I started having excess hair on my face, chin, neck and other parts of my body where we women really do not want to have hair, when I was 20. I just turned 36.
I have been shaving my entire face since 1986, and now I am on the cream Vaniqua which has helped tremendously!
At first, I was quite horrified at the fact that I would have to shave everyday and somehow try to hide it from the male population that I wished to attract.
In 1990, I was diagnosed with having a massive right adrenal tumor. My doctor was almost positive that it was cancer and that my right kidney would also have to be removed as well. Then he began to talk about chemotherapy treatments and how it tends to cause hair loss.
At that moment I started laughing - hysterically! I am sure my doctor thought I was completely insane!! It just had hit me how ironic it was that I was so upset over EXCESS hair, and now there was the possibility of cancer and NO hair.
I had my surgery (I was 24 at that time), and to everyone's happy surprise there was no evidence of cancer. The tumor and the right adrenal gland were removed successfully.
Of course the hair did not go away, and it was not until moving to Dallas, Texas and many years later in 1997 when I was diagnosed with pcos and last year pmdd. Then the random puzzle pieces that had been my life - began to create a picture.
Hirsutism, also affectionately known as "that damn hair"!! can make you feel like the ugliest female in the world. But please remember, we women are 100 times more critical of ourselves than any man will ever be. I have many male friends, ex boyfriends, past lovers and a wonderful husband to verify this.
Yes, there are men out there who see nothing but the outside, and they can really make a woman feel ugly. But those same men would make a super model feel ugly eventually in some way, because those kind of men ARE UGLY themselves, and they want to make others feel small. They tend to give all men a bad name.
Most men are kind, and if they really care about you, they will not let some hair follicles stand in the way of love and happiness.
On another note, try to do all that you can to make yourself feel good about you. I am not just speaking about looks either. Take a class, make new friends, get a hobby - whatever it is that makes you appreciate ALL OF YOU - the outside, inside and everything in between. Whether a woman has pcos or not, she is most attractive to others when she has confidence and knows who she is with or without a significant other. The funny thing is - that's when the significant other (the right one) usually comes along.
I hope I do not sound preachy because I certainly don't know it all. I am on a journey of life and learning just like everyone else.
But I have been through many things regarding pcos and the effects it can wreak on women (and at times men who love those women), and I just want to help anyone who will listen.
Thanks for listening.
Keleigh
cysticsister@aol.com
men...how do i tell a man about the hair? 
Yes, there are men who like hairy women 
