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11-17-2006, 06:18 AM
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I'm resurrecting the loss board chat thread. Please let us know how you're doing and what's going on in your life!
(living child mentioned) I've been busy getting used to being a new Mommy. In some ways, having Dominici makes my grieving process easier - I have someone to cling to. In other ways, having him makes it harder - I'm reminded of all the things I missed out on with Rivi.
Our financial situation is a mess, with hubby working a minimum wage job and my at-home job cutting my hours to 10 per week, but I'm thankful for "enough."
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11-18-2006, 12:33 PM
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I am acting strange. There are times when I still do and think like I am pregnant. The hospital said that it is ok as long as i know the reality. The bleeding has slowed quite a bit. I am hoping to stay off my feet so that it will stop more quickly. We will see if it works. Other than that, i am doing fairly well. Still having a hard time sleeping.
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11-18-2006, 02:44 PM
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not much happening with me still waitin for af to arrive shes over a month late and ive tested loads! lots of BFN's oh well!! busy busy working it at the moment!
love to all
sian
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11-18-2006, 07:35 PM
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Hey Viv! Hi girls! I'm doing okay, I think. Now that the holidays are approaching, it's getting harder and harder again. The hospital where I delivered my first baby, Noelle, is having their Angel Tree Memorial service in a few weeks. They invite everyone who has lost a baby at the hospital...so that includes me. I didn't go last year. I'm thinking of going this year...I don't know, though. If I go, I know it'll be good for me but in a way, I'm afraid, very, very afraid. I look at my son and think, "If it weren't for the babies we lost before you, you probably won't be here today."
Sweetsmom, (((hugs))) I responded to your post over the mommy board. I don't know if you've made it there recently, but wanted to make sure that you got my message. If you ever feel the need to talk to someone, please PM me...you can even PM me your phone number and I'll call you if you just need to chat.
Sian ((hugs)) to you, too. I hope you get AF soon.
VIV, thank you for starting this thread. I'm sorry aobut your financial situation but I'm glad to see that you're thankful for what you have...some people don't even realize that... you still see the good things in life. (((hugs)))
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Noelle - my little baby, was only with us for 17 weeks and 5 days, February 7, 2005
2nd loss - my little angel, could only stay with us for a little while, 8 weeks, August 3, 2005
Hoping to remain positive, always...
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11-18-2006, 11:35 PM
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Hi Gals,
I'm getting close to Mary Catherine's birthday and feeling pretty sensitive. I've been looking at my biggies and wondering what she would have looked like and all kinds of stuff. I'll feel better after the 28th! Thank goodness Brad is taking the day off this year.
I need to go for the moment but wish you all the best!! Back tomorrow....
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11-18-2006, 11:38 PM
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viv - i feel the same as you - so excited yet so sad at the same time. what kind of work are you doing from home?
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11-18-2006, 11:47 PM
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Sweets, I remember that, for weeks after Rivi died, I'd wake up sobbing...I didn't want to wake up and remember that he was gone. It does get easier, but part of you will always be missing.
Sian, busy is GOOD! I hope you get a BFP soon.
Enits, being a Mommy after a loss is hard...and people think I'm way more overprotective than I should be. I just can't help it, though.
ETA: I must have been posting at the same time as Sheri and Becky!
Sheri, I'm remembering your sweet girl with you. ((hugs)).
Becky, I'm working for a survey company, making survey calls (yes, that's me calling during dinner, lol). It's mind-numbingly boring, but it's let me stay home with Dominici so far! | |
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11-19-2006, 01:14 AM
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I am having strong contractions since my milk is coming in. Bleeding is heavy again. I just want that to stop.
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11-19-2006, 09:27 AM
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I didn't have contractions when my milk came in - how awful! Can you call your doc and see if they can give you a prescription?
As far as the milk goes, wear a tight-fitting bra. Some women say fresh cabbage leaves help dry it up faster - I never tried it, though.
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11-19-2006, 02:49 PM
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thanks for this thread it gives me hope that i will go and and have a successful pregnancy so many of you have gone on to have babies after all youve been through
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11-19-2006, 05:11 PM
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siany22-yes, there is hope for a live birth. I am having a hard time being encouraging but I truely believe that we should not let the passing of our children prevent us from moving on and trying again. In the past I have let the babies I lost or the babies I want be what I always focused on. They are always a part of us but we are not disrespecting them or their memory to move on.
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11-19-2006, 07:55 PM
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I am around. I am just trying to get thru the holidays. I am really missing my angels and especially my granny that passed away this past yr. I know that they are all together in heaven looking down on me, but it just isn't the same. I am glad to know my granny is up there with her 4 grandbabies (our 4 angels) taking care and telling them how much they are loved and missed, I guess that is how I am coping better lately.
I am here if anyone wants to chat! I will be busy working as this is one of the busiest weeks at my job.
Hugs to you all!!!   
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11-19-2006, 10:57 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by sweetsmom  Still having a hard time sleeping. | Sweetsmom
I had a tough time sleeping after my loss too. I think for me it was because I wasn't expecting to get any sleep after bringing my new baby home - so I didn't think that I should be getting any sleep. I still am a bit of a night owl - stay up too late - even years after the losses, but I think that now it is just habit.
I know the reasons may not be the same for you, but I wanted you to know that you are not alone.
Kath
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11-20-2006, 12:40 AM
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I've been keeping busy with grad school and planning the wedding. We're renewing our vows on May 5 with the whole wedding mass and reception since we got married at the courthouse without anyone present.
I took a pregnancy test in October because I had all the signs but it came back negative. We're going to start trying officially on our honeymoon in May.
I got through the anniversary of losing Morgan alright but I'm not sure how Thanksgiving or Christmas will be. I just try to take it one day at a time. I bought an ornament to honor Morgan for the Christmas tree. I cry every time I see it.
Thanks for starting this Viv. Its good to see how everyone is doing and knowing that there is hope.
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11-20-2006, 08:05 PM
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((Maggie)).
I think most of us can go on to have other children. Then we're a mess while raising them. I should start a thread on the Mommy board - parenting after a loss. It's hard.
I do think, if you're having a particularly rough time, you should put TTC on the back burner until you're a little more emotionally ready. It's okay to take some time to reevaluate.
Nicole, we bought an ornament that holds Rivi's picture. It's the first thing on the tree and the last off. The first Christmas after losing him, we didn't decorate for 3 weeks - his ornament was the only thing on the tree. It was just too hard to look at it. The holidays will be hard, but you'll get through them. And, with time, they'll get a little easier. | |
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