Love my Wife

Jordan_Diamond · 07-03-2002, 07:45 AM

I love my wife with all my heart. Always have and always will. Took a lot for us to be able to be together, going through immigration and all, and she is the MOST precious, important woman in the world to me, though, I guess sometimes, I don’t always show it the way I should. Normally, I am as understanding and supportive as I can be. Even though I know they’re not all about me, not directed at me, once in awhile, she says things I can’t help taking some part of personally. Today was one of those days. I was frustrated, feeling like there was just nothing I could do to keep from irritating her, and I snapped at her, told her she hated me. I hurt her feelings. I KNOW she loves me with all she has, and I know she does NOT hate me or feel bad towards me at all.

This site has been a source of lots of information for us. Wanted to post this here because I’m angry at myself for taking these things so personally, and upsetting her, hurting her feelings, and want to tell her I was wrong, I know that. I know and and I do understand what she’s going through is hard on her. At times, she feels stressed, feels sick, and down, and instead of being supportive, understanding today, I added to her pain. I just want her to know, and have a place to see in writing for the world….her husband can be a big goof sometimes, but he loves her SO madly. She’s the most beautiful and sweet woman, I live for her smiles and small warm cuddles. Want her to know that even though there may be times when it doesn’t seem like it, I do understand and I do care. She’s who matters most to me. She's the most incredible woman, and I know everything'll be fine, she's more than I could have ever asked for! Just wanted to say that...

Love YOU, Peanut…forever!!

Lisa67 · 07-03-2002, 12:34 PM

What a wonderful thing you have done! It takes a big person to admit they reacted in a way that may not have been so favorable.

I think we have all gone through times like your's & your wife's (I'm there myself right now!) and it's wonderful to have each other to lean on.

Give your peanut a big hug from me! I hope things turn around soon!

Oh, and thanks for signing up as a soulmyster!! It's wonderful to meet you!

ILLINOISHUSKER · 07-03-2002, 12:40 PM

I've never posted in the mister side. but i want to say that my dh is very tolerant of my emotions and tirades. Which is great and all.

but i must say too, that as a cyster, i have gone over the line too. I have been too nasty or too grumpy and if my dh acted that way, i'd want to slap him. So when he gets mad and calls me on it, i feel more guilty and mad at myself.

PCOS is a syndrome, it's not an excuse. I'm sure your wife knows that you love her dearly and you know she loves you. Tolerance is good, but talk about it and tell her how it feels to see her like that. Sometimes I don't know when I'm being way b#tchy. My dh likes to call me Sandy, my mom's name. LOL, she's a tough little woman.

Remember to communicate, apologize, and make up! Goodluck.

ABailey405 · 07-03-2002, 08:53 PM

Yeah, us women. You can't kill us(though you would probably like to) and you can't live without us(although you would probably like to try sometimes.)

It takes a big person to do what you did. She will see that. Probably is the one reason she loves you so. My husband and I, when we get like that, just say we are going to the store, or I will go to my parents house. That little break means all the difference. You have to find your niche, and you will. Until then, here is to happy hunting!!!

Annie

Beachy · 07-03-2002, 11:37 PM

I dont get it!!! Are you for Real????????? Someone's gotta get my DH on here!!
He needs to know how a real DH should be! he's on this thing all the time looking at NASCAR ,uHHH! HELP!!! Oh By the way,,,,,,, We are suppose to upgrade our satelite dish, so I said well which do you want? A baby or OR More TV ?? And he said uhhhhhh I dont know! " Well do we have to go through what we did last month?" My Goodness!!! I told Him I was sorry for the way I was going to be before I took the CLOMID!!!!! And i already appologized for the way I might be next week!!!

You men can be so difficult sometimes:o

DolciLady · 07-05-2002, 11:51 AM

Jordan, bless your heart!!!!!!!! If I were your wife, you'd have melted my heart in an instant, posting that for the world to see.

Robin

Andy Fisher · 07-08-2002, 02:07 AM

Dear Jordan,

Well, I do to have to confess I have been a little short at times with My Fiancee. But the main thing is to realize when you have gone over the line and admite and apoligize. My fiancee can be grumpy at times. But I tell you... a kiss or somethin more can sure change her attitude.

I think sometimes we all need a little re-direction when we are in bad moods.

kellie bellie · 07-08-2002, 04:05 AM

Hi Jordan
Just wanted to say what a great message that was!!
You and I are neighbours..............I live in Cloverdale, just a short trip over the Port Mann bridge!! Let me know if you are giving out lessons on how to be nice to your wife.................I will send my dh your way!!!

BabyJades-DH · 07-14-2002, 07:58 PM

My soon to be wife and i have been together for for ooh 3 years now... we have a little girl and they both mean the world to me and i would do just about anything to make them happy... some times she drives me nuts... we get into yelling matchs some times and its mostly my fault because i dont think clear enough as in a way to avoid the situation... some times it may take creative thinking or just buck up n shut up... we would get into arguments over the littlest of things that would drive any one up the wall... It used to be very bad... i would loose my temper and throw things around like a little kid... you do stupid things when you loose your temper and its like your incontrol but you do things before you think.. I believe that we have seriously improved because none of the above happen any more and i keep my cool and if a conversation starts turning into an arguement i try like mad to change the subject or try to drop it which works 95% of the time.. Most of these arguementative actions where caused by irrational hormon's combined with others... Its best to "Nip it at the bud" before it gets ugly... and thats what ive been doing...

Before.. i didnt understand that its not her fault.. and that the problems we had could be solved properly with out violence with proper choice of words... not lying your teeth off but just finding a way to get out of the conversation before it turns ugly... not to ignore because that will make it worse... but find something else to do... go out side choosing something else to talk about... change of scenery almost works all of the time..

Im a 100% jerk and sometimes when it works in our favour im proud of it... some times im ashamed... but i cant change my self.. it does it on its own... it takes time and learning for one to change to be a better person..

FYI to women with SO's who when you ask to make a rash decision ie: a child or more tv ... yes we can be complicated as can women can but its because we dont want to either answer or make the decision because its unfair and why cant you have both ... its like trying to say you can ONLY have sour creame OR butter on your pottatos or like living in the desert and either getting a car with ac or central air with ac in your house... your choice but you can only have one the questions arnt fair and some times neither are the decisions... though i dont know the full story and im asking this as inncoently as possible but what does "more tv have to do with having a child" one you do in the after noon.. one you do atnight... or when ever

Daniani · 07-14-2002, 08:09 PM

hi,

Just wanted to say that was a very nice message you posted. Also, I am from Coquitlam, live up on Westwood Plateau so hello neighbour

Danielle