michellekelley84

I was just wondering while i sit here if any of you have ever been asked if you grew fical hair because you wanted to? there is a story behind this as there always is. i was working at a call center in shreveport,la not that long ago and one of my sup asst came up to me and was talking to me and he all of the sudden asked me if i shaved my face so that the hair would grow because i wanted to be like a man(i'm butch by the way) and i told him no of course and i have also had a lot of people tell one of my ex's that they didn't know why i didn't have a sex change since i looked like a guy and shaved my face and i dated women. so i just wondered if any of you have ever gotten that and how you dealt with it.
michelle

mummynootnoot

Didnt want to read and run!!!! Its never happened to me but I am always so conscious of my facial hair. I think it was really unfair of your co-worker's horrible comments and I would have made a huge fuss but it sounds like you are no longer in that job. I also hope that your ex girlfriend stood up to others for you like all good partners should do, how rude of people to say that IMHO

michellekelley84

actually no she didn't she started asking me to get my nails done to grow out my hair and all that girly foo foo stuff i was like you got to be kidding me i don't think so i mean i try and shave everyday and all but i was working almost 7 days a week from 7 am to 11 pm and i don't have a spleen and i'm a diebetic so it started getting to me and i started getting really sick like all the time so there would be days and days that would go by before i would shave and my boss which is like a sister to me and some people that worked with me that i became good friends with would look at me and say your having one of those weeks and you don't feel good do you and the answer was always yes because they knew that i prided myself on how i look i would walk in there freshly showered and shaved not a hair out of place with a dress shirt and tie on with slacks but on those days and weeks that i didn't feel good it was how ever y hair wanted to act that day not shaved and one of the company polo shirts on and they knew don't mess with michelle today she doesn't feel good and they knew to check on me cause sometimes i would fall asleep or my blood sugar would be through the roof and i wouldn't relise it. so to answer your question no she didn't but i just took it in stride seems like i get it a lot since i'm butch and all but i just wanted to see if anyone else had gotten it.

i am no longer at that job i'm actually looking for one now that i'm in dallas and its not easy going and today i have an interview and don't want to go i woke up sick at my stomach can't breath out my noise and a migrain all i want to do is go lay back in bed and sleep and not hear a sound anyways thanks for the reply i'm done with my ranting for the day.. how you are doing well

michelle

mummynootnoot

Hmm all I can say to that is she should of loved you for YOU, nothing else matters. Hope you gave her the boot and it wasnt the other way around?? It shouldnt matter about your appearance, sounds like she was a right meanie IMHO.

I hope you can find the motivation to go to the job interview that you have and I want to wish you good luck aswell

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michellekelley84

actually she gave me the boot she is 19 and told me she needed to know who she was and needed time and space to do that and then she told me she was confused didn't know what she wanted and now she is seeing someone else but its ok though because i'll be getting married in oct but she was just very immature and couldn't deal with me being sick and the fact that one day she might wake up to me being dead at an early age so i am way better off. my soon to be wife is great and takes care of me and lets me be me and doesn't worry about me being sick and when i do get sick she is there for me. her son even thinks of me as his second mother i'm going to adopt him once he is older and i'm going to change my last name not the other way around because he is bi polor and autistic and so he wouldn't understand the name change and it would take time for him to get used to it. i love him to death he actually told me he wants me to give him 3 brothers and 3 sisters i told him he was nuts. he scared me the other day because he went to go ride his bike around the block(we live in a suberbian nebiorhood) and i couldn't find him or his bike in the normal areas and so i called his mom (she was laying in bed resting she is working a lot since i'm not working right now) and she told me to go look somewhere else and i saw his bike he was playing in the back yard after we have told him time and time again not to because we can't see him back there and there for we don't know where he is i gave him the lecture of a life time after that then called my mother and was like now i understand how you feel cause to me JP is my son i might not have given birth or had anything to do with it but for the past 3 years i have helped sunshine with him and now that we are getting married i think of him as mine and now i know why they tell you don't give your parents a hard time when you are young cause your kids will do the same and now i'm seeing why cause he gives us hell.

I went to the interview but didn't hear anything i've been to a few in the past few weeks and haven't gotten a job yet. its really starting to get to me and on top of that sunshine thinks all i do is sleep all day and i'm not busting my butt looking for a job or cleaning even though when she comes home the dishes are done and put up and the clothes are washed. today i didn't feel good and i think i'm pmsing on top of it (boobs hurt, moody, running to the bathroom and my face is broke out) and she was telling me how to find a job and what i needed to do and i almost hung up on her if she doesn't stop i will go off the way i'm feeling cause its not like i'm not trying its just that no one is jumping on the chance to hire me at this point in time because of my job history. its not good since i was sick most of my life with pancreatitis and after the surgery that i had to fix it i couldn't hold a job till may of 2007 and it wound up being a hostile work inviroment and they were cutting back pay and i needed to move here to be with sunshine and jp and near my doctors that did my surgery so i just left there and i guess that everyone is afraid that i'm not going to stick around i don't know so its starting to wear on me and doesn't make for a good combo to be pmsing and sick and depressed cause no one will hire you. so we shall see if i get any phone calls or e-mails tomorrow telling me i got a job i hope so cause i'm tired of sitting around the house and tired of sunshine on my case all the time. how everything is well your way
michelle

mummynootnoot

Well you are better off w/o her!!!! Your new partner sounds great and good luck with your wedding, my partner and I have been talking about that {everytime someone asks when we will tie the knot, lol} but right now we are not in the financial situation to do so but its a possibility in the future.

I expect my partner feels exactly like you as I have a daughter from a previous relationship, I think i've been quite lucky that she has known my daughter since she was little, she will be 5 in March. My partner is really great with my dd and she even calls her mum, she keeps asking for a baby brother or sister too, and in the past has said I want 2 brothers and 1 sister, lol ... not easy to explain is it??

My partner has been looking or a job for the last 6 months too, but its not happening for her but it isnt getting to her just yet.

We've also had some tough times since being together {2&1/2yrs} due to me being constantly poorly, we are either at the hospital or doctors, this has been going on for the past year or so! I'm really lucky that I have her around otherwise I wouldnt of coped, PCOS, back, shoulder and hand problems dont bode well really but we think we are getting there now but it has been a long road for us.

This year we are hoping to move down south where her parents live, she moved to Kent to be with me, we just dont know when yet but really looking forward to it.

Dont let 'sunshine' wind you up but listen to her also, I bet she is only doing it bcoz she loves you and wants to see you happy & if a job will help you to be that way then that is what she will want for you.

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michellekelley84

well thats part of it she wanting me happy and all but we also struggle for money as we all have meds we have to take and with her being the soul provider right now between rent and gas for both cars and food and our meds theres nothing left for any extras inless we barrow it matter in fact i had to call my mother and ask her to get my insulin filled for me this week cause we didn't have the money at all so its stressing her too she told the therpist today (jp is in therpy do to child abust from his farther and step mom and step uncle and the bi polor) that she enjoys me being a stay at home mom right now cause i go get jp from his after school program where they help him with his home work and also lets us have time to get things in order around the house before he comes home and messes it right back up and i am here if something happens to him and she gets a home cooked meal and a clean house when she gets home but she works long hours and doesn't get to see much of me and jp and we don't get much alone time cause by the time she gets home and we eat its time to get jp in the bath and give him his meds and off to bed and by then she is ready to take her sleeping meds and her meds for her RLS and she passes out on me so i'm sitting here awake most of the night watching tv or just laying there listening to her sleep. i have insominia really bad and on nights like tonight where it is hot it makes it worse i was in there watching tv and she asked me to turn it off and i've taken some meds to try and force myself to sleep but i'm sweating and just so hot that i can't.

JP is 9 will be 10 in may and me and Sunshine have been together on and off since 2005 we went through some rough times because i was so sick and there is a 9 yr differance and she couldn't get over my age back then or the fact that i was so sick. everytime i turned around i was in the hospital on pain meds not being able to eat or anything. I had chronic pancreatitis the only way i can tell you what it is is to say go to web md and look it up its really hard for me to put it into words how it feels you throw up all the time so i have bad teeth and the pain is the worse pain you will ever feel in your live and they told me that it would kill me and so it scared her and she didn't want to lose another person that she loved so she pushed me away for 2 years and then would come back and the push me away again but in oct. 2006 i had my pancreas,spleen, part of my stomach and part of my intestance taken out and they routed everything like a gastro by pass and put as many cells they could get from my pancreas that makes insulin into my liver but it wasn't much as the pancreatitis did a lot of damage my pancreas was hard and small from it. so not i get common colds and things like that very easy and i have to take shots everyday for my blood sugar some days i take as many as 10 shots if i'm sick. and since i've had the surgery there is no scare that i'm going to die at a early age from pancreatitis and she got over my age and asked me in july to marry her and move back here (i used to live in south east texas and she is in dallas texas which is 3 hours from my home town) but i was working at a call center in shreveport,la and had just started seeing my bosses sister and i couldn't just go sorry tracy but my ex wants me back and to marry her and have kids with her and adopt her son so i'm leaving you but i really like you so i told her no that i was going to stay where i was at but me and my bosses sister didn't work out as she has ocd and she is addicted to poker so we didn't mesh very well at all and by the time we broke up Sunshine was with someone else and so i started dating jess which is the ex that treated me like crap and when she broke up with me i told sunshine and she was like good get your butt up here and make a honest woman out of me and so here i am and i'm loving every min of it all except for not having a job cause i'm a true southern gentalman so to speak i like to spoil my partner and do the whole open the doors and bring you flowers for no reason other than to say i love you and do those kind of things but with me not working i can't right now and there are a lot of things i would like to get our son as well like new games and some educational stuff because he is behind in school and has a hard time with somethings and i know of some games that would help him a lot just need the money for it and i also need new glasses so all that is just piled up on me right now and has gotten to me but i take it in stride as hard as that is.

Me and Sunshine are actually going to get married at a camp she is wiccan and there is a few camps a year and there is one in oct that we are going to and so she asked her preast and high preastess to marry us in a celtic hand fasting which is cool by me as i am celtic so is she so it plays into our harritage which i love cause no one really does that anymore they denie who they are and where they came from but we aren't going to do that. and after we come back from the camp we want to have a dinner with all of our friends and then go out to a gay bar called crush and have a reception there i even contacted one of our fav singers that we see all the time at the clubs(we go there just mainly to hear her sing and see our friends and drink) and she also is my friend on myspace so i asked her if she would sing for us and she told me yes all i need to do is tell her dates and times and stuff so its actually not going to cost us much at all. i'm really happy that one of my friends is going to be my best maden as when i first met sunshine she had a crush on her and i thought i was going to have to kick macs butt but she was madly in love with our other friend nessa so me and her started hanging out and stuff and are like sisters now i love mac to death and she didn't even hesatate when i asked her to be in the wedding.

one of our friends he is actually sunshines ex hubby he is gay and they got married just so jp could be on his insurance till she got her own and they got a devorce i was to say last year on in 2006 i don't remember ...well anyways we asked him if he would donate his swimmers to us so that i could get preggers because we know he wouldn't want any perantal rights to the baby and he told us yes after we are married so that was good news i just need to go get checked out by a dr and see if i do ovulate and if i need to be on fertility drugs to be able to conceve as we don't want to do it in a dr office we want to do it at home and it be more intement you know what i mean? i do think it will be funny as i'm very butch and i don't think i'll look right preggers at all. i'll have to show you a pick of me one day and you will understand what i mean. matter in fact do you have yahoo im or a myspance account anything like that?

mummynootnoot

Hiya I have added you to my msn if your aol is your nickname then aol.com

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nurseychicky

Nope I haven't had that exact thing happen to me. But people overstep their boundaries all the time. I have what I call the potato head body Fat trunk and thin arms and legs... and one of my old bosses put her had on my belly and said, "is there something you think you should tell me?" (implying that I was pregnant of course) so I said yeah, that I'm fat, anymore questions?

clairecheney

Not that situation but I have had shopkeepers ask me what it is on my face, had friends try and teach me their diets, had friends and distant relatives tell me their remedies for pelvic pain, had my mother tell me all these different hair removal methods, had shop girls try and help me find that perfect outfit for a young pregnant woman. GRRRRR. Sorry, sorry, just had to rant. In the end I tell them that it is my business.

My ex used to stroke my facial hair. It sounds weird, I know, but she was amazed by it. And she was rather impressed by my bust, something I developed because of my weight.

Sometimes being bi and having the symptoms of PCOS really sucks.