I should be happy????

jeskah · 11-05-2009, 01:40 AM

Hi,
I have been trying to concieve for over 11 months now. I finally got a script to start clomid... yay........ that i am happy about.

The problem is most of my friends are bfp and all know im still ttc, I dont kn ow if they are trying to make me feel better by telling me how hard it is being preggers and horrible it is, how lucky i am that i can still do things they cant!!!!!

Im sorry but no matter what they say i still long to get the bfp. it hurts to hear them complain when all i want is to feel what they are feeling.

Is this normal to be so upset ??????

thanks

AliciaJ83 · 11-05-2009, 01:48 AM

yep it is.. A good friend of mine told me via text she was having another baby and I cried for a good 2 days... It sucks, but its normal.

I hope you feel better.

Mashellee04 · 11-05-2009, 02:37 AM

Yup it is normal. One of my best friends just told me a couple of weeks ago that she is pregnant... I was so upset.. happy for her but sad for me. My sister (who just had her first child two months ago) told me that I was just stressing myself out. I felt like I should at least get a day or two to be sad and maybe have a good cry. I am feeling better about it now and keep telling myself that when it is right it will be my turn... but that doesn't take away the heartache! Another of my good friends had her first two days ago... everyone around me is having babies and getting pregnant... I want to be happy for them and I am but it is a double edges sword... you are not alone on this.

jeskah · 11-05-2009, 06:32 AM

thank you so much guys, its great to know that Im not the only one feeling like this,
my hubby has been great about it tho and understands that i dont wanna hang out with them heaps and heaps. the thing is I am happy for them. I am happy that my friends get to strat a family. I just want it also.

once again thanks for the kind words, this website has been a god send

Mallow · 11-05-2009, 08:26 AM

Totally normal, two of my best friends both got pregnant (one of them with twins!) when I had been trying for two years - and it happened instantly for them - I remember being so hurt and upset and feeling bad about that - but it's completely normal!

Ohsolovin · 11-05-2009, 09:57 AM

Its completely normal. Every time someone finds out im TTC,someone else gets pregnant from no where. Just keep trying,and relax. It will happen,just harder for us girls sometimes but its really worth it.

joobilee · 11-05-2009, 10:56 AM

Totally normal. I've been trying so long my baby bro is done with his family...grrr and their last (#4) was an "oops". Heck, he hadn't even met his wife when I was first ttc. It gets easier with time, I just pray it won't be long before you get your bfp.
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Sometimes I wonder how much sweeter it will be for me than it was for my SIL's when I get to hold my baby in my arms because I waited so much longer and worked so much harder to have one.

jeskah · 11-05-2009, 08:22 PM

thank you all for ur kind words and understanding. Im finding it hard to come to terms ith the fact that i cant concieve without help. I just dont ovulate but still get af every 28 to 30 days?????? The gyno i go to has been great, always telling me to loose weight ( have been trying very very hard, gym 5 to 6 times a week and diet)

I hate that the preggers friends always go on about the horrible side of it (morning sickness ect ) and say im lucky cause i dont have to go through it. Im sorry but i want to and the more they say that stuff the more i feel left out and different!!!!!
Ive also just had a friend that had an abortion and was constantly telling me that being pregnate is the worst thing in the world.
i cant wait to start clomid!!!!!

sorry for the rant.

joobilee · 11-06-2009, 12:36 PM

Have you heard about DCI? It may help your body O. I don't know and can't promise anything but it has helped a lot of Cysters get preg or at least get their body working. Here is a link to one of the threads:
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I haven't been able to get preg yet but it has done amazing things for my body, and I at least have hope that I CAN get preg. If you want to see how it works go to
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on the home page (I think) there is a short video (3 1/2 min) long that explains how it works in your body.

NightAngelX · 11-06-2009, 02:21 PM

Totally understandable. My sister who recently had her 4th 'oops' baby constantly complained during pregnancy and about how hard her baby is (her oldest is 17 new baby is 3 months now) and how lucky I am not to have kids yet.
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She knows I am TTC (though kinda on hold right now but still). I think when people complain to people who they know are TTC they are trying to make them feel better. So maybe their hearts are in the right place, but yes very frustrating and upsetting.

But yes, your feelings are normal and don't let anyone tell you differently.
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(hug)

TarynB · 11-06-2009, 09:32 PM

I completely feel your pain jeskah......it took me 10years to have my first and my sister back then got preg before me and she wasn't even trying and didn't know that she was preg right away......now again been trying for 16 months for #2 and having probs and my sister again just had baby #3 and it was a oops baby....i cried for 3 days over that one. My bestfriend early this year also just had an abortion and it was abortion #4......she doesn't even want kids EVER and can get preg so easily makes me so angry sometimes.

I hope it happens soon for you and everyone else here!!!
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elizabeth0531 · 11-06-2009, 09:54 PM

it's completely normal. my dh and i live in his hometown, which is super small and still pretty new to me and it seems like every single woman in this town above the age of 18 (and many below) are pregnant or have a baby or kids. it's actually quite isolating because i feel like i can't relate to any of the women who would otherwise be my friends. they're all having playdates and babyshowers and such while im at home praying... it makes being the 'new girl' make me feel more like i'm an alien and i cry all the time.

*hugs* you're not alone!!

jeskah · 11-09-2009, 03:23 AM

its so great to not feel alone. thank you all for ur kind words, support and understanding. th