Hi
some of your might have read my post my great aunt died. anyway I visted her everyday for the last 6 years and before that it was once a week.
anyway the ? is I sat in the hearst with her because I thought her funeral was on our shopping day thurs, so it was our last little journey from her house to church 3/4 miles away. then i got out at the end of town with the undertaker and walked the last little bit to church. noone knew i was doing this i dint know if i would go through with it. but i did, i bet everyone outside church was chuntering tough luck i say. anyway the undertaker said just hold your head up high and go for it. so I did. she would have been proud of me , and my husband and one of my aunts and me was the only ones that went to she her in the chappel of rest I went 5 times cus i knew she was at peace no more suffering she had lung cancer. never had any treatment only nurrufen from the supermarket.
I also put some flowers in with her I told her that she had to give then out when she got there, and she told me only 2 weeks ago to put her money in with her so I gave her a £5 note bless she was grinning when i put it in her hand.
I wish I had had the courage to do something like that when my mum died 6 years ago.
Good for you - and stuff the rest of the world. I was 22 when my mum died, and too concerned about what the rest of the world thought of me while I was out in public doing the funeral thing, so I didn't do much, except cry. Regret that now.
Thinking of you often
Stedders
xxx
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I just got back from walking my dogs the last time they went was on the morning i found my aunt nearly 2 weeks ago, but i had so much to do didnt have time to walk tehm , anyway while i was walking and thinking it was a PLEASURE to be related to my GREAT AUNT and I am ASHAMED to be related to some other of the family,
there is no better saying than
YOU CAN CHOICE YOUR FRIENDS BUT NOT YOUR FAMILY
before we went into church it was moan moan behind my and i mean pychcial stood behind me moaning, and when we came out these plp dont want to call them family i let them stay with me for a week,
and they are all in ther 60's im only 33 and they are the ones acting like 3 year olds sorry actually my 3 years olds i know act BETTER
sorry this has turned in to a rant but just need to get it of my chest so to speak,
The first Christmas after my mum died was also the first Christmas that I was married. When we got to my grandparents' house (Mum's mum and dad), my mum's 3 sisters, 2 of whom I'd always thought were waspish vipers, made snide comments on how they and my grandparents hadn't seen me since September (mum's funeral).
Well, excuse me for living 100 miles away and trying to carve out a living as a supply teacher for myself. I spent plenty of the time between mum's death and that Christmas feeling sad and depressed. Apparently, I was supposed to bare my soul repeatedly for their satisfaction to prove just how much I grieved for my mum.
Well, go jump the lot of you, I say!!!!
Even now, nearly 6 years later, it's still cathartic to say that sometimes!!!!
Don't waste your time on anyone, family or otherwise, who isn't big enough to leave you alone at this time, particularly as you were your aunt's primary carer, as I was for my mum at the end.
You loved her and I'm sure, even if it wasn't put into words, that she knew that.
Best wishes and friendly vibes coming your way, from Ruskington!!
Stedders
__________________ me:28 years old, married since 08/1998, dh: Trevor, 28.
No kids, not ttc (ever!!). Concerned about my health. Dx Summer 1994. After an ultrasound, the doctor said "You have PCOS, you'll probably have trouble conceiving. Bye"
Recently became more interested in PCOS after struggling to lose weight despite good eating habits.
Test results 19 Mar - Not diabetic, borderline hypothyroid. No meds. Woo Hoo!!! To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Now thoroughly enjoying aquafit classes twice a week. Yaay - exercise I like!!!
3 furry felines - Ace, black female, aged 6; Marble, tortie female, aged 3; Pepper, tabby female, aged 3.
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might b long was I wrong? to late now 
