I think our bm has moved on...

spookycyster · 07-28-2004, 11:04 AM

Hi ladies,

I dropped ds's 6 month pics off at the agency two months ago and they are still there. His bm never came to get them. Our sw has called and left msgs and has been over to her apartment, but her car is never there. The sw isn't sure if she has moved or what's going on. And the bm's mom has called the sw in the past when she would recieve the pics I sent for her, but there was no phone call this time. I'm just kinda sad that they are completely pulling away. I can totally understand that they need to get on with their lives and try as best they can to put this behind them, but I feel bad for ds. I have asked his bm, his bgrandmom and his bf if they would like to write him a letter so that I can put it in his adoption scrapbook, so he would know just how special he is and how these three wonderful people are forever tied to him. Well, I never got a response and I'm just sad about it. I'm going to continue to send the pics as I had agreed to do, because I don't want ds to be mad at me because I didn't follow thru. Just disappointed.

Oh well....next month's his 9 month update, so we might get a response to that one, since I will be letting them know that we are moving to Germany in November.

Thanks for listening (reading) to me ramble.

April

so-tired · 07-28-2004, 01:21 PM

That is disappointing. It is probably best for them, or easiest rather, to move on and attempt to put it out of their minds. It does seem very sad to me, but at the same time they have to do what is best for them in this situation. They know that Luke has parents who love him more than anything and they probably are satisfied with that and want to leave you all to be happy!!

I agree, keep bringing the pics. That way you can tell DS when he is older that you tried and he can harbor no ill will towards you.

{{{hugs}}}

tke100 · 07-28-2004, 10:22 PM

Hi April,

I am sorry you are feeling dissappointed. We are in the same boat and I feel the same way. Our BM said she was putting together a treasure box and letter for him and she never did it. We asked several times and got nothing. Now we have not heard from her for a while. I feel the same way about feeling sad for DS. I too am following thru on what we said we would do!

Anyway, I know all our children will understand one day because this is what was meant to be.

Take care
Tricia

dms · 08-01-2004, 09:52 PM

Hi April,

Sorry you are feeling sad. I can understand how you are feeling because we went through the same thing. Our birthmother didn't send our daughter a letter at Christmas (when she was 1 1/2) or at her 2nd birthday. I am assuming that she wants to be left alone. I was sad too and I still am sometimes. I wonder if Erin will be sad later on in life because her birthmother didn't keep in touch.

Take care,
Dawn