Megan, I am so sorry for your loss. I have no words for how awful your loss is. We, too, lost a baby after hearing/seeing the heartbeat. We were 11 weeks along with him. I got pregnant again 2 months later, but our first u/s on Monday convinced our doc that we will lose this one, too. We are 6 weeks along and no heartbeat detected.
Your cysters in loss are praying for you and your family.
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Mourning the loss of my angel of 11weeks on July 6th 2009.
I'd much rather be a woman than a man. Women can cry, they can wear cute clothes, and they're the first to be rescued off sinking ships. - Gilda Radner
Hi Ladies, I am so sorry to read about your losses, you are all in my thoughts & prayers.
Megan,
As I am reading your post I am remembering my m/c from 3 years ago ... I found out at 12 week routine appointment that baby HB stopped, was developed to 9 weeks. I remember that feeling when the Dr. told me and how alone I felt at that moment ... I am so sorry you have to go through this. We had been trying for almost 3 years at the time and used follistim to get pregnant. I opted for D&C and had no problems with procedure... for me it was easier to deal with m/c by having the d&c. I also have heard that a d&c can help clean out the uterus, especially if you have history of irregular periods - which I did. I waited the 3 months as recommened by my RE and am happy to say that I got pregnant again that very 1st cycle. My daughter just turned 2 and to our suprise I am pregnant again due in December with another girl... that happened naturally, which stunned my Dr. I just want to share with you my story to offer some hope. Although the road to motherhood can be quite different for all of us it can and will happen for you. It takes time to heal. I used a lot of prayer to get me through this hard time and surrounded myself with positive friends and family. I wrote a letter to my lost baby, putting my emotions on paper helped me cope with my grief. I wish you peace & comfort during this time. Take it easy on yourself.
I'm so sorry for all of these losses. I hate that we have to have this thread. Babies aren't supposed to die!
We just buried our first daughter, Olivia Caetlyn, on Tuesday. She was born on Sept.28th via an emergency c-section at just 23 weeks and 2 days gestation. I had an atypical and severe case of HELLP syndrome (which is considered a more severe form of pre-eclampsia and might be linked to PCOS.) She lived for about 20 minutes. She was just 10.5 ounces and 10 inches.
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Angel baby Olivia Caetlyn born at 23 2/7 weeks gestation due to severe HELLP syndrome.
Angie, I am so very sorry for your loss, may God grant you some peace during this terrible time.
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Riding my trike
LISA 40, DH 42
M/C 11/00, 12/06
Dx: PCOS 9/00, Type 2 DM & HTN 7/09
Meds: Amaryl 4mg, Met ER 1000 2X/day, Micardis 80mg, Iron, Calcium w Vit D, Multivit
Approved for WLS 6/09-awaiting a date!
Mommy to
NICHOLAS AUSTIN 9/1/01
PATRICK JOHN 2/15/05
SARAH ELISABETH 9/28/07
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Hello Megan, first of all I want to say I'm so sorry for your loss, I know all too well exactly how you are feeling. We also tried for 5 years only to get PG and lose that baby 8 weeks later. Like you I was also in my 30's, 31 at the time, and I also held onto the baby for 4 weeks after fetal demise.....I'm wondering why your doc is planning a D&C if you are already bleeding?
As far as advice goes, my biggest piece would be to hold off on the D&C at this time, however minor, it is a surgical procedure which comes with it's risks and recovery time, and seems unnecessary to me since you seem to be passing the pregnancy on your own. Most times the body knows exaxctly what to do so just let nature take it's course.
As far as coping, everyone copes in thier own way, but it really helped me to focus on the fact that I could get PG, and the chances of it happening again were good. My RE at the time, told me that women are more fertile directly after a m/c and I clung onto that, he wanted us to wait atleast one cycle before trying again, but it also helped me to start trying ASAP....we began trying as soon as the m/c was over and was PG again before I even got another AF.
That being said, I urge you to listen to your heart and body. Trying again right away is not right for everyone, some women need a little down time before throwing themselves back into the TTC game. For me this wasn't true, I felt kinda helpless unless I was doing something IE: TTC.....this actually helped me through both of my m/c's.
Best of luck to you which ever way you decide to go.
Unfortunately my body was not able to pass the baby naturally after all. After more than 36 hours of very heavy cramping and very little bleeding (to call it "spotting" would be generous), I was very glad to be admitted to the hospital for the D&C. The pain was just incredible for the last 12 hours before the surgery - the cramps came every 10-15 minutes and were so intense that I couldn't even breathe but they were completely nonproductive - the baby would not come out without assistance. Although the D&C carries it's own set of risks, it quickly became the lesser of the two evils bc the irritation to my cervix had become so bad that my doctor said my cervix looked like it could have precancerous lesions on it. As much as I would have liked to let "nature take it's course" I simply couldn't risk permanent damage to my cervix.
__________________ Miracle Occurs - 8/2/09
Beta 1 (RE) - 8/17/09 - 292 - BFP!!
Beta 2 (RE) - 8/21/09 - 1,497
Ultrasound 1 (RE) - 8/28/09 - 2.27mm, measured as 5 weeks, 5 days, EDD 4/25/10.
Ultrasound 2 (RE) - 9/11/09 - 14.37mm, FHR 150 bpm, measured as 7 weeks, 5 days.
First Prenatal Visit (OB) - 9/23/09 - 23.9mm, FHR 154 bpm, measured as 9 weeks, 1 day.
Second Prenatal Visit (OB) - 10/13/09 - 22.6mm, no heartbeat, measured as 9 weeks, 0 days.
10/15/09 - Miscarriage (D&C) - The Dream Ends and the Healing Begins
Megan, I am so sorry for your loss. I have no words for how awful your loss is. We, too, lost a baby after hearing/seeing the heartbeat. We were 11 weeks along with him. I got pregnant again 2 months later, but our first u/s on Monday convinced our doc that we will lose this one, too. We are 6 weeks along and no heartbeat detected.
Your cysters in loss are praying for you and your family.
Oh no! Honey, I am SO sorry. I wish that you had received more encouraging news. I will keep you and DH in my prayers this week.
__________________ Miracle Occurs - 8/2/09
Beta 1 (RE) - 8/17/09 - 292 - BFP!!
Beta 2 (RE) - 8/21/09 - 1,497
Ultrasound 1 (RE) - 8/28/09 - 2.27mm, measured as 5 weeks, 5 days, EDD 4/25/10.
Ultrasound 2 (RE) - 9/11/09 - 14.37mm, FHR 150 bpm, measured as 7 weeks, 5 days.
First Prenatal Visit (OB) - 9/23/09 - 23.9mm, FHR 154 bpm, measured as 9 weeks, 1 day.
Second Prenatal Visit (OB) - 10/13/09 - 22.6mm, no heartbeat, measured as 9 weeks, 0 days.
10/15/09 - Miscarriage (D&C) - The Dream Ends and the Healing Begins
Hi Ladies, I am so sorry to read about your losses, you are all in my thoughts & prayers.
Megan,
As I am reading your post I am remembering my m/c from 3 years ago ... I found out at 12 week routine appointment that baby HB stopped, was developed to 9 weeks. I remember that feeling when the Dr. told me and how alone I felt at that moment ... I am so sorry you have to go through this. We had been trying for almost 3 years at the time and used follistim to get pregnant. I opted for D&C and had no problems with procedure... for me it was easier to deal with m/c by having the d&c. I also have heard that a d&c can help clean out the uterus, especially if you have history of irregular periods - which I did. I waited the 3 months as recommened by my RE and am happy to say that I got pregnant again that very 1st cycle. My daughter just turned 2 and to our suprise I am pregnant again due in December with another girl... that happened naturally, which stunned my Dr. I just want to share with you my story to offer some hope. Although the road to motherhood can be quite different for all of us it can and will happen for you. It takes time to heal. I used a lot of prayer to get me through this hard time and surrounded myself with positive friends and family. I wrote a letter to my lost baby, putting my emotions on paper helped me cope with my grief. I wish you peace & comfort during this time. Take it easy on yourself.
Thank you so much for giving me hope. Your words brought me a great deal of comfort and I pray that someday I too will be able to carry a pregnancy to term. I really like the idea of writing a letter to my unborn baby - thank you for sharing that suggestion - I hadn't thought of that but the idea really appeals to me as I think "talking through" my loss in writing would help me to accept it so that I can also begin moving forward.
You ladies are the best and I can't thank you enough for sharing your experiences with me. I appreciate it more than you can possibly imagine. Just knowing that I am not alone in morning the loss of my unborn child helps a lot.
__________________ Miracle Occurs - 8/2/09
Beta 1 (RE) - 8/17/09 - 292 - BFP!!
Beta 2 (RE) - 8/21/09 - 1,497
Ultrasound 1 (RE) - 8/28/09 - 2.27mm, measured as 5 weeks, 5 days, EDD 4/25/10.
Ultrasound 2 (RE) - 9/11/09 - 14.37mm, FHR 150 bpm, measured as 7 weeks, 5 days.
First Prenatal Visit (OB) - 9/23/09 - 23.9mm, FHR 154 bpm, measured as 9 weeks, 1 day.
Second Prenatal Visit (OB) - 10/13/09 - 22.6mm, no heartbeat, measured as 9 weeks, 0 days.
10/15/09 - Miscarriage (D&C) - The Dream Ends and the Healing Begins
Julie6194; Julie For my triplet daughters, Samantha, Kathryn, & Shannon Born Dec. 9, 2007 at 21wks, 3 days My sweet little baby girls. Born very much alive, hung onto Mommy's finger. I miss you all so much it hurts...
angie I am so sorry to hear of your loss....my first son was born at 21 wks it was the hardest thing in the world to bury my child. If you ever feel you would like to talk feel free to pm me anytime.
julie sorry for the loss of your precious daughters...do they know the reason behind your loss? Has anything about incompetent cervix been mentioned that is the reason behind the loss of my first son.
miracles~how are you hanging in there....it took me sometime to come to the realty that my son was gone. Having that I had just had my 20 wk u/s just 2 days prior to me finding out about my ic and everything was perfect he was perfect then just like that I learn I am going to lose him. I always wondered why but I have come to realize after the birth of my miracle twins that I do believe everything happens for a reason. I believe that Jaidyn come to me to show me that I was able to conceive as it was almost 5 years it took us to get pregnant and he was also here to show me the problems I had being pregnant. When I put things in prespective (though in no means do I not wish he was here with us) if I had conceived my twins first I would have lost them and I do believe that is why my angel come to us. I hope you can find peace and come to your own reasoning why....though you will never have an answer and no answer will ever bring peace to having lost a child it is the greatest loss EVER
all you girls are in my thoughts everyday
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ANGEL JAIDYN~LOST AT 20.6 WKS DUE TO IC/PTL SEPTEMBER 15, 2006
MIRACLE TWINS JORDIN & ALYSSA~BORN @ 34WKS DECEMBER 7, 2007
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I became pregnant on 9/11/09 with my first child, using Metformin. I began bleeding on Thursday and rushed to the doctor. I was 7 1/2 weeks along but sonogram said baby had stopped developing at 6 1/2 weeks, she had no heartbeat. I just passed baby last night. I never ever fathomed it would be that difficult for me. We called her our little bean.
Even if my pregnancy did not have a baby... (I had a "molar" pregnancy that was ended by D&C on October 3rd, 2009. I was 9 weeks) to me it felt real and was none the wiser. Had it not been for an early u/s I would still think I'm pregnant right now.
We did not know the sex of the "baby", but we did talk to the "belly" and called it our little miracle.
My m/c was four weeks ago. I had ov symptoms at cd 13 afterwards, and breast pain ever since. This is usually a pg symptom for me, but the pg test says negative. Did anyone else experience this with such an early m/c? I would appreciate any help. When I was pg last time, I didn't test positive until 3 weeks after ov.
I haven't seen the Dr. yet for my MTHFR, so being pg again would make me very nervous. :-(
__________________ TTC since July 2008
Chem preg in Oct 2008, May 2009
Self DX May 2009
Multi, Fish Oil, B6, B12, Folic Acid, Baby Aspirin
IR Diet- lost %10 of body weight since Jan 2009
BFP! on Sept 26, 2009, but miscarried Sept 30.
