Does anyone else feel VERY bummed out and depressed after sex? my poor boyfriend is the best lover ive ever had hes sweet and caring but then once we are done i dont wanna be touched, i dont want to talk. I know he sometimes feels like its him....anyone else have this problem?
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It may be your self esteem wispering in your head (this is my problem sometimes ) or you may just be the type that when your done, your done! Men will instinctivly roll over and sleep, you may just be the same way to a certain extent. Hope you get some answers!
Hmm, maybe you are trying to pull back, emotionally from your bf. Are you contemplating a change, or do you feel guilty about being with him. Has it always been that way? Is your libido different than it was? have you had a change of meds? They can cause total havoc to your sex life. Many questions but not many answers. Sorry lendi
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My relationship with my boyfriend is great as far as i know.....i have no regrets about being with him and am totally happy.
My med have remained the same, one factor that just popped into my head that hadnt b4 was that my family has been under a lot of stress.....you know, 1 tragety after another.....id always assumed it would make me wanna be closer to someone i love though and not pull away. i guess i could be wrong
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I wonder if you might have some feelings, deep inside you, caused by all the stress you're going through. I know that can cause sleep disturbances, it makes sense that it could cause other difficulties. Have you spoken to a counselor. Maybe a few sessions, just so you can know what the feelings you're facing are, can get you to feeling better. Sounds like you're afraid to get, emotionally, close to someone. Maybe froma death in the family or something. Stress can be pretty powerful. Big Hugs, Lendi
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The first question that comes to mind is How do you feel during sex? Is it good or are you going through the motions?
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during the sex its great, i feel nothing but love for my boyfriend and by all means its a mutual act....but when we are laying in bed after i got lucky and have one of those guys that likes to cuddle and im just like *ugh, dont touch me*
i dont understand it! its really frustrating
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Can I ask are you easily orgasmic? Sometimes if I can't orgasam..well I feel a little resentful towards my husband (especially if he did and I didn't) and I feel that there is something wrong with me because I didn't. Especially if there is a really good build up and then WHAM...nothing.
Other things that I am thinking are body consensious (sp?).
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usually with some work i can orgasm, and my man is very understanding in that dept and wont stop til i do (sorry tmi prolly) but i definitely am self concious, hate the way my body looks even though he worships me.
i really think a lot of my problem is stress related
__________________ 2000 mg metformin
10mg mavick ( for high BP)
261lbs is my heighest weight, im working towards 160!
**Not TTC right now
I used to feel that way all the time. I was fine during sex but afterwards I would get very depressed, sometimes cry, and I could never really pinpoint what it was that I was feeling. Almost like I hated myself somehow.
It got better after I got married but I still feel that way sometimes if I'm feeling particularly moody, but I think it has a lot to do with not liking the way I look.
I would guess it is related to stress or how you are feeling about yourself at the time.
You aren't alone!
might be tmi but who else? 
lendi
