Viviana V

I need advice please Cysters. My friend found out the day I was diagnosed (just last week) that she is pregnant. I'm in such a rutt (sp) because of this. I should be happy for her but can't bring myself to do it just yet. How do I overcome my own grief to be happy and supportive for her?

~Viv~

JaimeVegas

Just this last weekend my fiancee and I took a trip to california to visit his brother/Wife AND NEW BABY uuuhhhgggg. It was hell on me. I can't bring myself to be happy for them either. it just angers me to think of it. They got pg 2 months into their marriage with no effort. Oh how I wish that could happen for me. Lord please help us, we just want to be normal, healthy, mommies! Well most of us anyway. *sigh*

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24, Las Vegas, NV, Med Student

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KT1979

I'm sorry for you; I know that must have hurt. Why did it have to be on the same day you were diagnosed, hey? Even though I've already had one child, (almost 4 years ago now), it still hurts me when I hear a pregnancy announcement, especially when it's someone who had their first baby at the same time or sometime after I did. I find it so hard to understand why they can do so easily what I just cannot do anymore. It hurts that what I want so badly comes so easily to them. I really do want to be happy for them, but I find it so incredibly difficult. If I had a solution for those feelings, I'd gladly share it with you. I really wish I did. Keep your chin up, and try to smile; you're not alone.

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Me- 26, DH-26
DD- 02/19/99
DS- 09/10/03
Very thin "cyster"- 5' 3" and 90 lbs.
Only symptoms- long cycles, some acne and extra hair (where I don't want it)
Lap. with HSG in Jul. '02- all clear
Appear to be Clomid resistent
Both babies conceived naturally and without meds
Trouble with IUGR during pregnancy due to possible clotting disorder (have not been tested yet)

CTCyster

Viv-

My close friend's wife just delivered their first child a few weeks ago- I was really surprised at my reaction. For so long I felt bad when other people told me their news about being PG, I used to get so jealous and hurt. But when I heard the news of this arrival something was different. I guess my perspective has changed and I am more positive about what my reproductive future holds for me. I am now honesty overjoyed at learning of a friend's pregnancy. My best cysta friend here on SC has just announced her pregnancy (YAY Torie ! ) and I couldn't be happier for her. I know that she struggled with infertility for a long, long time and now her dreams are finally coming true! This gives me hope for myself- and now I am not so negative about my chances of having a baby some day.

I know you cannot just shut off your feelings- we are all entitled to how we feel. However, don't give your fertility a death sentance just yet- you've only just been diagnosed- and if you read some of the miraculous success stories here on SC of cysters who tried and failed for years, only to end up with a miracle pregnancy- I think you'll see there's hope for all of us.

I am sorry you're going through a rough time- sending (((HUGS))) well wishes your way.

*Aimee*

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