i was diagnosed with pcos a few months ago and my dr said that my chances of having kids in the next month is 80 % but after that it will most likely decrease.
she wants to put me on clomid and we've tried for 6 months with no help to have kids but now he's backing out. he says he feels im forcing him to have kids but im just scared i wont be able to have my own.
we both are in school, hes applying for the police department this month and will most likely get in (hes army too) and im almost done with nursing school so we both kind of feel a little rushed to conceive. i dont mind, ive always wanted to be a mother but i guess my concern is any advice?
Well questions are you all married, if not then take it slower if he means the world to you dont drive him off by the we need to have kids now. Educate him on everything PCOS is first. I been married to my wife for 10 years now this sept 19. With that said I want kids like no other that I know but after 3 years of living with PCOS I have come to learn we may never have kids of our own and how much I love and care for my wife. Remember there are other ways to become parnets. Dont feel like you have to rush into something that may not be the right time. You said it right you BOTH feel rushed, open comminucation is the key if you both dont have it then its a lost cause with or without children.
If he would like to talk to someone that is going thru this from a Mans POV then get with me ill keep checking on this post.
thank you so much for your insight!!
and yes we are married..almost 4 years now!!
its something ive always wanted and now thats its thrust in my face like this...it makes me feel so overwhelmed. i dont think anyone can be completely ready for a child..good luck with you and your wife!
With my dealings with our battle with PCOS it easy to become overwhelmed with thing. Cast in point even tho my wife is on Met, doing fine with mood swings something come out of left field and threw our world for a loop. One thing I can tell you is keep all emotions shared with your LH show him this board, get him fully informed becuase it is not only harder to have children that you both are going to have to deal with. If you doctors are telling you this get a new one. Enjoy each other achive your goals that you have set forth already, if the big man or whom ever you pray to had kids in your furture then you will have them. But remember there are alot of kids in the world that need that special couple to help them in thier lives too. but that is another thread. rant off for now TMofB
It could be that he feels it's some how his fault. Try taking a vacation just the two of you and see what happens. no pressure and no "trying" just have fun. That's the advice I keep seeing when I read the infertility sites at least. We are going to start trying soon so I wish you luck.
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I Am A Woman And The Syndrome Is Overwhelming At Times. You Know Your Body Better That Anyone Else Does. Are You A Number Or Does Your Dr Know You Personally? Dr.s Are Not Good At Telling You What You Always Want To Hear. They See You For Maybe Thirty Minutes. You Have Lived Your Life For Your Entire Life. I Ignored My Dr Put On My Game Face And Changed My Lifestyle. I Followed The Book The Insulin Resistant Diet, Worked Out Six Days A Week And Took Metformin Everyday. I Was Told I Would Never Concieve, Ever. I Was 27 And Carried Her Full Term. She Is Healthy And I Am Blessed. I Also Took Flax Seed Oil Everyday. Do Not Take Any Aspirin Products. I Concieved Naturally. Hope This Helps. Quit Worrying And Nature Will Take Its Course.
My wife (Serenity) and I have been married for six years and we both want children, but do to pcos we have not been able to conceive. We have gone through fertility treatments which did not work and now we are looking at adoption. I suggest you and your husband take everything (readiness, finances, and medical condition) into account and make the best choice for both of you.
just a question for the men 
