I got into a car accident 08/31 & it was MY fault

AmericanWoman · 09-02-2005, 03:23 PM

Hi Cysters,

I thought I'd pop in here and post a thread since a cyster & somebody else mentioned to me I am never posting in here anymore. I need more prayers so I thought I might ask for them.

411: On 08/31 going onto Civic from Harrison in Campbell, CA...I hit a gentleman's bumper. He has sore neck but seems ok. I have soreness in neck and back still but not as bad as yesterday. I was pretty shaken up.

I feel awful I hurt another human being, albeit unintentially. I also am scared selfishly of being sued since this is California.

Please pray for me and that guy also. Thank you.

HISIRISHGEM · 09-03-2005, 02:23 PM

Father, I take the time to prayer for my sister. We all know what its like to be in a bind. Father, these days I know far too much what its like to be in a bind. But I also know your promises to us. Help her to be faithful, to stand strong and remember who's in control. Help her to pray constantly, every time, every minute she fears her situation. I know it helps me to lose that fear I know so well. I ask that you would hug her and hold her and let her feel your love Father. Let her know she's not alone. Give her strength. Your word says, Let not your heart be troubled, you believe in God, believe also in ME. John 14:1, Be Anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts through Christ Jesus. Phil 4:6-7 Father, I pray that you will protect her over this situation. You know her heart and you know this was an accident. Protect her from possible fraud that sometimes happens, from court activity in CA, protect her heart her mind and her body I pray. Your word also says father, You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You. Isa.26:3,

Now May the God of hope fill you with all the joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Rom 12:12 In Jesus Mighty name I pray this for you my sister....Amen!

I remember you....and I'm glad to have you back. I'm on the boards on and off as well. I never forget a friend!

KlassicalKat · 09-03-2005, 03:08 PM

I am so sorry to hear about the accident! It can happen so quickly, before we even know it. I know what you mean about the fear of lawsuits here in California. In fact in the accidents I have been in (even in ones that were obviously not my fault) that is always my first concern...even over my own safety.

Keeping you and the man in prayer. I hope everything gets settled smoothly and that everyone will be all right with no lingering aftereffects.

Kathryn

Gunnie · 09-03-2005, 08:47 PM

I am so sorry this happened to you! I will be thinking about you and praying for you and the man you hit that you both have only minor injuries, and a simple repair is all that comes out of this! I know you didn't mean it, and also pray that the guilt will leave you.

Juana Baby · 09-05-2005, 05:01 PM

How are you doing?

laural

SnowFlower · 09-05-2005, 06:02 PM

said a prayer for you guys.. how are you now?

HISIRISHGEM · 09-06-2005, 02:23 AM

U There?? :O) We miss ya a whole lot!!

AmericanWoman · 09-07-2005, 11:36 PM

Hey there girls.

I was so touched, seeing prayers and concern.

I am doing ok. I go to a chiropractor and he tested me out pretty good today.

I am back to working out and my neck is releasing. It played a trick on me where it would tense up after I went to work.

I am trying to get over my guilt. I told the guy in person "I am sorry" and I was crying. He said "I know you don't mean to do bad" (he was Asian not sure which country but he had trouble with English and called his daughter to translate for the police). His daughter had a funny grin...surreal...which frightened me. I am pretty intuitive and I sensed her seeing dollar signs but my first concern was getting him care. I demanded the cops call somebody RIGHT NOW to help him

...they already were. The daughter's funny grin will never leave me. It was not even a "hey friendly" grin...

I guess I have to let this go. I have told him I am sorry. I am praying for him. I have told God and everyone I am sorry. My own license plate is banged up and needs to be replaced.

I am trying to regain the old Americanwoman self. It is a battle sometimes.

Thank you so much again.

You are all angels to me...

HISIRISHGEM · 09-08-2005, 05:03 AM

Don't Cry...God see's the good in you and that's all that matters right now! He will make everything right! Though not in an accident, I've been in a rough situation concerning work...I'm out of a job, the agency I worked for just awful and I've finally gotten my paycheck...took them 3 times to send it....abusive atmosphere at work...just terrible...but I got the check...EVEN THOUGH it took three times. I still made rent. God is good. He protected Doug and I. There's so much more I could tell you. Don't give up hope ok? He is so worthy to Trust! I promise!

AmericanWoman · 09-15-2005, 01:05 PM

Please Irish and others, say a little prayer for me if you can today. I am still feeling a bit low...I know I should buck up and all. Thank you so much.

KlassicalKat · 09-15-2005, 01:49 PM

I will definitely keep you in my thoughts and prayers today. The mental and physical upheavel of dealing with the aftermath of ANY accident seems to linger longer than any of us expect it to. It's always bewildering and confusing. You have been through a lot and it is understandable to be feeling down about this.

How is that stiffness in your neck? I sure hope that there has been improvement. After I was rear ended by a hit and run driver about 8 yrs. ago, (my car was totalled, so I was lucky I wasn't hurt further), I had a stiff neck, but after a about 4 months, the pain and stiffness totally went away. While it was tender, I was amazed at how much I had taken for granted how often we use our neck muscles! It's frustrating to have that stiffness.

I hope there weren't any legal repercussions from the other party. That was really eerie to hear about the daughter's weird smile. What's up with that?

Please know that I am thinking of you and hoping for a good outcome on this. It does take time to get over such a profound experience. Just wanted to acknowledge this and assure you that things WILL get better!

Kathryn

tariana · 09-15-2005, 01:55 PM

I sent up my prayer just now for you.

MommyOAnna · 09-15-2005, 02:16 PM

{{{hugs}} Well it was scary for you, so I don't blame you for feeling that way. {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

Praying they will be honest, and that you are all ok, AND that you have some peace of mind.

AmericanWoman · 09-15-2005, 02:50 PM

Thanks ladies. I just feel like a "big baby" since I was raised by my mom to just buck up and deal with things. It is nice to have permission to let it all hang out and whine.

~Lisa~ · 09-15-2005, 04:58 PM

Let me tell you a little story. When I was in high school I was leaving the homecoming dance with my boyfriend to go eat at McDonalds and then come back to the dance. I was such a cute tiny little thang back then

( I had to throw that in. lol) Anyways, my dad's good friend and neighbor that we talked to everyday was leaving the bar and thought he seen a cop and bailed into the road to get home in a hurry, we were on the highway leaving the school. So that means he cut right in front of us, well not really he hit us pushing us up on the other road. The guy I was with broke his ankles, I hurt my back really bad, my knees were all banged up. I didn't get to go back to school till after Christmas vacation, I had to retake English over it because I didn't turn in a final in time because of this accident (teacher was a meanie). I wouldn't walk right for a long time. I had just got a cast off just not even a month before from my thigh down when this accident happened and then I had to wear a brace, so here I was in a cast or brace for nearly 9 months. It was horrible. And ya know everyone was so mad at our neighbor because he was drunk and they just had it IN for him. But when I was laying there bleeding and heard it was him that hit us before the ambulance came ( I lost my memory for a while to couldn't even remember going to the homecoming game, etc) I wanted him to go get help for himself and he wouldn't he was pretty injured to but once he found outi t was me he wouldn't go. It is so sad to even think of today.

Anyways, this went on for 7 years with law suits (to his insurance) and I had to listen to how people were so mad at him. He had his license taken away, couldn't drive, had no vehicle, was so hurt by the fact of what he done, you could tell. He didn't go back to the bar, he was so ashamed and hurt, he was "paying" for it. I felt so sorry for him. I don't remember getting MAD at him at all. Because I know that yes he shouldn't of been out on the roads, but there sure are a lOT of people that get out and drink and drive and then they sure can talk someone down when they have a accident but don't think it can happen to them. I never told my neighbor that I never got mad at him, He doesn't know that I cried over him at night that I felt so sorry for "him" he doesn't know that I've prayed for him and what he's went thru. I wish he did.
Please don't blame yourself. The truth is "accidents" happen. We all come close to having things happen everyday. Don't let it get to you to the point that it's affecting the way you are. God knows your heart, he knows you feel bad, we all know you feel horrible about it and that you wish it had never happened. I'll keep praying for you and you just remember that God is on your side no matter what.