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Old 05-03-2009, 10:30 PM   #16 (permalink)
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I was afraid your first post was in the "numb" phase and that we would hear back about the tears. Believe me, this is soooo normal. Feel free to talk to a grief counselor, but don't ever hold the grief in. If you don't process this now, it will wait and come back again and again. I still have tears and uncomfortable times five years after my loss, but it is so much easier now to get through the days! Please be very gentle to yourself and DH. The guys tend to do their grieving very differently and much slower. Saying goodbye to this little one and her twin is devastating, and don't let anyone tell you it's not. ((((Hugs)))) We'll be here to listen.
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Old 05-04-2009, 08:01 PM   #17 (permalink)
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Every person grieves at a different level then the next. I've had two LT losses--one @ 12 weeks (boy) and stillbirth baby girl @ 24 weeks. (+two other ET losses) For some reason I grieved the one at 12 weeks way more then I did with Maya @ 24 weeks. Maybe for the reason that I got to hold her, dress her, etc made it feel more final then just not seeing a heartbeat on an u/s screen.

Many hugs & prayers are with you. My PM box is always open if you need somebody to just 'listen'. It is hard shoes to walk through but please know you are not alone.
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Old 05-05-2009, 01:15 AM   #18 (permalink)
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I completely know how you feel. I just lost my little boy 5 weeks ago. I was 19w3d. The only thing that is helping for me is time. I wish I could fast forward a little bit so I could feel better. I'm really sorry to hear of your loss.
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Old 05-05-2009, 02:34 PM   #19 (permalink)
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Yes, you should be crying 2 weeks later. I think my worst day came about 3 weeks after Stephen's death. I still cry but not as much and the anguish has lessened. I believe that we will always grieve for our lost ones but the pain does get easier over time.
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