I'm at a loss for words

Goddess Hectate Help · 04-22-2009, 09:11 PM

I've posted on here that I've been struggling a lot with my life with hair issues (mainly loss which started at 17) and so many other things.. My family hasn't been understanding about the whole PCOS issue at all and they've decided to throw a party this sunday for someone getting married.. I don't really want to be seen because I don't want anyone to comment on my appearence.. I feel so UGLY and I haven't feeling very well.. SO many things have happened and I finally got into a fight with my mother and blurted out that I was molested and so was my cousin my grandfather when I was a child.. She's already stressed about her job and my sickness she just completely had a breakdown and started crying... I didn't expect this reaction from her and I'm not sure if she's going to be OKAY..

I'm really concerned.. my health is going terribly (I have more issues then just PCOS) honestly all I wanted was for her to cancel the party bc these people are so judgemental.. I've already been feeling like life is worthless and having been crying for days non-stop... I didn't mean for this to come out and now she's hurt.. I wonder if something happens to me what will happen to her.. I'm really concerned, can anyone please help me?

bloodorchid · 04-23-2009, 02:32 AM

i don't really have any great advice, i just wanted to lend my support :/ i know how it feels to not want to be around people, maybe on the day of the party you can go out for a while and do things on your own

smshelton24 · 04-23-2009, 12:51 PM

Oh honey.Gentle hugs if that's okay. I'm a rape survivor of 4 years. The moment I told my mother was hard and I can only imagine who you feel now if you were not planning on telling her. I can also understand not wanting to be around people, I remember the first time I was standing there having a conversation with someone when they're young daughter walked up and announced, "you have a mustache..and you're getting a beard." I wanted to die. Her mother tried to politely apologize but the damage had already been done. I felt like a freak, and that really affected my ability to be around other people.

I can't offer advice only to say, it will be okay. It will take time for your mother to process this and she may follow the same steps as mourning a loss but after some time, it will be okay. Just be open to talk to her about it when she asks.

Goddess Hectate Help · 04-25-2009, 01:12 PM

Thanks for the advice girls, I told her, she was upset but hasn't really talked about it since. She's still having the party, despite my efforts to try and get her to cancel it.. It just really upsets me that she's so not understanding.. I look horrible because of this disease that no one else knows that I have.. Frankly I'm sick of the trash talk and looks.. I don't want to see anyone.. It's tomorrow and now I have no idea what to do.. I just don't understand how people can be so heartless after everything I've gone through esp my mother because she knows..

smshelton24 · 04-25-2009, 09:55 PM

I can completely see where you would be upset. We as women rely on our mothers for a great deal of support. When we find the courage to share our weakness, whether something physical like PCOS or Endo or something emotional like insecurity due to hair loss or growth, its tough to feel disregarded. I'm sorry you're struggling, hun. Try not to let your mind get away with you, although I know that part is way hard, let yourself have a good time and try to take a moment and be happy.

Goddess Hectate Help · 04-30-2009, 11:27 PM

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Originally Posted by smshelton24

I can completely see where you would be upset. We as women rely on our mothers for a great deal of support. When we find the courage to share our weakness, whether something physical like PCOS or Endo or something emotional like insecurity due to hair loss or growth, its tough to feel disregarded. I'm sorry you're struggling, hun. Try not to let your mind get away with you, although I know that part is way hard, let yourself have a good time and try to take a moment and be happy.

Thanks for your kind words.. I forgot to say this earlier but I'm truly sorry for what happened to you.

smshelton24 · 05-01-2009, 08:24 AM

No problem, hun. Where would we girls be if we didn't support each other??

SugarComa · 05-01-2009, 09:36 PM

If you don't mind me asking, how did the party go?

I hope it went well

Goddess Hectate Help · 05-09-2009, 06:38 PM

^lmao I took medication, went to my room and stayed asleep.. wasn't feeling well

smshelton24 · 05-10-2009, 06:39 PM

Wow, all that fretting girl and you got a good nap out of the deal..

Goddess Hectate Help · 07-03-2009, 01:06 PM

I know but now we're having people over again and I don't know what to do.. It's bad enough to have this disease but being badmouthed by other people makes it ten times worse..

Tina Castle · 07-05-2009, 04:53 AM

My family is pretty non-supportive of my PCOS also. They just don't get it. I'm a victim of child molestation (I was molested by my cousin at age 5 and he was 16).

I feel like I've been dealt a crappy card and to have people make fun of the weight that I just can't lose or the hair growing on my chin makes it ten times worse.

One year my sister threw herself a birthday party at our house (it was her 17th and I was 19 at the time) and she 'accidentally' didn't invite me. There were fireworks. I ended up going off on her in front of all her friends and spoiled the whole thing. I honestly don't regret it because I was tired of people walking all over me like that.

Her friends think I'm crazy and I don't give a damn. Those skinny beyotches know not to mess with me now.

I think you've taken the high road by just tuning them out and getting your rest. At this up coming get together do the same thing.

I hope everything goes well for you.

Goddess Hectate Help · 07-05-2009, 02:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Tina Castle

My family is pretty non-supportive of my PCOS also. They just don't get it. I'm a victim of child molestation (I was molested by my cousin at age 5 and he was 16).

I feel like I've been dealt a crappy card and to have people make fun of the weight that I just can't lose or the hair growing on my chin makes it ten times worse.

One year my sister threw herself a birthday party at our house (it was her 17th and I was 19 at the time) and she 'accidentally' didn't invite me. There were fireworks. I ended up going off on her in front of all her friends and spoiled the whole thing. I honestly don't regret it because I was tired of people walking all over me like that.

Her friends think I'm crazy and I don't give a damn. Those skinny beyotches know not to mess with me now.

I think you've taken the high road by just tuning them out and getting your rest. At this up coming get together do the same thing.

I hope everything goes well for you.

Tina I'm so sorry.. I'm a victim of child molesation as well I can't recall what age it began but it lasted for awhile and stopped around the age of seven or eight I think* so I know how you feel.. I'm convinced that's why I have PCOS and other issues.. I've read that when your exposed to something like that at a young age it can mess up your hormones..

Tina Castle · 07-05-2009, 10:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Goddess Hectate Help

Tina I'm so sorry.. I'm a victim of child molesation as well I can't recall what age it began but it lasted for awhile and stopped around the age of seven or eight I think* so I know how you feel.. I'm convinced that's why I have PCOS and other issues.. I've read that when your exposed to something like that at a young age it can mess up your hormones..

There must be a psychological connection between the two. Both my sister and my mother were victims of sexual abuse by outside family members, but they've gone on to conceive successfully several times.

All they can tell me is to get over it, but of course talk like that has never really helped anyone.