I'm so depressed :(

babygirl18905 · 05-10-2008, 12:47 AM

I am so depressed ladies I don't know what to do

I am blessed with a little boy and am so unhappy. when he starts crying I really think I will go crazy he has been crying so much over the past 2 weeks and I don't know why I walk him, sing to him, rock him, bathe him, feed him, try to play with him, put him to sleep but it seems if we are not paying him constant attention all he does is cry which makes me want to cry

I love him more than anything else but sometimes I really wonder what I am doing. DH and I don't really speak anymore, our sex life is over, and I have a crush on someone I should not have a crush on since I am married. DH never wears his ring anymore so I wonder if he is cheating on me

I think I am going crazy sometimes, I think I should be on anti-depressants or something for anxiety I am under so much stress our financial situation is so messed up right now all we do fight about is money and DH says he made a huge mistake marrying me saying he should have listened to his family and on and on he goes. I told him we can get divorced I will agree if he is that unhappy with me but then he just shuts up and walks away. sorry ladies I just needed to rant tonight hope you don't mind but I really am feeling crappy

tashamarie · 05-10-2008, 06:25 AM

Oh my. Perhaps your baby is sick or something but I am thinking he is crying all the time because he can sense the unhappiness between you and your hubby. My dh and I are having a time too these last several years, it confuses the heck out of me. You and your hubby need to talk, alone, very badly. Is there someone that could take your baby for overnight or a weekend? Maybe you guys could get a hotel or even stay home, but talk about what you two want from each other. You shouldn't be having a crush on some one but he should most definitely not be telling you that your marriage is a big mistake, and then when you agree to let him out to walk away without saying anything. If he is staying because you 2 have a child, well, I know kids need both parents, but they don't need to be surrounded by hate and depression and anger, they should not be burdened with adult issues but they are whether you realize you are doing it or not. A marriage counselor would also be helpful, especially if you 2 cannot talk about this yourselves. The pills may help you, but if you do get them I would make sure someone is around to look after the baby because they can sometimes be hard on you at first, just until your body adjusts to them (may be nothing at all or may take a few weeks) I really hope for you and for your baby's sake that you get everything back in order. Now if only I could take my own advice and sit down and talk to my dh lol.

babygirl18905 · 05-10-2008, 09:03 AM

Tasha- I've tried talking to him I even left up information on the internet about marriage counseling but he still refuses to go

I don't know what to do I know I should not have feelings for another man but I really believe it's just because the other guy talks nicely to me and is very sweet but I also know nothing with come of it I just want someone to love me (my DH) but if it does not work well I have to think of my son and if it comes to it we will have to leave I already told my DH I don't want my son growing up in this type of situation. I have tried everything to no avail with him I really am at my wits end with all of it!!!! Why do men have to act like this? What is it they get out of it?

bkaur26 · 05-11-2008, 01:41 AM

I wish I could offer you more constructive advice, but I'm really not in the position to do so as I'm single.
All I can say that you should take your son to the doc to make sure he's alright since he's been crying constantly for 2 weeks. The fact that he's so cranky could be causing the tension between you and your husband since it leaves no time for the both of you...
I hope things turn around soon for you.

mesha · 05-11-2008, 01:57 AM

Babygirl,

If you feel depressed, you should definately see a dr. If it is depression, you have a chemical imbalance and you need some medication to treat is because it will not go away by itself. You have to take care of you, so you can be there emotionally for your son. I hope he is okay. He needs to be seen as well to make sure he is okay.

Mesha

PuppyLove · 05-11-2008, 02:05 AM

You poor thing (((hugs)))

I strongly encourage you to speak to your doctor about how depressed you are feeling, there is help out there for depression, and no it's not a quick fix but you need to do something sweetie.

As for your husband, hmmm I really feel for you, if he can't respect you/your marriage/your child enough to even discuss marriage counselling, then to be honest, I'm not sure he's worth staying with!

Please seek help for yourself and you darling son.

SunsetMuse · 05-11-2008, 02:45 AM

Number one: Please please at least get yourself a counselor. Your health at the moment is most important so you can be there for your child. You could have developed postpartum depression which can surface even a year or so after you have a child, so I would definitely see a Dr pronto! About your marriage I am sorry. My advice would be to lay it out on the table for him, tell him either we get help and you put your part in there or I'm gone. It's not healthy for you or him or your son to be in that situation. or maybe ask him if he is depressed and why he is acting this way and if there is anything you can do? I hope you get help and answers one way or another. Be strong and know there are people here willing to listen anytime! You and your son come first tho def. schedule some dr appts!

polly-pcos · 05-11-2008, 09:22 AM

I second what the pp said- post natal depression can hit any time in the first few years- my mum suffered over 2 years after having my younger brother. My suggestion is that you get to your doctor, look after yourself, and then try to sort your relationship out. It sounds like you have an awful lot on your plate- I think the suggestion of some time just dh and you- something fun, not to discuss money, divorce, affairs etc, is a great idea. Good luck!