I hate when my DH touches my face!

Alliance · 07-07-2005, 01:51 PM

Or I hate it when he puts his hand under my chin. I say it tickles but it doesn't..I just don't want him to feel the hair there. I wish I could feel girly. I can't darn go camping b/c I have to pluck and wax my facial hairs..almost everyday.

PCOS.....I HATE YOU!

Bbabsy31 · 07-07-2005, 02:07 PM

I feel the same way...I feel bad because I try to duck him when he goes to touch my face....I know he just wants to caress my cheek or something but..............

girlie · 07-07-2005, 02:25 PM

That's why I shave....... I know it's a last resort, but I was so tired of waxing, plucking, bleaching constantly and still having hair. I think in this case the end justifies the means. It only takes a minute each day and it's smooth to the touch and I don't have to ever worry about missing one and someone see it. It's 10 times easier, faster and it takes care of all of it and hubby can touch away!

Chaque · 07-07-2005, 02:53 PM

I know this isnt going to make you feel any better, but he most likely loves you regardless of a little facial hair.

I have certain things I am self concious about and my husband always tried to tell me that they didnt matter. He still loved me, still thought I was beautiful, and still always wanted to touch me, etc.

To not be close to someone you love because of the hair is sad. I just wouldnt want you to feel like you were missing out on something. Have you talked to him ever about your concerns? Its surprising, but sometimes men can actually be helpful with stuff like that.

My husband has this thing where he loves to lick my face. It drives me absolutely insane!

Bbabsy31 · 07-07-2005, 02:57 PM

OMG! He licks my face too! I GO WILD when he does it and always tell him to stop it....I know he knows I have hair there and he always says it doesnt bother him.

Tiggamoo · 07-07-2005, 02:59 PM

I tend to move away when my chin could be touched. DH is understanding though. I just try to maintain my chin daily for my self-esteem if nothing else.

lovelyinkedlady · 07-07-2005, 03:25 PM

I just got home from a camping thing. For two weeks i grew out the facial hair to show the dr what was going on. It was he most biggest pay in the butt..........

I was whining about it and dh goes i love you just the same, it doesn't matter to me that you have it, i know why it's there, personally it's not as noticable to me as it is to you.

I know it's hard, and it's self conscience when it's there. But at some point we have to stop seeing the facial ahir as something bad. We all have light colored peach fuzz........So lets turn the hair in to something fun, something goofey, and stop making our selves feel bad and keeping up from doing fun things.

Your still beautiful. Just a little more special........

Tiggamoo · 07-07-2005, 04:29 PM

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Originally Posted by lovelyinkedlady

Your still beautiful. Just a little more special........

So true!

Sillie · 07-07-2005, 05:46 PM

I had facial hair very badly. It was all over my chin, cheeks, jawline, upper lip and sideburn area. I NEVER let DH touch my face, or anyone else for that matter. I NEVER hugged anyone because I didn't want them getting too close to the "foliage".

Last year, in prep for birthday number 40 I decided to go for broke and try the laser treatments. It took 7 treatments, but now I can hug, and be touched. I have the face of a girl again (ok, an old girl.....).

Now...if only I could get the hair on my head to grow back..........(sigh)

Laser isn't for everyone, but it worked a miracle for me. Look into it, see if it's right for you. You'll be glad you did.

sweetums · 07-08-2005, 02:17 AM

I would give anything for my husband to touch my face.

manders

tlcur107 · 07-08-2005, 05:23 PM

I'm the same way. I HATE it when anyone goes near my face. Especially my chin because of the hair. I have to shave every day, and I'm so self-conscious about it, even with DH. Maybe one day I'll get over it, but for now, I'm the same as you!

ah83 · 07-09-2005, 03:42 AM

I always wondered if I was the only one that felt this way...but its somewhat comforting to know I'm not. Although, it doesn't help me to get over it. I shave my neck and sideburns every day and by the evening you can definitely tell there's just something 'not right' about it. I could shave 2 times a day, i guess, but the razor burn isn't fun to deal with either. My b-day is coming up next month and i decided I'm going to drop many strong hints to my hubby about laser treatment. It would make me the happiest woman alive! It took me over a year to come out and talk about my facial hair with my husband. I'm so insecure about it and I thought that if I didn't tell anyone then no one would notice I had it. Iggnorance is bliss!

KatrinaAnne · 07-09-2005, 02:42 PM

((Big Hugs)) to all of my beautiful cysters! I wanted to write and tell you that I all know what you are going through and I now the feelings that you are all experiencing.

I know that many of you have probably read my posts about my Sweet Salem, the wonderful man that I am in a relationship with. Salem is so loving and often he goes to caress my face, which I love so very much...it is so romantic and so intimate. Sometimes he will put his hand underneath my chin when we are kissing or just to rub under my chin...and I love it so much, but I must admit that I get a little nervous because I know he may feel the roughness from the hair. I love Salem so very much that I have honestly tried to let him touch my chin..and I am training myself to allow him too. For a long time I thought "well maybe I can hide it," but this is not rational especially if I want to have Salem as my lifetime partner, which I do....so I came to the point where I want Salem to love me, all of me...even the hair under my chin. I do let Salem touch my chin and it is hard...but I am so happy that Salem has chosen to love me and have chosen me to love him. I try to put myself in his place and I think "what if Salem had a large scar under his chin, would it bother me to feel the roughness?" And the answer is no...because I love Salem for Salem...and I love all of him...and I would love all the parts and do love all the parts that make him unique. I figure that if I love Salem that much that nothing about him physically would ever bother me, then most likely he feels the same way...and I really think he does...and I thank God for that everyday...and I am so blessed to have him in my life.

I just wanted to tell you hun that you are not alone....and when your significant other tries to touch your face they are trying to be loving and romantic, and that is so sweet in its self. It is such a liberating feeling to let someone touch your chin, especially when you are so insecure. What is even more liberating is knowing that the person you love knows all about you and loves you anyways...that is a beautiful thing.

I love you girls so very much...::Hugs:: Know you are all beautiful!

girlie · 07-09-2005, 05:34 PM

Wow Katrina! Yet again, you blow me away. It's so true that if our SO had some type of flaw that we'd easily overlook it. But for some reason it's hard for us to beleive they will overlook ours. Thanks for putting it all in perspective once again. You are such a blessing to me.

amanda_gail_81 · 07-09-2005, 06:09 PM

Katrina, you said my every thought...but so much more beautifully than I ever could have.