I have discussed actually taking the first step researching things and getting prepared for the homestudy with my dh again.
DH says he is truly fine with adopting but I want him to want to adopt.
I told him we will discuss it in a month. In the meantime I will gather everything that I can and if he really wants to then we will contact the Children's Aid Society to do our homestudy at the end of October.
What I want to know is, is there any advice that those adoption option moms may want to share.
I am excited.
My sweetie will finally be coming. My Nisha or Riley.
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Congratulations on your decision!!! My DH was kind of afraid of adopting and becoming a father at first too but he loves our little Katherine to the moon and back. I think becoming a father is a VERY scary thing for a lot of men. We as women probably have dreamt of what motherhood would mean since we were little girls and played and practiced at it. Most men I think just have to kind of think about it more. You might try to get him to talk with a male friend that has some experience being a father and see if that is helpful. My husband actually talked with his boss who is the father of 5 kids and I think that helped. The thing that helped the most though was his taking care of Katie and really bonding with her. He is SO GOOD with her now and it's a wonderful thing to see. Although I have to say he was pretty scared in the beginning.
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sorry have no adice but am the same as you have discussed with hubby about adopting..
we have discussed it and he said we should start but to tell you the truth i am really scared and even though i am still trying to concieve i want to adopt i am very scared though i don't have any children so thats why i guess i know i will be a good mom and my hubby a great dad hes so good with his nieces,,,,,we are doing a lot of researching and getting prepared also after getting into a web someone recommended i for adopting or fostering i got more scared its seems like too likes so strict but we have to have hope it will work out ,,,, i am exicited also i made sure my hubby was also very sure its a big step we are making i told him he said yes it is and we are ready i am 34 and he is 36 and have been married for 12ys good luck
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I have discussed actually taking the first step researching things and getting prepared for the homestudy with my dh again.DH says he is truly fine with adopting but I want him to want to adopt.
I told him we will discuss it in a month. In the meantime I will gather everything that I can and if he really wants to then we will contact the Children's Aid Society to do our homestudy at the end of October.
What I want to know is, is there any advice that those adoption option moms may want to share.
I am excited.
My sweetie will finally be coming. My Nisha or Riley.
we have discussed it and he said we should start but to tell you the truth i am really scared and even though i am still trying to concieve i want to adopt i am very scared though i don't have any children so thats why i guess i know i will be a good mom and my hubby a great dad hes so good with his nieces,,,,,we are doing a lot of researching and getting prepared also after getting into a web someone recommended i for adopting or fostering i got more scared its seems like too likes so strict but we have to have hope it will work out ,,,, i am exicited also i made sure my hubby was also very sure its a big step we are making i told him he said yes it is and we are ready i am 34 and he is 36 and have been married for 12ys good luck
We went to an info night at the CAS and they are very strict. They won't allow us to start the process because we are still ttc. Even though the process takes a year. I told them that we are going to adopt one child no matter what but they think we should hold off. TTC is very emotional and fostering or adoption should not interfere with that.
We are both very excited and have decided to start in the next cycle in May. Now we can focus on ttc without the worry that we will be childless.
Good luck with your research.
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oh really they told you that wow,,,,i am shocked why
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We went to an info night at the CAS and they are very strict. They won't allow us to start the process because we are still ttc. Even though the process takes a year. I told them that we are going to adopt one child no matter what but they think we should hold off. TTC is very emotional and fostering or adoption should not interfere with that.
We are both very excited and have decided to start in the next cycle in May. Now we can focus on ttc without the worry that we will be childless.
Good luck with your research.
oh my god i am shock so they told you that whats the CAS ? the first meeting you mean? so you are just going to ttc ? wow they probably tell us that i still want to adopt i wonder is it like in every state? thats sad because if thiers family that are willing to open thier heart and home why not ? it is not right that is why thiers so many children in foster care sorry it didn't work out good luck with the treatment i have to wait to see the doc. we didn't get the insurance but postive vibes to you*****
also how old are you and did that influence the social worker did you go through the state sorrry to be noseing but i am now very curious and worried? send me a pirviate messege if you want??
oh my god i am shock so they told you that whats the CAS ? the first meeting you mean? so you are just going to ttc ? wow they probably tell us that i still want to adopt i wonder is it like in every state? thats sad because if thiers family that are willing to open thier heart and home why not ? it is not right that is why thiers so many children in foster care sorry it didn't work out good luck with the treatment i have to wait to see the doc. we didn't get the insurance but postive vibes to you*****
also how old are you and did that influence the social worker did you go through the state sorrry to be noseing but i am now very curious and worried? send me a pirviate messege if you want??
It's okay. That's what this site is for sharing information and helping each other out. Sorry, I think I wasn't clear. We are still going to continue ttc until next May. That's when CAS has thier next intake. I live in Ontario, Canada. I know rules are different from province to province so I won't be surprised if the rules are different state to state. I am going to be 31 in November and my DH will be 27. They also told a lady there that has a 9 month old baby that she can't adopt until her baby is at least 18 months old because they want children 18 months apart. She tried to point out that by the time a adoption gets finalized her 9 month old would most likely be over 18 months but they told her to check back in a couple of months. The social worker said "I dont' need to tell you how emotional ttc can be and it really is in the best interest of the child that you have all your strenght and are emotionally stable. I hate the insurance companies. They don't cover anything for me except medication, no procedures. Argh!!!
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I need you knowledge! 
sorry have no adice but am the same as you have discussed with hubby about adopting.. 
oh really they told you that wow,,,,i am shocked why 
