I'm sooo hurt?...angry...

dakotabluebaby · 12-05-2008, 10:49 PM

I'm not even sure what I feel anymore. I just found out my sister is PG with number 2. That would make her 1st and 2nd 13 months apart.

Now just a little background, my sister has had 3 abortions and 1 miscarriage. she lives in an apartment with her husband, does not work (or cook or clean) and her DH works very hard, but doesn't make enough. They can't afford a house and are currently on Wic. Her and her husband got married 1 1/2 years ago....found out they hadn't been paying very may of there bills and owe the electric company a lot of money.

I have been with my DH for 5 1/2 years. Own my own home, both of us work enough to pay our bills, wouldn't qualify for any government assistance, any want a child....we are trying to do foster care and have been in the process for a YEAR now.

I'm....shocked,

And what makes it worse, the baby is due right around my birthday and my sister said she hopes the baby isn't like me because it would be horrible for a second child, I WAS 2ND! ...I'm a Leo by the way

AND her 1st pregnancy, I was at ever appointment her DH couldn't make (which was most because he had to work....I can not do that this time. It was hard enough as it was!

suzi_anne25 · 12-07-2008, 04:09 AM

I suggest that you channel your frustrations and energy into working on just on yourself, and your relationships.. we're all dealt different cards in life, so comparing is not likely the best solution. You're having a bad day, bad time, and if you move away from the negative feelings and give thanks for all the good in your life and the great future you have ahead of you, you'll have a different perspective. Peace to you

SoSilly · 12-07-2008, 04:09 PM

Gosh that is so difficult. I have many friends who have been in similar situations. It's simply not fair. I work in the maternity ward at a local hospital and the many times I see women come in who are on drugs and have their babies addicted to those drugs already or family situations where the baby is not appreciated... it just kills me. That's probably not a fair way of thinking either but I'm human. I am so sorry. It sounds like your sister is trying to pour salt on an open wound, especially by the comments she is making and even by having you attend doctor appointments. You can only do so much. I agree with the previous poster in that you should try to channel your frustrations on your own accomplishments. Sometimes we don't know why God makes us wait as long as He does, but in the end, there's always a reason. I know that's hard to come by now, as you've been so patient, but hang on a little longer. It WILL all work out. And you should be very proud and happy with yourself that you're not the type of person your sister is. It sounds like she leads a very unhappy life.

molly1234 · 12-09-2008, 12:01 AM

i know exactly how you feel! i see girls from highschool who had multiple abortions with kids now, my SIL has 2 kids and is always pawning them off to someone because she is to busy to raise them herself and holestly i don't think they appreciate what they have because it came so easy for them....pisses me off really! also all my friends around me are getting pregnant for the 2nd or 3rd time and i am thinking to myself...what did i do to diserve this? i am obvously being punished for something...everytime i think i am taking a step forward with my treatment i take 3 steps back.
anyway did your sister really mean it when she said she hopes it isn't like you? because if that is the case maybe you can remind her of that the next time she needs you to go to a doc appt with her!