Links | Links 2 | Links 3 | Links 4 |

Go Back   PCOS Message Board > The Mother 'Hood' > Coping with Pregnancy Loss

Reply
 
Thread Tools
Old 07-19-2005, 02:25 AM   #1 (permalink)
Boundin' Cyster
 
Chastity's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2001
Location: Carolina Girl
Posts: 3,514
Chastity has a spectacular aura aboutChastity has a spectacular aura aboutChastity has a spectacular aura about
Points: 3,185.59
Bank: 0.00
Total Points: 3,185.59
Default Loss of a twin at 15-17 weeks

I was pregnant with twins until just recently. I saw both babies via u/s at 15 weeks. At 17.5 weeks I went for another u/s and we could only see 1 baby. We also saw another collapsed sac with a "membrane" inside. I go for my scheduled Level II u/s this Thursday. I have a toddler, so DH wasn't able to go to any of my u/s appointments b/c he was keeping DS. He went to the last one in hopes of seeing the babies.

I'm pretty busy all day and usually take time at night to think about my pregnancy. I've been feeling fine until I go to bed at night...then I start to get upset and do a lot of crying. I feel so awkward b/c I haven't passed anything, or had cramps, or even a strange feeling that the baby wasn't there. I even feel a little strange posting here b/c even though I've had a loss I'm still pregnant. I feel a little guilty about being happy that I'm still pregnant. Sometimes I find it hard to grasp the fact that one of my babies are gone. I saw a baby moving, with a good strong heartbeat, and now it's just gone.

I try to talk to DH, but I can't right now. I need to give it a little time. He hugs me and holds me and tells me that we'll be okay, but I really haven't sat down to talk to him about it w/o crying. Thanks for listening and letting me get out what I have to say.
__________________
Chastity - Mommy to Bailey (4) & Justin (2)
1 Angel Baby Lost to Vanishing Twin at 16 weeks

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Chastity is offline   Reply With Quote

Sponsored Links
Old 07-19-2005, 02:47 AM   #2 (permalink)
~*~*~****~*~*~
 
*pEaNuT*'s Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2004
Location: West Virginia
Posts: 5,084
My Mood:
*pEaNuT* has a reputation beyond repute*pEaNuT* has a reputation beyond repute*pEaNuT* has a reputation beyond repute*pEaNuT* has a reputation beyond repute*pEaNuT* has a reputation beyond repute*pEaNuT* has a reputation beyond repute*pEaNuT* has a reputation beyond repute*pEaNuT* has a reputation beyond repute*pEaNuT* has a reputation beyond repute*pEaNuT* has a reputation beyond repute*pEaNuT* has a reputation beyond repute
Points: 11,800.57
Bank: 7,492,429.05
Total Points: 7,504,229.62
Default

I am so sorry for your loss!! *hugs* Please PM me if you ever need to talk!!
__________________
Carey(31)
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Paul(43)
Married 7-25-02
PCOS Diagnosed Nov 02'
Bi Polar Diagnosed Feb 08'
Current meds~ Lithium&Celexa

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
4 furbabies
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
*pEaNuT* is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 03:14 AM   #3 (permalink)
Let's Go Red Wings!
 
JuliannePCOS's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2005
Location: West Michigan
Posts: 1,927
My Mood:
JuliannePCOS has a reputation beyond reputeJuliannePCOS has a reputation beyond reputeJuliannePCOS has a reputation beyond reputeJuliannePCOS has a reputation beyond reputeJuliannePCOS has a reputation beyond reputeJuliannePCOS has a reputation beyond reputeJuliannePCOS has a reputation beyond reputeJuliannePCOS has a reputation beyond reputeJuliannePCOS has a reputation beyond reputeJuliannePCOS has a reputation beyond reputeJuliannePCOS has a reputation beyond repute
Points: 7,895.46
Bank: 0.00
Total Points: 7,895.46
Default

Hugs for you.

__________________
Jules (34) Harrison (35)

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Sparky, our emergent cerclage baby, born at 23w1d on 3/4/07 through his cerclage.

Died from NEC on 3/12/07.
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.


To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Scooter 1/28/05 16w3d, IC

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Tater Tot 9/10/05 9w4d


To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Pucky 6/11/07 blighted ovum

Dx PCOS 10/2003.
TAC placed 6/28/07 at University of Chicago.

Moving on to IVF after a year of infertility and 3 Femara cycles. Lupron started on 7/27.


JuliannePCOS is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 03:24 AM   #4 (permalink)
Registered User
 
Rebecca's Mom's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2005
Posts: 3,042
My Mood:
Rebecca's Mom has disabled reputation
Points: 17,334.31
Bank: 47.89
Total Points: 17,382.20
Default

****************hugs ************** for you and your dh and blessings on little one to come
__________________

Rebecca's Mom is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 03:41 AM   #5 (permalink)
MMA
Proud Mother of Matthew
 
MMA's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2001
Posts: 756
MMA is on a distinguished road
Points: 171,391.44
Bank: 0.00
Total Points: 171,391.44
Default

Chastity (((HUGS))) My heart breaks for you! I am so sorry for you loss! I will keep you and your family in my prayers!

Michelle
MMA is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 03:43 AM   #6 (permalink)
Registered User
 
Lana_LB's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Perth, Western Australia
Posts: 70
Lana_LB is on a distinguished road
Points: 380.00
Bank: 0.00
Total Points: 380.00
Default

So sorry to hear that you had to go through that. Losing is the worst thing to go through, specially when everything is going so well. I know its hard to do but keep your spirits high; sending you lots of hugs and kisses for your remaining little one.
__________________

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.



To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Lana_LB is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 04:22 AM   #7 (permalink)
patiently waiting
 
babywatcher's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: pittsburgh pa
Posts: 232
My Mood:
babywatcher is a splendid one to beholdbabywatcher is a splendid one to beholdbabywatcher is a splendid one to beholdbabywatcher is a splendid one to beholdbabywatcher is a splendid one to beholdbabywatcher is a splendid one to behold
Points: 3,590.04
Bank: 0.00
Total Points: 3,590.04
Default

{{{hugs}}} i am so sorry
__________________

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
babywatcher
beth
Start Working on my Master's Degree in September
me(29) DH(30)
babywatcher is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 04:32 AM   #8 (permalink)
Kir
proud momma!!
 
Kir's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: South Africa
Posts: 354
Kir will become famous soon enoughKir will become famous soon enough
Points: 2,147.00
Bank: 0.00
Total Points: 2,147.00
Default

(((HUGS))) I'm so sorry for your loss, and sorry that your experiancing all these mixed emotions around it. Your family is in my prayers. try and keep your chin up.
__________________
Kirsty


To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.


I'm 22, and mother of the worlds cutest little boy
We did it, we're having another baby,
I'm due on the 18 of March!!



To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Kir is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 05:35 AM   #9 (permalink)
Navy Wife Cyster
 
SweetPea76's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2004
Location: New Jersey
Posts: 245
SweetPea76 will become famous soon enoughSweetPea76 will become famous soon enough
Points: 3,837.68
Bank: 0.00
Total Points: 3,837.68
Default

I am so sorry for what you are going through. Losing a baby is one of the most difficult things a woman can go through, and the fact that you are still expecting one little miracle doesn't override the hurt and pain that goes along with losing a baby. You suffered a loss, just like the rest of us, and its okay for you to cry and mourn your baby.

I understand about it not really hitting home yet. I knew I had lost my baby for a few days before I actually experienced the m/c, and until the actual event, it was hard for me to believe my baby was gone- I was hoping it was all a dream.

Just like it's okay to cry and mourn the baby you lost, its also perfectly normal to be happy and excited for the baby yet to come. Although I know just saying this won't make the feeling go away, you don't need to feel guilty for your happiness.

Wishing you peace,
Jessica
__________________
Jessica

TTC #1 for 15 months
m/c July 2004
DS May 2005

TTC #2 for 10 months
m/c Feb 2007
DD Nov. 2007
SweetPea76 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 06:43 AM   #10 (permalink)
i AM a mommy!!!!!
 
coree's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Canada
Posts: 423
My Mood:
coree is a name known to allcoree is a name known to allcoree is a name known to allcoree is a name known to allcoree is a name known to allcoree is a name known to all
Points: 760.09
Bank: 675.38
Total Points: 1,435.47
Default

))))Hugs(((( to you
__________________
.1 mg Synthroid /daily
100mg Zoloft / daily


To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
2 months
mommys little monkey
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.



To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
coree is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 09:15 AM   #11 (permalink)
Energizer Bunny :)
 
Mommyto2Miracles's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2004
Location: Western NY
Posts: 776
My Mood:
Mommyto2Miracles is a jewel in the roughMommyto2Miracles is a jewel in the roughMommyto2Miracles is a jewel in the roughMommyto2Miracles is a jewel in the rough
Points: 1,092.55
Bank: 3,405.06
Total Points: 4,497.61
Default

I'm so sorry sweetie. ((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))) for you and your DH.
__________________
Me 26 DH 48

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.


To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.


To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Mommyto2Miracles is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 09:38 AM   #12 (permalink)
Registered User
 
JESS4HOUSTON's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Virginia
Posts: 2,377
My Mood:
JESS4HOUSTON has a brilliant futureJESS4HOUSTON has a brilliant futureJESS4HOUSTON has a brilliant futureJESS4HOUSTON has a brilliant futureJESS4HOUSTON has a brilliant futureJESS4HOUSTON has a brilliant futureJESS4HOUSTON has a brilliant futureJESS4HOUSTON has a brilliant futureJESS4HOUSTON has a brilliant futureJESS4HOUSTON has a brilliant futureJESS4HOUSTON has a brilliant future
Points: 8,195.27
Bank: 1,066,330.26
Total Points: 1,074,525.53
Default

((((((HUGS)))))) Your family will be in my prayers!! God Bless you!
__________________
Jessica & Houston
8/18/01
Jordan 6 & Brandon 3
JESS4HOUSTON is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 09:54 AM   #13 (permalink)
Babysteppin Cyster
 
kwannabee's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: ontario, canada
Posts: 3,411
kwannabee has much to be proud ofkwannabee has much to be proud ofkwannabee has much to be proud ofkwannabee has much to be proud ofkwannabee has much to be proud ofkwannabee has much to be proud ofkwannabee has much to be proud ofkwannabee has much to be proud ofkwannabee has much to be proud ofkwannabee has much to be proud of
Points: 47,443.14
Bank: 0.00
Total Points: 47,443.14
Default



I'm so sorry for your loss...and that emotional tug of war you're going through. I know for a fact the numbness and the shock wear off eventually, and thats when you and hubby will really be there for eachother...so for now just try to take care of you and your baby and know that your little angel is watching over you both...take care...

Kim
kwannabee is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 10:12 AM   #14 (permalink)
Registered User
 
southie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2003
Location: South Africa
Posts: 370
My Mood:
southie has a spectacular aura aboutsouthie has a spectacular aura aboutsouthie has a spectacular aura about
Points: 5,139.91
Bank: 0.00
Total Points: 5,139.91
Default

(((Hugs)))
Your feelings are all quite normal. This is an emotional time where you don't know what's up or down. You will grieve for the baby you lost but can still be very happy for the baby you have.
It was much earlier, aprox. 8 weeks, that I lost one triplet and even now I still miss that little one and imagine 3 babies instead of two playing in the living room.
You may not pass anything. It is possible for the baby to be simply readsorbed. I don't know if this is better or worse than actually passing something but it can certainly happen
Southie
southie is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-19-2005, 11:14 AM   #15 (permalink)
Missing Gabriel & David
GabrielsMom's Profile Fields
 
GabrielsMom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2004
Location: I'm a New England girl
Posts: 1,942
GabrielsMom is a splendid one to beholdGabrielsMom is a splendid one to beholdGabrielsMom is a splendid one to beholdGabrielsMom is a splendid one to beholdGabrielsMom is a splendid one to beholdGabrielsMom is a splendid one to beholdGabrielsMom is a splendid one to behold
Points: 12,831.40
Bank: 0.00
Total Points: 12,831.40
Default

Chastity, I saw the title of this thread and I thought "No... no... oh no." I am so sad for you Allow yourself to grieve the baby you lost. Allow yourself to be happy for the baby you still have. Don't feel guilty to be happy that you still have one of them. Any loss is devastating, and having another doesn't take that pain away.

You are in my thoughts,
Adrianne
__________________
Adrianne 31, DH 44 - married 6/01 - 2 DSDs (13 & 15)
Gabriel born 19w5d 11/15/04 due to IC.

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

GabrielsMom is offline   Reply With Quote

Sponsored Links
Reply

Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

Points Per Thread View: 1.00
Points Per Thread: 15.00
Points Per Post: 5.00

» Watch PCOS Videos

PCOS Awareness Video...
So many people don´t know about Polycystic Ovary Syndrome. I was inspired to do this because I saw o...

{widget place holder} {widget place holder}
 
Powered by vBadvanced CMPS v3.0.1

All times are GMT -3. The time now is 03:21 AM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.7.0
Copyright ©2000 - 2009, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.1.0
copyright 2002-2004