just a thought

dancergirl13 · 11-20-2007, 10:11 AM

i know that there are countless threads on dealing with pcos and wondering if you can get pregnant. but I have a question. I'm ninteen, and my boyfriend and I have been dating for three years. he says he wants to be with me even if i never am able to have kids. even so, I have this stess...like when i find out my friends are pregnant i cry. is that weird? l feel so guilty, but its like i have the jealous instinct about it because i don't know if i will ever have that. My best friend just had a baby and all i do is just hold her and smile. but when i leave i get so depressed. all i want is to have children one day but i feel like i'm cheated of the one thing i am made for because all of my doctors have told me it will be hell trying to get pregnant. how should i cope with this? I can't get it off of my mind...

MAFlowers · 11-21-2007, 09:15 PM

Have you been trying to conceive yet? If not, you shouldn't worry before you even try. You may be suprised.

dancergirl13 · 11-26-2007, 06:37 AM

no, but we are engaged and don't use anything and i haven't been yet. i know i have plenty of time, but still. I'm not on medications for pcos but my friend mentioned metformin. what is that? does is help with the cysts?

june24saj · 11-26-2007, 12:32 PM

me too dancer... i wasnt TTC but we never use anything after a while because i realized i dont ovulate and secretly i was hoping i would get pg just to know that i can ,but nope, never. im scared to death but who knows maybe when we are actively trying and start the drugs it will be easy. i want to ask my doc about metformin next and i have an appt in a month so ill let you know what she says... what kind of sxs do you have? do u get ur period or no? i actually chart so i know for a fact that i dont O

emah-jayne · 11-27-2007, 05:27 AM

oh hun i know how you feel. Before my fiancee and i broke up we had been activally ttc since just before dd's ist birthday. We wanted the kids close together because i want to go and study and as we only wasnted 2 kids. But by november i wasnt pregnant and i easily got pregnant with jaelah with using bc. Then i found out this. many hugs for you hun

iamcrazymom · 11-27-2007, 08:44 AM

Dancer, look around on here for just awhile and see all of the ladies who have been put on different drugs and just look at the blessings they recieved. For your doc to count you out of the baby pool, before you have even tried to concieve bothers me. You are going to prove to the doc that you are going to do it and you are going to do it with a BANG, twins...LOL....Metrormin and fertility drugs in combo seem to work for many. It is also common to just concieve with met. also....Talk to your doc when you are ready.
God bless..
Good luck.

dancergirl13 · 11-30-2007, 05:32 AM

ha twins. that would be cool! you guys are already making me feel better that quick. I am so glad i found this board. I have had a lot of people tell me to switch doctors since they heard that she told me it would be hard to get pregnant.

june24- I have only had three periods in a year, my last one in july. I was kinda like that at first, just trying to see if i could be, but from july to now nothing so i doubt it without drugs. I'm going to start on birth control because i realize that as much as i want to know now its not smart because i'm so young. i am stuck right now though cause i'm off my health insurance so i cant go to the doctor until feb and i havent been since july so i don't know if its any better or worse.

junior_j · 12-04-2007, 05:23 PM

i feel like that somtimes and im only 15
Jess x

APSUchick2006 · 12-05-2007, 10:53 AM

I know what you mean! I'm not dating anyone right now...but now that I'm older I worry about trying to date because I'm afraid that the minute the guy I'm dating finds out that I will most likely have 'fertility issues' he will dump me...and I know it's silly to worry about something that hasn't even happened...and I know I can't know for sure until I try, but I also know how hard it has been just to get my cycle normal...and I don't even know if it will stay normal when I go off of the BCP and Met.

Plus...I know most of my guy friends want to have a few children when they are married...and I think most guys do. But I do tend to over analyze things.

Also...another thing I have thought about...When is the right time in a relationship to mention that there is a possibility that I wont be able to have kids...and an even stronger possibility that the road will be long and hard if I try to? When I was dating as a young teen I didn't even mention it because it was the last thing on my mind...but now that I am an adult my relationships are going to be a little more serious.

june24saj · 12-06-2007, 12:17 PM

I have no idea, I dont think you would ever HAVE to mention it. I mean I feel liek if you are in a relationship where you are that close and you just naturally share your hopes and dreams and fears and yada yada you will just tell him about it. Not as a warning, but as something you share with him because he is your best friend

How is the Metformin working for you Kim, I want to ask my doc for it next time I see her. I just had a bag of chips, this whole low carb thing is going to be soooooooooo hard. UGH. But I want to OVULATE SO BADLY.

I have a friend with PCOS too and we always laugh about how other girls are jealous of each other for their hair or clothes or something and we are jealous of girls that OVULATE. What kind of weirdos are we!??!?! lol

dancergirl13 · 12-08-2007, 01:08 AM

aspu-

just remember this is my opinion. lol. I feel like you should be upfront about it because if a guy will not date you because of it then you shouldn't want to be with him in the first place. Any guy that loves you truely will understand and want to be with you regardless. i wouldn't tell him on a first date or anything, but if you start getting serious with him i would talk about it. I'm in a different situation though because i dated my boyfriend for almost 2 years before i found out and he is ok with it.

dancergirl13 · 12-27-2007, 01:55 AM

i just wanted to let everyone know that i suffered my 1st miscarriage on the 14th. I wasnt trying to get pregnant, but now i'm going to start b/c. I don't know how far along i was, because i can't go to the doctor, but i'm gonna go in a couple of weeks when my health insurance kicks in.

#1treehugger · 01-01-2008, 09:33 PM

hey im not going threw what you are doing i have pcos but im not old enoph to wont to try to have kids but my aunt has pcos and she had a beutiful little girl 2 years ago so dont worry just cause you dont get pregnate right away dont worry it took my aunt 4 years to get pregnate and know she has a great little girl...

june24saj · 01-03-2008, 01:14 PM

hey dancer that is really sad, im sorry that happened to you. but at least you know you can get pg when the time comes. how did you find out that happened??

guineapig · 01-03-2008, 02:51 PM

I'm way past teen years, but I wouldn't let the docs discourage you at this point. I fell into deep depression 3 years ago when the docs said we'd "never" have children without IVF. And they hadn't even tested my husband's sperm when saying this. Well, he had issues too, and once we corrected for them and found the right herb, we got our DD--without $32,000 IVF. Docs don't know anything, and I would not get discouraged at this point.