I cant eat, I have trouble sleeping but then when I do get to sleep - I sleep for 12+ hours if left alone, I constantly feel like I'm going to throw up, I have no desire to do anything, and I just have a general feeling of hopelessness.
At what point should I see a doctor?
Can someone please tell me how depression has affected their marriage?
I am so sorry you are going through this! I have had bouts of depression!
If you are questioning if you need a doc or not you probably have answered you own question!
When I was suffering from depression the best thing I ever did was seek help.
The whole pcos thing plus ttc as I believe you are can be very hard on a person.
Please seek medical help! There is NO reason to live with depression if you don't have to. There is help and no shame in getting it!!!
BIG HUGS (((((())))))!!!
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I understand your not wanting to take any more pills or try therapy but can I ask you, is your life out of control?
If the depression has gotten so bad that it has taken over your life than I strongly suggest you look at options to help you.
In the mean time I want you to hold on because your life is worth fighting for even if you can't feel that at this time.
Please check in with us and remember we care. I urge you to talk to a doctor about this!!
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I know what you mean about taking more pills! I didn't want to either, but I eventually couldn't stand myself and began to realize even though hubby was very supportive that it was really taking a toll on him! He was so worried about me ALL the time! So I took the plunge and went on 20mgs of paxil a day! It changed my life! I took them for about a year along with trying to change small things in my life that I didn't like. I am now off of paxil, but if I ever need them again I will go back on them. I did go to therapy, but that was before I knew I had pcos. I went to therapy even though I knew there was nothing wrong with me. But a few years later when I got my dx of pcos it all made sense, I mean the reason I felt depressed wasent because of anything to do with life just simply this syndrome and the imbalance of hormones caused me to be depressed.
As far as it affecting my marriage, it really scared my husband because there is NOTHING he could do to help me! He could buy me expensive gifts ect and try his hardest but when you are so far down and depressed there is nothing anyone can really do for you. That is if you have major depression like I had. I still have occasional depression but not a constant day to day struggle.
I really HOPE you seek medical help! In my case I regret not going sooner! It's not your fault!!
If you ever need anything i'm here to help!!! o.k.!
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I just started treatment for depression too. I started on Wellbutrin a couple weeks ago. For me, I knew I had to get help when I was only sleeping about 2 hours a night/day. (Depending on if I work or have an off day). I just wasn't functioning very well anymore, and I wanted to get treatment before it got more severe, as it has in the past. I know it's hard to ask for help, but it really will make a difference. Just try to remember that your life is worth fighting for. Keep us updated.
I hope you feel better soon.
(((((HUGS)))))
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Yes please keep us updated! I really care as I have felt they way you have and I know how much it hurts!
Take care of yourself!
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I agree with Pink...if you are thinking about seeing a doctor then you should.
It took alot for me to finally go. I was crying all the time. Had no intrest in anything. Was just at the point that I really didn't care much about anything or anybody. Hubby and I were not getting along at all. He finally told me one day "Either you change something...or I'm gone." Kind of a wake up call ya know?
I made an apt with the NP at my medical doctor's because she's awesome. I like her better than my doctor to be honest..HA! She listened to me and we decided to try Effexor. So far it's made a difference. I have more energy...and feel more happier. I still have bouts of sadness, but nothing like it was before. In a couple more weeks, I'm stepping up to 150mg, so we'll see how that does. But I haven't had any side effects yet. *crosses fingers*
Hubby and I are doing better, but this is new territory for both of us. We are kinda feeling our way along. If I get a bit snippy, he says "Did you take your pill?" HA HA I tell him I'm still human and if he wants a Stepford wife to go look somewhere else.
So in my expierence, taking one more pill has been very much worth it...(and cheaper than a divorce lawyer ) Go get some help sweetie. The NP said this wasn't a medicine I'll be on the rest of my life...just for a while to get through this. At least go talk to someone about it.
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Yes, my life is out of control in ways that I cant post here.
I guess I'm just hesitant about going to the doctor to ask for help since I had depression when I was a teen, and it just went away on its own. I've got so much more to lose now though.
Please go sweetie....there is nothing at all wrong with getting help. And that's what doctor's are there for.
and we are too...so keep us updated.
hugs and kisses
Julie
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Canadian I am glad you posted here so that we can help support you (((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))))). I also have depression and it is the most bl**dy awful thing in the world. It has affected my marriage enormously - I first realised I had it in all of those awful TTC years prior to having DD, though I think in hind sight that I've had it on and off since my early teens. At times I felt like it was going to cause my marriage to end, but now years down the track I can see it strengthened my marriage in a way that other 'untested' marriages never would have been. My husband also ended up with mild depression (from living with a depressed wife for so long?? Who knows - on a bad depressive day I'd blame me, but feeling okay today I don't). I've been on and off antidepressants and they DEFINITELY work - it's amazing to feel 'normal' again once you've been on them. Now I'm opting for more natural routes and at the moment I'm taking a formula with St Johns Wort in it (a quite strong natural antidepressant) together with some other herbs (see my siggie). The biggest thing that's helped me is a few good friends, but really when I'm in the depths of it and floundering, prescription antidepressants really are the only thing that fixes me. Once I've been taking them for a while I can then 'see' well enough to look at other avenues to help myself, but only once I'm no longer completely over taken by it. Good luck and keep us posted.
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You all have been so great and supportive - thank you.
I'm going to call to make an appointment with the doctor tomorrow. I'm nervous of what he will say, but anxious to get some help.
I actually tried to leave my husband last night, telling him that I really didnt think I was good enough for him (and I honestly meant it). Just seeing the pain in his eyes made me realize that I need to do something if I'm going to save my marriage.
I have actually done that exact same thing! Are we TWINS????
I thought at one point what the hell was dh doing with me, was he staying to be nice was someone paying him
what you are going through although it is difficult those feeling come along with depression.
I am sending you clear head vibes!!! and hope they get to you quickly!!!
best of luck at the doc's tomorrow!
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Depression is such a close subject to my heart, and when I read your first post I just wanted to let you know from the bottom of my heart that you are not alone!!! It's really great that you have such a wonderful DH! Let him pamper you and take good care of you
Try to get some rest tonight!
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