Just a little (okay not so little LOL) update :-)

so-tired · 03-08-2006, 09:37 PM

I cannot believe DS is over 2 already!!! It seems like yesterday I was "So-tired" from waking up every hour to feed a little newborn baby!

Adopting DS was without a doubt the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me. I cannot believe how blessed I am. It was a bumpy road and TBH a state adoption is something I probably wouldn't do again... but who knows.

We have had to completely sever all ties with the birth family. They get more bizarre and unstable every day. Birth mom was arrested (again). And we heard possibly for prostitution. It makes me so sad. She just turned 18 so if she may be gone for awhile this time. Birth grandmother is becoming very... strange. I don't want to go into detail but she is in an alternative lifestyle that I don't want around my son.

We are even thinking about not telling DS about the adoption. I think it's just a phase b/c of birth family issues. We do plan to wait until DS is about 4-6 tho. We aren't going to hide it but not make a big deal about it either. It was decided on after talking to a adoption trauma psychologist a few times.

We kinda/sorta are trying. I figure whatever happens... happens. I want Christian to have a sibling. But if we have no more children I still feel fulfilled. I think b/c the adoption was so rocky and the birth family was so unstable the idea of another adoption is intimidating right now. And now that we have a child our savings is totally depleted. LOL!

Christian is really growing up to be an amazing kid. I cannot believe how much like us he truly is. He has my husband's goofy sense of humor, my mannerisms and even quirks. It's so funny. I, of course, think he is the smartest and most handsome child on the face of the earth!

Thanks for reading! I have missed you guys! {{{hugs}}}

dna · 03-09-2006, 12:03 AM

Thanks for the update Heather !

Nice to hear from you and see an updated photo of Christian, what a handsome dude

Sorry you had to cut all ties with his Birthfamily but I am sure you are doing it for the right reasons for your son and that in the end it will be ok...its hard for me to imagine having to deal with that...I will unfortunately will probly not ever be able to tell my daughter who her birthparents are, but can at least provide my DS with his info if he wants it...

Stick around for the party ! LOL

Shawna@PHM · 03-10-2006, 05:24 AM

Hey Heather! How are you doing? Christian is totally handsome and getting so big. Good Luck on TTC #2 I wish you the best. ((Hugs))

Lisa67 · 03-10-2006, 05:42 AM

Love your update, Heather. So good to see you around again.

I'm sure your decision to sever ties was a well thought out and difficult decision. I can't imagine being in that position and I'm happy for you that you've reached a place you're comfortable with

Hugs on all you went/are going through.

I hope you decide to stick around some more. I'd love to hear more about your little man. He is just adorable--can't believe he's 2 alreaedy!! WOW!!