We have one gorgeous son thru international adoption
We are in the waiting stage for a domestic adoption referral.
In another year we will be almost in the waiting stage for a China adoption.
So we are in the same stage as you are, although around here I am not getting my hopes up that we will get presented with a baby like we asked SO...we are waiting moreso for our daughter from China.
If you need any hints on waiting lemme know
Amy
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We are waiting too! We submitted our paperwork in March. We haven't even started our homestudy but that's because our agency can push it through if a situation comes up. We adopted our first born domestically through the same agency. We are NOT in any hurry for our second because Erin is only 22 months old. We just thought we'd get our paperwork in--just in case it takes awhile.
Good luck to you! Find ways to occupy your time so that it goes by a little quicker. That will be easier to do now that Spring is here!
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I haven't been to this forum in a looong time, and so when I clicked on over here, this thread spoke to me.
Hubby and I had been homestudy approved since 2/04, and presented with a 7 mo/old right then. We are one of many. While they have been deciding (still deciding!) we have asked about 6 other children. All placed or no longer accepting homestudies.
The 7 mo/old now 9 mo/old won't be placed until she is 12 mos old we just found out today. Why? She was an abandoned infant and her atty wants to wait the entire 12 mos to make sure. SIGH! So waiting with a little one in mind....
I'll take those hints on waiting! I will surely learn patience through this process!!
--Our Adoption Journey--
Failed match, 9 month old b/g twins-12/04
Matched again on 1/05
Baby girl born 3/4/05
Her mom decides to parent 3/10/05
Matched again 4/05
Baby girl born 10/7/05
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Thinking of starting this crazy process all over again for #2!
--Our Adoption Journey--
Failed match, 9 month old b/g twins-12/04
Matched again on 1/05
Baby girl born 3/4/05
Her mom decides to parent 3/10/05
Matched again 4/05
Baby girl born 10/7/05
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Thinking of starting this crazy process all over again for #2!
1) make a quilt (I did)
2) start journalling your wait and how you are feeling about your future child
3) scrapbooking
4) get out there and talk to other new/old moms
5) research playgroups and mom & tot things in your neighbourhood
6) have date nites with your hubby (even if all your do is talk about your waiting you are still talking about your feelings)
7) have fun ! research baby strollers and car seats and all the gear you will need depending on the age of your child
I guess my point is waiting is about finding yourself and thinking about your child. I would never suggest anyone forget about their child while waiting and take your mind off of it I think this time is very important EVEN THOUGH IT SUCKS
HTH.
or at least holds you for a day or two
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Amy you are awesome. Those are all really great suggestions. So far DH and I have decided that this is our last chance to do what ever we want when ever we want. So we have been eating out a lot, going to movies, mountain biking... anything that would require planning for more 5 minutes. In itself, that has been a lot of fun!
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30 years old/ DH 27 -- Married 12/16/2000
Dx PCOS 09/2000 - Janumet 50/50
And 3 sons thru the MIRACLE of Adoption
Austin (7), Andrew (8), Anthony (9)
We are adopting internationally from Panama (a brand new program, very rocky and the wait time is still unknown).
We are getting our dossier apostilled (state verifying the notaries) Monday and turning in our dossier Tuesday. It will be overnighted to Panama.
Then we sit back and wait...and wait...and wait for a referral (then hope we get to keep the referral because Panama doesn't TPR before they give referrals!)
More suggestions: Don't forget you can do home improvement projects or start working on the nursery/kid's room while you wait. We've already done a lot of that before our homestudy was even complete, but we plan on doing more to keep ourselves occupied as best we can. I may get a temp job and hubby may try to snag some OT to help save up money, too.
Let the wait begin! (but hurry with the referral! haha)
Robin
Hey Robin... wow sounds pretty cool, scary, and ground breaking . Did ask for anything in particular, age? gender? sibling group?
We just got a call from our SW that the homestudy that we finished up back on the 12th, has been all completed on her end also. Everything has been signed, sealed, and delivered so to speak. She wanted to let us know that she was sending it out to other SW's to see what is out there right now, and that there was a lead or two that she was going to look into before she even presented it to us... so more waiting.
DH and I decided right after our homestudy meeting that we needed a vacation... so starting on Saturday or Sunday we are heading to the beach to have a little rest and relaxtion and not go back to work till the following Thursday...
Ahhhhhh, let the waiting begin.
Boy, while I wouldn't wish this waiting on anyone else... I'm glad to know that I'm not alone.
__________________ Stephanie
30 years old/ DH 27 -- Married 12/16/2000
Dx PCOS 09/2000 - Janumet 50/50
And 3 sons thru the MIRACLE of Adoption
Austin (7), Andrew (8), Anthony (9)
At first we put in for two children (siblings or not) a boy and girl, from 0 to 24months. Then we were kinda led away from that by several social workers and our agency caseworker, they gave us a lot to think about; even tho I was very angry with them for a while for making me think about not going for two at once when I wanted two so badly. After much prayer (and frankly re-examining our adoption budget) we decided to go ahead and pursue a singleton.
We are going for a boy 0-12 months, light to medium skin (Hispanic or Hispanic-White or some other mixed combo). When we pay off this loan in 5yrs, we'll go back for our daughter.
No, Stephanie, you are not alone. We have all been through it or are going through it now.
DNA had some good suggestions. I agree! Go to the baby stores and look around. That is so much fun. I also crocheted a baby blanket during our wait. That helped to keep me occupied but also I was thinking about how the baby would look wrapped up in the blanket. I loved her suggestion about journaling your feelings before the baby arrives. I wish I had done that. I saw on "Adoption Stories" that an adoptive mother journaled and also wrote a letter to her adopted sons (she already had her referral) before they came home. It was sweet.
Just thought I'd pop in and say that we're in the waiting stage as well. We are adopting a baby girl from Russia....hoping to get "the call" sometime in November.
Best of luck to all!
Therese
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DD - Aleksandra Sofia Tat'yana - 6.20.04 (Russia)
DS - Geoffrey Aidan Luis - 5.16.06 (Domestic Open) "By choice we have become a family;
first in our hearts, and finally in breath and being."
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Well we just found out about 3 little boys (1,2,3 years old)... so we went ahead and had our homestudy sent in for them... now is a different waiting...
How's everyone else doing?
__________________ Stephanie
30 years old/ DH 27 -- Married 12/16/2000
Dx PCOS 09/2000 - Janumet 50/50
And 3 sons thru the MIRACLE of Adoption
Austin (7), Andrew (8), Anthony (9)
I'm in the waiting phase... where are you? 
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