Just need prayers...

Mommy_at_Heart · 02-17-2009, 05:30 AM

I was originally going to post this under the rant section, but it's so much more than anger I am feeling. I am feeling sad, hurt, bitterness and unfairness. I need prayers and support to get through this.

I started working for my current company (a well known day care center, nation wide) a year ago this April. Everything was fine until we got a new director, about 4 months ago. Not to get into details, but suffice it to say, he's let other teachers get away with some pretty bad things, things that could get all of them (including him) fired.

On Monday, we hired a new assistant director, who happens to have a child in my class. On Wednesday she walked in and saw her son crying. Let me just tell you that this 3 month old doesn't take naps, to say he stays a bit cranky is an understatement. Anyway, I was bottle feeding a 7 week old, and my co-teacher was changing diapers. She confronted us both, saying we let her son cry for too long, and we really should pay more attention to him...after all, he's HER son. We told her we weren't going to play favorites, and would continue to take care of the children equally and in a proper order. A baby who needs to eat or be changed comes before a baby fussing just wanting to be held. We each only have 2 arms, unfortunately, and don't have the luxury to just sit and cuddle all day. Well, our assistant director turned off all the other class room monitors just so she could watch our room. (Apparently the safety and well being of the other children don't matter as long as they don't belong to her). On Monday, our Professional Development Day, my boss hands the infant room teachers our schedules. I am given all 40 of my hours back now that enrollment is back up. An hour later, he calls me into his office with the district manager and they confront me with "it was observed that you sat in the rocker for over a half hour and let the babies cry in their cribs". Um, the hell I didn't! Did they have proof, no. Did they believe me, no. Sounds to me like our new assistant director got a little upset that I wouldn't play favorites with her son, and this is her revenge. I told them to talk to any of my co-workers, talk to the PARENTS! I am so freakin' loved it's not even funny. I've had numerous nanny positions offered to me from these parents, asked to specifically take charge of their childrens care because they had a problem with another teacher, even told that they would sign a petition if my company ever wanted to fire me. So I'm not worried about my record speaking for itself, it's spotless. But here's the deal, they suspended me "upon investigation". What the hell?! I'm just so upset, I love those kids, and I miss not being there to take care of them. I resent the lies and mistreatment. It's unfair and so undeserved! So here I sit, waiting to hear from work to see when and if I can come back.

smcwhorter901 · 02-17-2009, 12:28 PM

Wow... Jaimee - I am so sorry you are going through this, and yes, sometimes, life is just not fair. You will be in my prayers. Just remember, you don't need to fight this battle... Let God fight this for you. Your record will speak for itself and God will fight for you! I am upset with your assitant director just reading this, but trust me, she will reap whatever it is that she has sown. Hang in there! My prayers are with you!

Mommy_at_Heart · 02-17-2009, 02:49 PM

Thank you so much Steph!

SunnyInSeattle1 · 02-17-2009, 03:12 PM

OH man, I am so sorry for you. That assistant director is "not cool". Are you going to report the incident and go above the heads of the people that suspended you?

dollface1982 · 02-17-2009, 07:57 PM

I hope that everything turns out good for you. Just because her son was crying doesn't mean that you were mistreating him. I also feel that just because someone births a child doesn't mean that they are a good parent. I'm not knocking anyone but who is she to say that you were wrong because her baby wouldn't stop crying? That's a messed up situation and I hope that they call you back for the job. I guess if her baby is crying in someone else's room, they are going to try to suspend them too "under investigation"... Yeah right. Many prayers out to you.

Mommy_at_Heart · 02-18-2009, 03:29 AM

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Originally Posted by SunnyInSeattle1

Are you going to report the incident and go above the heads of the people that suspended you?

I am waiting to hear back from them first, to see if they will come to their senses. While I'm waiting I am getting references from the parents, and inquiring about one of the nanny positions. My fiance' is also talking to lawyer friend of his. Apparently the guy says I have legal grounds to at least get compensated for the time they don't have me working, plus defamation of character. Hey, all I want is to be working again, but getting the money I missed out on because of a persons lie would be wonderful. Personally I feel she used her position of power to intimidate me and my co teacher into favoritism, and when that didn't work, she tried to get rid of us. By the way, today was my first official suspended day, and I already got a call from one of the parents. She was livid, her child hadn't been fed her lunch (it was still in her cubby) and when she asked where I was, the director and assistant director lied and said they didn't know. So it turns out they also suspended my co teacher, AND the assistant director took over my class. Any idea what that means? She gets her regular pay ( $10 an hour more than me ) to sit in my class and take care of HER OWN CHILD ALL DAY! But I keep praying, and I thank you guys for your prayers and support!

ro_magnum_44 · 03-03-2009, 12:52 PM

wow...

4evryng · 03-03-2009, 02:34 PM

This is so not fair for the other kids in the class to have to suffer due to having a lady that only wants to take care of her child and the others not even getting lunch. If I were a parent there I would be so angry!!! I don't know if I would want my job back there. I know you love the kids but if this assitant director is still there she will probably just continue to make it hard on you. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

ttcmydreams · 03-16-2009, 05:48 PM

Let me just say...I halfway expected you to be one of my coworkers because of all the junk that goes on in my daycare. I totaly understand about ppl using there position to intimidate and frame you. My thoughts are with you.

XxPrincess2602xX · 03-16-2009, 05:56 PM

Wow. I hope everything turns out for the better..and maybe they'll come to their senses and see what this director is doing. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Keep us posted... <3

xoxo.

SnowFlower · 03-16-2009, 07:27 PM

That is so unfair. I worked at a daycare and there was always some kind of drama going around. A lot of things that could also get people fired and lets just say I was alone dealing with a lot of little kids by myself. I got fired the first time bc I wasnt mean enough and the kids wouldnt listen to me. These were 4 year olds. Then I got called back and begged back to come as someone left and it was with the younger kids the 2 year olds. I fell in love with them and while I couldnt stand what actually went on there I kept working there for the kids. The boss never liked me as I was the only one who didnt kiss her feet and azz and because I actually brought up safety and health issues and everyone else kept their mouth shut. In the end I wrote my letter of resenation and the director begged me to stay. I was offered a nanny position and due to the money and stress I had to take it. I ended up feeling so bad for the kids at this daycare I gave it up and stayed with them. A few days later the director fired me because she heard that I told a parent something about the daycare and it was in my contract I couldnt and pretty much because I had a big mouth. I did confront a parent as the director asked me to as I had to call her because she brought her very sick child in who was lethargic and had massive diareah and a very high fever. You couldnt bring them back the next day but she did and I wasnt there when she brought him in. The same thing happened but this time he was throwing up too so again I had to call her and explain to her she couldnt bring him back tomorrow. She was mad and pissy because she had places to be and I told her she might want to bring him to the Drs with what was going on. What do you know the next day the same crap she brought him in again. I had to have someone else talk to her since it wasnt getting through to her.... It was insane and the kids were crying when I left. I was upset not about leaving that hell hole but about leaving the kids. Its a hard situation to be in. After I was fired I was called again (they cant keep any employees) and offered another position and I denied and then was asked if I would at least sub when people didnt come in. I was like what nerve they have. The director told me no one there liked me bc I brought up health issues and such and was just so plain old cold and mean to me when she fired me. I was in tears and felt so bad for those kids. On the way out she reminded me of the clause about never talking specifics of what happened or I would be getting a call from her lawyer. I was not going to go back to that no matter what and be threatened and watched all the time.
Anyhow sorry to vent too but I know how you feel. I saw plenty of parents complain when their child was in the time out chair or throwing a fit and a person only has 2 arms. Hugs!

beedee · 03-17-2009, 06:20 PM

I am praying for you! The battle is not your to fight and it does belong to God, I am so happy others feel the same. Yes, this is the time to have faith, read James 1, know God is for you and that no one can come against you because God is for you, read Isaiah 54:17, I hope this helps! I am in prayer for you!