I'm not sure if we should try one more time for another child?
Everytime we lose one we say one more try. Now DH is saying no more, the big "V" is happening. The truth is I dont want ANOTHER baby, I want all of the ones we have lost. That is not possible so where does that leave me? Another baby will not fill the hole from the losses. I guess more time will reveal the plan God has fo rus. I am still so confused.
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I am so sorry. I felt like you did and that was after 3 losses, and it took me a little while but I realized that what I wanted was to be a mom. After DH & I agreed on that we looked into adoption, but you have to do what is right for you, and don't let anyone else try to tell you what that is.
It does take time - - I realized that I had 2 holes - one was for my missing babies and one was for motherhood. It took me several months to realize that.
Remember your cysters are here when you need us.
Kath
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((Sweets)). I'm sorry. No baby can replace the ones you've lost, and future Mommyhood will be bittersweet.
Ignore my opinion if you like - I won't be offended. I think it's too soon after this loss for your hubby to make such a huge decision. Is it possible that he might wait until the grief isn't so fresh? I understand he's hurting, and all he wants to do is avoid feeling this way again...but it seems to me that you two need to be on the same page for the big V to be a valid option. Just my two cents.
Thanks. What you say makes total sense. I am feeling a little better today and like time is actually the answer to the decision. I am with you Viv, my doc won't discuss MY options for a while. I also told my husband that the chances of us getting pregnant on our own are so slim that he could tell me he had the "V" and not really do it. At least then I would relax on the am I pg or am I not pg thinking. I would assume that I was not pg at all times.
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Jesus said, "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these."
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Walk America in 2007 in memory of my little Jackson. Go to walkamerica.org/sweetsmom to support me.
I also agree that it is too early to make any type of decisions for eitehr you or dh.
I know another baby will not replace the others but a baby in your life will go a long way in helping to heal the hurt and emptiness.
Wait a while before you decide what to do.
((HUGS))
I'm not sure if we should try one more time for another child? 
