Ava Maria passed into this world this morning, at 10w5d.
This was my first loss. And quite devastating, as we'd just seen our little one waving and wiggling on the u/s on Tuesday afternoon, measuring fine, heartbeat in the 150s
It was a total and complete passing, when I called my dr's office to cancel my apptmt (my initial "new patient" apptmt--the other two visits had been "reassurance" visits--u/s to make sure wee one was good and healthy), no mention was made up of a followup, or a need to make sure everything had passed--do I need to call back and ask these questions?
I want to conceive again, and don't want to wait forever...but how long "should" one wait? SIGH. I wish I didn't need the answers to these questions....
Rachel - I'm so sorry for your loss. I also had a healthy ultrasound followed by a m/c a few days later. It's so hard to try and make sense of it.
I would definitely call your Dr with all of your questions. I had a D&C and the doctor told me he wants me to wait 2 cycles for my body to recover (and since I don't ovulate on my own, we're talking Provera and probably about 3 months).
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Usually you cna start trying again once you get your HCG back down to zero if your doctor is monitoring that. If not, they say after 1 cycle with a natural miscarriage, or 2-3 cycles after a D&C.
But take as long as you need, don't feel rushed to start trying again right away. Take some time to mourn, maybe get some type of memorial for your little one. I planted a tree and bought a resin cherub statue for mine, it's important to find something that is special for you, a way to get some closure. It's very emotionally trying, and the physical aspect doesn't help that. (*hugs*) And time does help, it really does get better with time. It never goes back to the way it was, and you will always miss and cry for your lost one, but it does get better, easier to make it through each day.
And there are always wonderful ladies on this board if you have any questions and need to vent.
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So sorry to hear of your loss! I lost my baby on Sept 2nd. A few days before you....I am here in the same boat! I certainly know how you feel and wish that we didnt have to have this experience. Anyway....we all know how you feel....I guess we can seek each other out for encouragement and such! I am here if you wanna talk!! My name is Tina from Delaware.
I'd spotted for a week and a couple of days, then I had a big gush, then more red spotting until I miscarried (that was why I had gone in for the two "reassurance" visits). I'm really only spotting still at this point. Sometimes a little bit more, but given that I had been spotting so heavily, its not a surprise that there's little to nothing left.
just - and T&D - I'm so sorry for your losses, I also had a miscarriage last month (after two healthy DD's). My heart just breaks for anyone going through this. I would say to definately call your doc and ask away. I know that mine is still checking HCG levels (though I've been told next week is the last!!) and wants me to wait a couple of cycles to TTC (though I may defy her...). (((hugs))) it's hard to go though this, my daughters still ask about our baby, so I just reassure them that our baby's in heaven and wont be here with us, but it's still hard. I feel, even after a month, that I am still on the verge of tears at any given time.
Like PPers have said, we are here if you want to vent, cry or whatever, and you can PM anyone of us here.
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I'm very sorry about your loss!! I would suggest staying in touch with your doc's office about bleeding amount and any unusual symptoms, especially fever. If nothing strange is happening, it probably all got out of there. With ttc, give your body a regular cycle. After you've had a regular AF and the month following, you are probably ready physically, JMO.
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So Sorry to hear abt ur loss,Rachel.
I am going thru a m/c myself so I know what it feels like.
I had a 'missed M/C' so I was given misoprostol y'day to 'expel' the gestational sac,& avoid a D&C.
I had the most horrifying night last night...a few hours after inserting the tabs, I had the MOST SEVERE cramping....abdomen,back,legs...........then a spate of vomitings (12) with a fever of 101.2......then gush of bleeding,...then the 'sac' came ......
Emotionally & physically I feel drained & exhausted.......still cramping & bleeding...have to go back to the RE in am to have a U/S to make sure 'everything' came out & we wont need a D&C!
Well, I certainly made up for a lack of spotting Friday, yesterday afternoon. I spent yesterday in agony. All afternoon, the cramps were AWFUL. I passed an enormous clump--not a clot, this was tissue--yesterday evening (at the 36hr post m/c mark, ironically enough). The cramps stopped completely at that time. I'm still bleeding, although nowhere near like I was yesterday afternoon (cramps and bleeding like a bad post-partum AF yesterday, fairly light and getting lighter spotting today).
Its been rough. But I feel...okay. Sad, still, it seems strange that I *won't* be pregnant at Christmas (I was already looking forward to writing them out, with "Baby J" bringing up the rear...), won't be big for my bday (my edd was four days after my bday, and 2 days before my wedding anniversary), its just...hard. I have to remind myself. I wasn't showing yet, and hadn't had any massive m/s type symptoms, so I am feeling pretty normal...which is...sad...in a way...I had just started thinking about pulling out the maternity clothes, since I had a great u/s last Tuesday afternoon..
And now...well, not anymore.
I know you ladies kwim. Those who tell the moms who miscarry that they should be happy that they have the d/c that they do--or, "At least you can get pregnant--maybe next time it'll stick"...well, yeah. THat's cold comfort. Its not as if children are clones of one another. I have five, thanks be to God..and while I know I am blessed beyond belief, the fact is, that I won't ever see what combination of DH and I this child will be. Would this have been a boy, or a girl? Would this FINALLY have been the red-headed dc we've been half-dreading all along? Each and every child is so completely different from every one that comes before, or may come after...they are not interchangable, like cogs in a wheel. Each one is so special...a different character, a different combination of DH and DW. Even my identical twin boys are radically different from each other in personality...
And oh, how I miss this wee one...how I wish I could have held it in my arms, and hugged it, and kissed its wee baby cheeks...counted those tiny baby toes. But no, not this time. And so for those who say "Be grateful", well, thanks. I am. Very much so. But that doesn't make me miss my wee baby any less. It just tells me that they don't understand.
I am so sorry for your loss. I agree with the pps. Keep in contact with your doc, I think that they all have similar but different time frames. When I had my mc before ds I had to wait a couple of months. I will say a prayer for you.
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Each and every child is so completely different from every one that comes before, or may come after...they are not interchangable, like cogs in a wheel. Each one is so special...a different character, a different combination of DH and DW. Even my identical twin boys are radically different from each other in personality...
