I have to be the most impatient person ever!!!! I keep looking for adoption situations everyday I check the adoption forums for a situation WELL when I first started this process I told my social worker I do not want any babies that are or have been exposed to alcohol or drugs. Today I see a situation where the birthmother used drugs and alcohol every three days during the first 5 months and it said the doctor did an ultrasound and everything looks fine with the baby. I know they say the baby looks healthy but how can they tell by looking at an ultrasound? Won't the baby still be likely to have problems? any information would be greatly appreciated.
I kjnow it's very hard to be patient. I was the same way 5 years ago when we first looked into adoption. Don't lower what you want in a child, just to have a child. You might end up regeting it.
That said, I would said it depends on how much drugs and alcohol and what kind of drugs. Sounds like a lot, every three days for 5 months. I would talk to your doctor and see what they think. They could tell you best.
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Even ONE DAY of chemical abuse CAN affect a baby's brain. ONE DAY is all it takes. Also, chemical abuse in the father can affect a baby as well, as it can be in the sperm.
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Thanks Ladies I think I really just needed a reality check! It's good to be able to have someone to talk to about these things and keep you focused on what you really want even if YOU HAVE TO WAIT LOL.
My sil's sister adopted 2 newborns at different times, both were from drug addicted moms, serious drugs: cocaine , meth the other did those and was also a drinker and hiv positive. Amazingly they are both healthy and progressing at this point normally. One will be 5 the other 3. There was lots of whispers behind her back and people were sure she was making a huge mistake. I was sure she was too. she didn't want to wait and wanted a newborn, her choice. I know that things can come up later in life but even with non-drug and alcoholic abusing mothers, sometimes just because of genetics , things can go wrong.
I say do your homework, talk to Dr about what the long term effects can be. Not everyone is lucky, but so far she has been and I would think the odds of getting a healthy baby, even under these circumstances, are still in your favor. Our bodies are designed to offer protection to a baby, granted, that is not always the case.
Good luck!
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Thanks for that bit of information Sandra but I think I better wait for the right child for me. I'm not sure if I could handle a baby that may have problems from what someone else caused. I think if I know that the birthmother did everything she could to take care of herself and the baby and something happened I would probably be more willing to accept that. one thing I need to learn is that patience is something learned and GOD is going to make me learn them one way or another lol lol.
Thanks for understanding where I am coming from. Sometimes I think I am just to picky but with something like this you have to be you know this is a life-long commitment. Sandra do you know just out of curiosity of an Agency in Indiana called Angels Adoption INC.? I was originally going to work with them but my agency talked me into staying with them telling me it will be easier than going across state lines to do an adoption. Maybe you know someone who has dealt with them?
I've not heard of Angels Adoption INC? Do you know if they changed name or have they had that name for awhile?
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I'm sorry they are in Cary IL. I don't know why I thought they were in Indiana.
They have been around since 1998 at least that's what there website says and they are a part of the better business bureau. I'm thinking maybe I should contact them again it may not hurt to have other options available I guess the more resources I have the sooner I will have my baby home and not just an empty nursery.
This is making me crazy i'm so impatient! 
