, I mean everywhere! I haven't got used to it and I have avoided things that I would love to do b/c I wouldn't be able to shave. My facial hair and the distress it causes has been a topic that I have sought counseling for because of how it has crushed my self-esteem and social activities. For example, I would love to go to a local outdoor concert that is 4 days long, but the only showers are in semi trailers and I can't shave in there. AHHH!! All I can say is that it sucks! I can say I have a wonderful husband who could care less about what hair is where, and he is a true jem, but it took me years to adjust to his acceptance. I am my own worst critic, well, we are our own worst critics! Hang in there, we are all in this!
A lot of women talk about hair on the their chin and under their neck. I haven't heard to many women talk about having facial hair on their cheeks. I am 100% Italian so my facial hair is very dark, lets just call it what it is, black. And I have it all over my face. I feel like a monkey and god knows I look like one. I have to shave my entire face and I haven't felt like a woman for somtime now. I have been using Vaniqa since september with some improvement, but not as much as I was hoping for though. I am just really at a lose with the whole shaving thing and not sure how much more I can take. Having facial hair has effected almost every aspect and direction of my life. My younger sister made a comment to me once, she said "you have had this (facial hair) for so long you would think you would be used to it by now." I have to say I think that was one of the stupidest things I have ever heard her say. How does a woman get used to having facial hair and having to shave everyday? But I guess I kinda have to forgive her because unless you have the problem and deal with it on a daily basis how could you possibly know what it's like and how to get used to it.
So I'm curious, if your facial hair is on your entire face, like mine is, how do you deal with the day to day stares, and snickering? (short of locking yourself in your house) Because I have been dealing with this for the last 20 years of my life and not once has it ever gotton any easier or any better. I am fighting a battle that I know I can't win.
Well, I'm one of those Kristen describes who have got used to it and now accept it. And yes, I do shave with my DH every morning.
So what makes it bearable? Well, let me try to tell you some of the things that I think make me think of it in a non-negative way:
I recognize that whether I like it or not, it's a reality.
I recognize it for what it is -- whether I like it or not, I've got moustache and beard growth that's the same as a guy's -- and I refer to it as my moustache and my beard.
Shaving with a men's-type electric razor is much less intimidating than using a wet razor -- and my Philips Norelco rechargeable razor can go into my purse very discreetly without any problem.
From the day he met me, DH has never been put off by the fact that I have to shave every day.
Our kids have accepted the fact that their mom shaves every day, just like dad does and will grow a beard if she stops shaving.
The male family friends who sometimes stay overnight with us and who I've told, have all been extremely nice about it and it certainly hasn't spoiled my relationship with them -- just the opposite, in fact.
I don't get stares and comments in ordinary life -- once I've shaved in the morning, no-one would guess that I've got male-type beard growth. The only time I get stares and comments is if I quite deliberately let my beard grow in when we're on vacation away from our own home area. Of course I see people staring them, but that's hardly surpising, because I've chosen to breach societal norms.
Shaving takes less time than cleaning my teeth -- it doesn't need to be a big deal.
As far as not feeling like a woman is concerned, I don't compete in a race I can't win, so I don't pretend that I'm very feminine. I don't even have properly-developed breasts and that used to worry me no end as a teenager. But I am a woman. I've got children to prove the fact. I dress in skirts and wear my hair long, to make sure there's no confusion as to my gender. And I know that I'm attractive to my DH. I'm a wife and a mother. I suspect that I'm more successful than most women in terms of having a good relationship with men is concerned. so I don't feel threatened by my relative lack of femininity.
i have hair all over my body too since i was about 6 and on my face since i was 11 even on my cheeks too my hair isn't really noticeable unless people stare under my chin but it is very thick and black and i'm only 17 the only time i get teased is not by guys but by stupid immature girls who don't understand anyways it used to get to me but not that much anyway sometimes i rather to let my beard grow and see how much people notices all i am saying is don't ever let it get to you because most people don't care
i know what you're going through i have had body hair since i was six and facial hair since i was 11 even on my cheeks a lot of it. i know how it feels to be depressed and self conscious but since i have been diagnosed with pcos i find it easier to cope i try not to spend all my time doting on it since that only makes it worse recently i have been living a happier life having fun with my friends and stuff the only thing i have to tell you is don't let it get to you don't ever let it get to you its not worth losing out the best things of life just be strong and have confidence most people don't care except the shallow type
I feel like a frickin monkey! 
