A little background (sorry, this may be long). I was treated with a doc through a clinic that left the practice in January. I had planned to meet with a new doc in June for my annual exam and got a suprise BFP on 5/23. I met with my new doc on 6/13 and we had an u/s which dated the pregnancy at 6w6d and we had a strong h/b. All the bloodwork at that time came back within the normal limits like they should have.
This past Saturday morning I woke up and had some brown spotting but no cramping. After about an hour I had some pink spotting and decided to call the doctor. Well I got the other doc in the clinic (whom I don't care for too much). He stated that since there was no cramping and we were at 10.5 weeks it was probably just the placenta attaching and to take it easy the rest of the day, which I did.
Around 6pm I started to get AF like cramping like I had at the beginning of the pregnancy so I figured it was nothing unusual and it wasn't unbearable. So I just continued to lay in bed and relax.
About 8:30pm my cramping got so intense I couldn't lay down, I could sit and I just kept pacing, then came the lower back pain. Well I went to the bathroom and there was a sudden gush of blood so DH called the doc back. He talked to me and wanted to know exactly what was going on, so I gave him all the details. His response to me was "take three aleve and call me back in 1/2 hour". So stupid me, following the doc's orders did just as he said. When I called back he proceeded to tell me that I was losing the baby, which I had pretty much figured out. He then told me to call the office and make an appointment to come in, in a few weeks.
Well I already had my 11 week appointment scheduled for this past Weds with my new doc. When he came into the exam room he seemd dumbfounded that I hadn't been sent to the ER or had an u/s prior to that day. He also asked if I had been told to keep any tissue I dispensed to have it tested. I told him 'nope, wasn't told anything'. He just seemed completely appalled.
Anyhow, was I just completely stupid to not know any better? I really feel like I should have known better and just had DH take me to the ER and not even bothered calling the doc at all.
I've since made an appointment for next Thursday with another doctor in town for a consultation. And am hoping that perhaps he will take any future pregnancies more seriously. I thought with PCOS I would at least have my different levels tested more than just initially to keep an eye on them.
Thanks for any input with this situation.
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First of all, Aleve is not a pain killer that should be taken with pregnancy. Tylenol is the only good one to take.
Second, I would definitely find another Dr. now that you are considered a higher risk. This Dr. is probably used to dealing with normal pregnancies -- which can make them a little more lax.
And no, you aren't "stupid" for not knowing any better. Hindsight is 20/20 and there are lots of things that happened with my pregnancy that I wish had gone differently. Oh, and I did bring tissue with clotting on it and my Dr didn't even want to see it. So... I'd find a Dr that specializes a little more in risk factors.
I wish you the best of luck.
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I am so sorry for your loss. I am sure if you received proper guidance from that doc (the one you don't care for) you might have some piece of mind. It is just very unfortunate that you had go through this experience and to top it off, you had a doc, which in my eyes, was very incompetent. Just by the reaction of your new doctor alone, you can tell that things should have been handled differently.
Again, I am so sorry for your loss.
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I'm so sorry about your loss. (((hugs)))
There's probably nothing that could have been done differently to save your baby, but this is just my opinion of course. What should have been differently for your safety is what your preferred doc would have done... the er visit and immediate followup, etc. I've never heard the "call us back in a few weeks" crap. Shame on him! I'm very sorry that happened to you. I agree that you should see someone familiar with high risk and pcos. And don't hesitate to demand the care you want,no matter what that might be.
How are you doing emotionally?
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Thanks girls for all the input, and so sorry for all of your losses.
I realize that nothing could have saved the baby, it's just more the case we should have been instructed to go to the ER and perhaps the tissue could have been tested and perhaps caught an underlying problem that could be 'fixed' for future pregnancies.
Emotionally DH and I are coping with the loss and trying to focus on the positive side. After two years of TTC, we at least know that it's possible, and perhaps with the help of a new doc it will be taken more seriously and followed more closely.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I agree you need to find another doc, if this nimrod fills in for your regular doc very often.
No, you shouldn't have known better. The night my water broke, I called my doc and said I was having contractions and bright red bleeding. He said to take tylenol, drink a glass of water and go to bed. I didn't listen, but that was only because I was at viability and knew they could try to save Rivi. And thank God I didn't listen - my water broke as I walked through the hospital doors! I think most docs just don't GET it, and their bedside manners need a lot of work. I'm sorry that idiot blew you off.
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Viv-I am so sorry for your loss. I've followed your posts and find it amazing the strength that you've shown. You truly have been an inspiration to me through my loss. Thank you so much for your words of encouragement.
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Cat, I really don't think I'm that strong. I feel more like I don't have a choice. Rivi wouldn't want me to give up. That wasn't his purpose for coming.
I would not be here today if it weren't for the other women in this forum. I came so close to giving up. I hope I can be half as supportive as they were to me.
Cat,
I am SO, SO sorry for your loss and for what you are going through right now.
This was not your fault and not due to anything you did/didn't do. We are programmed from birth to trust our doctors, that doctors are all-powerful and all-knowing, and because of this, we learn not to question them. (And when we do question them, sometimes they don't like it so much!) The doctor whom you spoke with sounds like an absolute fool; I can't believe he told you to take Aleve and call back in a few weeks. Hey, doc, pregnant women don't always HAVE a few weeks! This isn't a teeth-cleaning routine dentist appointment here!
How are you doing emotionally?
I hope this upcoming appointment with the other doc in town will help you get reassurance that you will be taken more seriously by someone else next time.
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