I am a high school teacher and I am very strict. I teach computers and in a lab of 25 computers with Internet access and teenagers, I think it's necessary to be strict.
Anyway, I got my feelings hurt because I heard one of my really smart students (one I thought was very nice, as well) make a rude comment about me. She called me a fat, bald, *itch.
I already hate the way I look. Now, my heart is a little broken, too. I knew how thin my hair has gotten but I had hoped I camoflauged it well. Now, I know better. I feel like it is ridiculous for me to continue to wear make up and try to wear nice clothes if my attempts at looking nice are all just going to be sabotaged by PCOS symptoms.
Anybody here understand?
Billie
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I completely understand. My hair has gotten much worse in the last year, and it's getting harder and harder to cover. I try to keep up with make up and dressing ok though..... I feel worse about myself if I don't. It's more for the emotional/mental aspect than anything else.
I'm considering being a teacher also, and I've often thought about if I'll be made fun of.... I know it won't be easy. But, I also know that some kids in high school will say mean things just because it's the teacher....like they're supposed to knock them down. So, I feel for you....
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i'm sorry billie, but teenagers are usually the least compassionate people on earth.
you know they are totally about themselves, they are like 2 yr olds all over again.
It's supposedly cool to slam a teacher and using things that are considered funny ( i say cruel) to them.
It would hurt my feelings too. I'm an ex teacher and I've heard some things too. I'm sure your strictness will get comments even though kids hate to admit that they like structure.
I guess teaching hardened me and made me realize that i do the best i can do and i'm past the high school feelings. YOu are a success, you have made it through college, you are helping kids, you are making money..etc.
You could use this as a teaching tool. I'd never admit i heard the girl, but you could do a lesson regarding bullying, comments and such. Make them do research and find out results and talk about how one persons comment makes an impression for a last time. Make them look within and find things that hurt their feelings. It might not make a difference, but you could always look at the person continuously and make her squirm. Drop little hints...
ok i tend to believe that they should face what they do.
Well i'm sorry i ranted. I am sorry you feel that way, but dont let a stupid little girl who hasn't even lived yet. Remember what goes around comes around. You won't see it, but she'll live to feel someone doing it to her.
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I understand what you are going through. I too have very thinng hair. I cant wear it down with out bald spots showing. I have spots all over my head except underneath. The sides are bad and the top is worse of all. I am 29 and have been loosing my hair since I was 19. I often get depresed about it. It is harder for me to deal with than being over weight because people usually talk to my scalp instead of me. I try to distract them sometimes because it bothers me. I know that most of the time it is not intentional. I have recently found something that camoflauges it very well for me. It is streaking spray. It comes in different colors so it is easier to match your hair color. I only use it when I have to go somewhere important and I want to look nice. I have had many compliments on how beautiful my hair is. "If they only knew". I have to wash it out when I get home because it comes off onto the pillow. I do my hair after I'm dressed. I just put a towel over me to protect my clothes. It can run if you are sweeting alot. If I am dancing, I just keep a napkin close by or I just keep check. It really has made a big difference on how people see me. I don't have to worry as much when I use it. It is also great for oily hair touch-ups. My hair gets oily a few hours after I wash it. I get it at Sally's Beauty Supply Store. People especially kids can be so cruel. I have had my share of torcher. Noone deserves it. Continue as you are and keep your head up. Don't let anyone get you down. I hope this helps.
I know EXACTLY how you feel -- I teach HS too and have heard a few comments like that too. I am pretty strict too, and usually it is the kids that have brought discipline upon themselves that are the worst. If it were me, I probably would ahve confronted her and written her up. I had a situation a while back where I discipline someone and then in another class he said " I hate her. I hate all fat people". it hurt to hear he had said that, but I got a bit of revenge. The teacher who heard him wrote him up and he got a day of ISS. I found an article on weight discrimination and for an ISS assignment he had to read the article and write a paper on the topic.
That said, it is hard, and it will probably continue to be hard, but I have come to a placewhere I have to realize that I am above it, there is more to me than what I look like, and if they cannot appreciate that they are the ones losing out.
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Hey, sweetie. I was a secondary teacher and "got out" before my PCO symptoms really got bad. I don't have a thinning problem, but the thickening elsewhere.
Anyhow, keep putting on that makeup to enhance your best features. Look in the mirror and pick out something that looks great--a new shade of lipstick or a blouse that's particularly flattering or a print that just makes you happy. You are more than a hairdo!!
They really are like 2-year olds. Hang in.
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Don't worry... she's just a teen. I am a teacher too, Middle School, and I have been every name in the book.
You are fine. Have you tried taking MSM tablets? There is this product on the market called Surge Hair Revitilizer. It works well for both African American and White textures.[size=3]
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Well I'm in HS anymore and I'm not a teacher but, I do know that if I was being insulted over something that I can't control I would speak out about it. It's probably too late now but if this should happen again I would call this student on it. I would tell them that there are aspects of my appearance that are out of my hands. What I'm getting at is, I think that people need to taught tolerance about people with differences, and if that means I need to suck up my pride and confront a situation than I will do it.
Sorry to hear that your students are lacking respect.
I wish you and everyone Good luck
Deb
that kinda thing really pisses me off. you should make her write an essay about how she has lame, uninventive, put down humor, and what it must say about her personality and own insecurities, then no matter what she writes, give her and F, call her stupid, then say just kidding, youre not stupid you're just wrong about everything and one day it will hit you in the ass so hard you might realise it.
(edit, everyone tells me i should be a teacher, this idea kinda proves them wrong hehe
No Vancouver, it proves them right Some of these little @#$!& need to learn to respect authority-- I see kids get away with everything. Public schools sadly are a mess to...
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I used to be a high school counselor and know what you're talking about. I got out because it drained my already depleted energy.
I would suggest validating yourself. Make an example of her and make sure that the rest of the class knows who the boss is. If they think that she can get away with being disrespectful, the rest of them will do it. You may want to go as far as to say something like "I may be fat and bald but I'm running this classroom and you're not running anything in here but your big mouth. Whether you like me and my rules or not you will respect me when you come in here, and that goes for everybody else."
I agree with Smeggle.. don't get on her level but make sure that your classroom has an atmosphere of mutual respect. Your PCOS has nothing to do with your teaching ability and does not make you a target for abuse, especially from someone who has a maturity level of zero.
Furthermore, if she called you a *itch that's an automatic trip to the office. Profanity and cursing a teacher is grounds for disciplinary action.
omg sorry but i am laughing so hard.
Nicole u are the funniest!
QUOTE]no matter what she writes, give her and F, call her stupid, then say just kidding[/quote] LOL
I used to really wanna be an english teacher (still do) but don't think i could hack it.
when i was at school some of the kids used to be so cruel. separate her from the gang n u watch her crumble.one of my teachers used to wear a wig n one day a kid pulled it off. he never did it again! u are in charge. make them dance to ur tune. keep us updated. i love hearing of cysters kicking ass! xxx
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