I love my girlfriend with a deep passion and I definitely plan on making things more permanent in the future but I just thought this would be a good time to ask this. Can anyone give me some tips on how to really encourage her, help her out, keep her confidence going high, etc? I have a good grasp of what it means already but I was just wondering if there is anything else I could do for her. Thanks in advance.
My advise would be to just be there for her. Try to realize that she will go through things that you may not always understand and reasure her of your love for her...It is obvious that you love her and I am sure she can see this. Whenever the mood strikes tell her she beautiful....
....One last thing, sometimes women want to talk to their men when they are having trouble with something, this doesn't always means that she wants you to solve the problem, she just needs someone to listen to her.
....Evidently things are working so far so just be yourself, love is a splendid thing...
Just my humble opinion, wishing you the best,
Misty
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Mmm, definitely food for thought. I appreciate the insight, alaskangrown. Most of the time, I, being male, have trouble just trying to sit and listen without thinking of ways to fix the problem. It is an annoying little bug that guys have to deal with and it frustrates us a lot when we cannot fix a problem...but with women, sometimes they don't need a problem or a situation to be fixed: they just want it listened to. I am more than happy to be there for her and listen to her whenever she'd like...sound advice.
My advice would pretty much echo what you've already said/heard. The most imortant thing you can do is to be there for her...just listen when she needs to talk. It is hard for us, as guys, to not try to fix things for our ladies...but more often than not, they don't want us to fix their problems for them, they just want us to listen to them & relate to what they're saying.
It sounds like you've already figured most of this out, so I'm sure you'll do just fine. The best thing is just to be yourself, profess your love for her everday...not just by saying it, but by showing her in different little ways as well, and most importantly--just talk...communication in a relationship is key, just be honest & upfront with her about any concerns you might have, and let her do the same to you.
Good luck, I wish you both the best !!
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The fact that you have taken the time to come here and find out what you can, to ask the question you're asking - speaks volumes about how you care for her.
There will be days that her symptoms may really get to her. Do what you can to boost her confidence in your love and in herself. Remind her why you love her. (I'm going to bet you're good at that anyway)
One of the best things my hubby ever said to me was on a night where I was so upset about what was going on with my body. That particular night I was upset about the hair on my lip, I was crying. He said, "what can we do to make it better?" WE. Not "here's what you need to do, or what are you going to do" but WE. That was SO COOL. So, I talked with him about options and we decided for now waxing made sense...and it was important to him that I not skip it because I'm worried about $. So, he pays every other time.
That might not sound very romantic, but its something that makes me feel better, and feel very loved. That WE thing, is something it took him a while to learn, (My PCOS took a while to sink in for him) but it has truly made a difference.
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I agree with the advice that this is not a girl problem, it is a couple problem.
I would also jump in with both feet if she is low carbing and exercising. My DH does a lot of the cooking, and when I told him about the insulin/diet connectiion, he changed a lot if what he made. We both ate stuff that was good for insulin levels, and lo and behold, he lost 15 pounds! What's good for her is good for you both food-wise. She doesn't need you eating banana splits in front of her if she's trying to manage PCOS through diet.
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33 yrs, 1 precious hubby, 2 miracle kids, At Goal Wt for 4 yrs, Trygly's down 445 pts, Free Androgen down from 20 to 2, 3 half 'thons ran, 2 mtns hiked, 1 crazy run in the Rockies, 4 forest trail races, profiled in 2 magazines...1 woman determined to kick PCOS butt!
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Awesome ideas, guys and gals. Man, I really do feel welcome on this board because I was a little apprehensive about getting involved in a predominantly female board about something that I don't have firsthand experience with outside of loving a woman with PCOS. She does have her moments where it gets tough for me to figure out what I should say or how I should act and usually, when in doubt...give her a hug and talk things out. I have found that works pretty well. This site has been a tremendous help in providing a good insight into the day to day life of the brave women that choose to accept PCOS, endure it and overcome it through hope, will and love. What a great message. As a college student, the information flow that I get on a day to day basis is difficult to sift through at times but reading and replying to the posts on this board really help me to understand a little bit more on how to step up to the plate and be a man for my special lady. And also, she will be starting a low carb diet pretty soon and I have been meaning to crack down and get tough about weight loss myself so with thoughts of proposing to her buzzing in my head...this is an excellent stage in both of our lives.
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I think it is a wonderful show of your love souldoctor and would think that the women here, as great as they are, would welcome any man into our lives on this bord. There are alot of wonderful men out there who just want to understand and be there for their women, and I think it also help us to hear from the men's perspective, alot of times we loose ourself in this mess and forget there really is a life outhere to live, that we all have families in some respect out there with men in them weather in the form of DH, DBF, fathers, brothers, son's, and we have to deal with those men on a regular basis, the more opinion's and viewpoints we can arm ourselves with the more enriched our lives become, so thank you for reminding all of us that there is more to life than this "thing" that binds us.
Misty
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One thing I would ask you to do for her is to not react if she ever says weird-strange things that can come across sort of mean. Try to take a deep breath and ask her to explain what she means. That would be a big gift to you gf, that you accept her bad moods as well as good ones. That you give her an opportunity to explain herself, if she inadvertently fires a torpedo.
I have blown it with yet another opporunity myself, so I feel the need to pass this along.
God bless your heart for wanting to support your gf.
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