Just curious as to how men deal with their wives ups and downs and the stresses of coping with being unable to conceive. We as women feel hard done to at times and when the going gets tough our boys always seem to stand by us. Just looking for a male perspective x x x
Well, I can tell you that my DW and I were lucky enough to become pregnant after only about 6 months of trying...and actually it was after we had kind of stopped "trying" that we were able to conceive.
It was a hard & difficult time for both of us, but the most important thing is to communicate & keep your eyes on the big picture, which is to become pregnant. It can be frustrating for both of you at times, but you just have to lean on each other & reassure each other, that in the end, it will all be worth it.
Another thing that helped us, is that I chose to look at the PCOS as being "our" problem, and not just "her" problem. So when we were trying to conceive, and she would get down on herself or blame herself, I would reminder her that we were in this together and that we would get through it together.
It wasn't always easy, but we did get through it and were blessed with an absolutely beautiful baby girl...and there's no amount of struggle or strife that wouldn't be worth that !!
So, for what it's worth, I hope our story helps you a little.
It's not always easy, for either one of you, but you just have to stay strong, stay dedicated, and don't lose faith.
I wish you both the best of luck !!
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and sometimes hookers....
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nah, actually i found having a healthy supply of icecream in the freezer helped...
nothing soothes a savage beast like strawberry icecream.
or in our case, rainbow sherbet.
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I've heard plenty of old timers say that good and successful marrages are work. I guess trying to have a baby is part of the job description. Even if it requires overtime.
Lee
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I have to completely agree with Lee on this one. I love my wife with all my heart. We go thru stuff, but we go thru stuff together. It's not all "for better" and it's not all "for worse" but it's good that I have someone with me to go thru it with.
We've not had to deal with the exact stresses you're talking about, however other PCOS-related (and non PCOS-related) stresses have come & gone, and we've gotten thru. And, no, mike, no hookers necessary.
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