geek1976

I LOVE this response. I may just steal it from you if you dont mind
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lol

farmgrrl

Yeah if people ask I usually say "We're practicing" or "We're not preventing"...

wantababy101406

My DH and I tried to keep it secret the first few months. But it became more difficult, and even at one point, my mom thought I was preg. I was diagnosed with PCOS while in HS, so of course my family knows about that. This month we are doing our first cycle of clomid and IUI and not telling family, hoping for some good news! Good luck with keeping it secret!

badseedhn

We are keeping TTC a secret for now. I've only told my BFF because she is TTC and has PCOS. It's really been hard to not tell my sister because she's a nurse and sometimes I want to ask her opinion. I'm a teacher and I'm not looking forward to school starting in a couple of weeks because all of my HS students and their parents are asking me all the time when we are going to have a baby. They are even offering to babysit.

teff44

We are not telling people that we are trying, although it wouldn't be a surprise to anyone if I did get preg. I just don't want to talk about it all the time...it seems like it's easy for everyone else around me to get preg. I hate having people feel "bad" for us!

VioletSkieZ

It is so very difficult!! I come from a large Puerto Rican family and my husband from a huge Italian family and our potential offspring is the topic of convo at every gathering, event, phone call, you name it!

We've only begun trying since April of this year and I find myself being a little defensive when people ask but I know they don't mean to pry. They see a married couple, 5 years strong, no kids and the question comes flying out. DH is the blabbermouth between the two of us, when asked, he spills the beans. I guess I get defensive because I really want it to be a pressure free environment for the both of us. I feel like the more people that know, the more we'll get asked, the more we'll think about it in turn creating our own pressure. So I've adopted, "When God intends for it to happen" and " We're in the Olympics, maybe one day we'll bring home the gold!".

geek1976

Another good one
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8/15/08: Clomid cycle #1 w/OBGYN - No O
10/3/08: Started Provera to bring on AF

10/15/08: 1st RE cycle. Not Medicated - No O
11/26/08: Started Provera to bring on AF

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Jeni:Boy, BFP in Dec 08
Cheri: Girl w/Aug Connection
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zilla

I got asked about four times yesterday. ugh.

My sister asked AGAIN, before I got to our family thing they all discussed it. My Mom asked my sister. My sister told my mother she was not going to talk about it. Before I got to my sisters house everyone talked about it. My Aunt asked me. My sister asked me again. Then my (almost)sister in law asked me.

However, since my almost sister in law is a sensitive person she figured out she had stepped in it after an awkward moment and she said never mind.

I know it is normal to want to ask but grrrrrrrrr.

KristinaAnne

The other night I turned down a wine cooler- and everyone's immediate question was "are you pregnant?". Of course it had to be the day that my Dr. said my bloodwork didn't correlate with ovulation- so I'm uber sensitive about it. I didn't mean to be snappy or anything, but the "nope, we just found out today we definitely aren't" just popped out of my mouth. They felt bad for asking, and then it made me feel bad for answering!

It drives me nuts because I almost feel like people are looking for the signs and thinking in their heads that we must be pregnant---- so I feel like I'm letting them down each time. I have a new neice that's 2 weeks old, and I can clearly read people's faces when I'm holding her. It's that "aww, hopefully Kristina can have one soon", etc. I don't feel that way when I hold her (luckily I've managed to avoid that envious feeling about my pregnant friends and new babies), but I feel like others are thinking it.

Oh well, I'm hoping my next cycle starts tomorrow- so we're back to the drawing board. I guess the next painstakingly difficult secret is going to be keeping our early pregnancy under wraps! I'm HOPING to be able to hold it in until atleast after the first trimester- but I don't see it happening. I envy all those women who don't know they're pregnant until like 2 months along!

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Rx Metphormin: 11/07
Rx Clomid: 3/08
50mg Clomid 7/16/08-7/20/08
BW 7/31/08 = no ovulation
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9/4/08- Met with RE- had BW, ultrasound, prescribed Provera
10mg Provera 9/6/08-9/15/08
9/15/08- SA for DH
9/19/08 = CD1
9/29/08- 2hr Glucose test, HSG (all clear!)
Next Cycle: 100mg Clomid & IUI


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sliz

I am...I just don't want the questions, the looks or the pity if it takes too long....and I definitely don't want to disappoint my parents who really want grandchildren....only my best friend knows and she also knows that we may have issues....

maryane

I tried to keep everything a secret from my mother...the pharmacy is who screwed me over! They called to announce my prescriptions were ready, just so happened my mother was over babysitting while I was getting an u/s and the idiot on the phone said, " your Clomid" is ready...my mom, not ever hearing that name before asked, "well what on earth is that?" and the woman explained EVERYTHING to her and then at the end said," well, this is your 4th refill, how do you not know what it is?!" My mom replied that I had never told her about all "this" and when the woman found out it wasn't me on the phone (my mother said she never asked for anyone inpeticular, she just started speaking) this idiot tries to tell my mom to forget what she had heard and she NEVER called!
I'm still dealing with the "I dont trust my mother bullsh*t!" My mom was/is crushed I didnt confide all my problems in her, but the whole point in not telling anyone was because sometimes I just dont feel like discussing all this because it upsets me so bad.
OMG I'm still mad!

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He who does not hope to win has already lost. -- Jose Joaquin Olmedo

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When you do nothing, you feel overwhelmed and powerless. But when you get involved, you feel the sense of hope and accomplishment that comes from knowing you are working to make things better.
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supermouse

We decided not to keep it a secret,b ut this is how we handled it with our families,s o we wouldn't get a lot of annoying or awkward questions:

"We have always intended to have children, but we're having some trouble. Supermouse has PCOS, and is seeing a fertility specialist. We'll tell you when we have good news, please don't badger us."

They were fine with that, and discreet---did not ask a lot of questions, waited for us to tell what we wanted to tell and didn't tell anyone else either. I guess we were very lucky, not to have gossipy, overbearing parents, but I bet most people have at least one person they can tell. Im not saying you (or anyone) should say something, if you feel more comfortable keeping quiet, just that it's a tough thing to go through and having support makes a world of difference.

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1 dog "Ivy"
TTC since 5/07, DX PCOS 10/07
Jan-May 08 Gonal F/trigger, BFNs or hyperstims
May/June 08 Gonal F/hyperstim/IVF conversion
Single embryo transfer 06/08/08
BFP!! 6/17/08

beta 17dpo=481, p4=108 beta 21dpo=3060 p4=>100
beta 28dpo=>29000, p4=>108 U/S 7/8/08:Identical TWINS

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maplewoodbaby

DH an I have only told close friends, and no family only because they are putting the pressure on... there are already grandbabies, but they want more..... we are ready, but we want support , not pressure....

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Cyster Sarah

I was so excited when we first started trying that my DH had to almost hold me back. My mother and I were so close though, that looks can speak volumes. I have had to practically drag my mother in law into it because she's my friend and I want her to know what's going on. When we had the miscarriage @ 6 weeks back in March, I was glad I had told my parents we were expecting. They were supportive. We mc'd the day before we were going to tell his parents and I wish we had just called them up and told them. They were caught off guard. The biggest regret I have in all this is when I think I may be pregnant, I would tell my mom, my dh, my best friend, and a few others and they would all get excited too. But after a few times, they weren't excited anymore because it's like crying wolf! I'd say share what you want with whomever you'd want to confide in, but the maybe's, just keep those to yourself.
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BFP 3/1/08
M/C 3/7/08 (6wks, 1day)
DX PCOS 7/29/08
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jamers0060

We arent telling anyone either, except our best friends. we each told them, but our best friends are a husband and a wife so its good we told someone so we can talk to them about it if we need to. I doubt anyone will be totally surprised when we eventually get pregnant but they will be super happy!! they are always on us to start trying and all that good stuff...so i cant wait to get a BFP and tell them all the news. its really hard though not telling my own mom especially since i am now starting clomid. if i go any further into meds i will most likely tell her and my MIL too.

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Furbabies: Woody(dog) Tyson(cat)

TTC#1 since 03/08
Metformin 2000mg since 11/07
08/08=Clomid 50mg-CD 5-9/p4=4.02
09/08=Clomid 100mg-CD 5-9/p4=8.21
10/08=Clomid 100mg-CD 5-9/p4=11
11/08=Clomid 100mg-CD 5-9....In progress

Hope to get a little miracle soon!!


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