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Salam sisters! I'm up a little late (for my family anyways, DH and DD go to bed at 8:30 and its 10:10 now!) because I had a bit of homework and studying for exams to take care of. Thank you all so much for your support of Sarah. Inshallah, it will go well but I'm realistic that she's most likely not going to be a normal child. But you know what I always thought? My mom told me when I was pregnant that when a woman is pushing during labor, her duaa reaches Allah and is almost always granted. When I was pushing with Sarah I asked Allah for a child who will be one of those who go to heaven, I didn't want a child who will grow up to be a bad person. Maybe this is the best way Allah has granted my duaa? I don't know, but I do want to tell you sisters (especially those who are TTC) that having a special needs child really changes everything. You know how we try to explain to those who seem to get pregnant every year how different it feels to try so hard for a baby and not get it? This is the same thing. But, hamdillah, I'm so glad I'm in a position that we can do whatever we can to maximize how far medicine has gone today. DH tells me that my personality has a lot to do with it. I'm the type of person who always asks "Why?". In religion, sometimes we watch the shows with the Imam or Shiek and people call in and ask questions. If I didn't like what I heard I would always ask, "Why this way and not another?" With Sarah, I kept asking why this happened to her. People used to tell me to drop it or just be glad you had a baby. But my annoying "Why?" got me my answers 2 1/2 years later and is possibly getting Sarah the treatment that might help, even just a little bit. I think I'll end up spending my life chasing after different things that might help her, although later on she'll have a say in it!
Nomadic- Your post broke my heart. La habibti (you lived in Saudi you should know what that means!! LOL) please please don't be upset. Your DH is right that you'll see the doctor soon and in shallah she'll be able to help. I know you might try Femara but let me tell you something. Worst case scenario, you'll have to do IVF. I know its not the romantic method, but it almost always works in our cases. Look at that lady who had the 8 babies! There's this woman that's a friend of my sister's. She's been married for 10 years with no babies. Finally she got IVF (Not sure what took her 10 years to get up and actually do it) and she had triplets. My other sister's friend actually has PCOS (she lives in Kuwait) she had IVF for her first three children (all singles) and then went for the last IVF since she wanted a fourth child. She ended up pregnant with four babies at once. She's about to deliver in a few weeks. So inshallah one way or another you'll have the baby outcome. Please don't give up hope, you have to stay positive. Hamdillah we are born in an age where there are quite a few options. Imagine being born 100 years ago or 50 years ago? We'd be cast aside like someone with the plague.
Miria- What are you doing online, girl?? You need to SLEEP when your baby is sleeping! Wallah you're going to kill yourself if you don't take a break and take a nap! LOL
Noor- I wish Sarah's dad brought chocolates for Sarah's mom. Yesterday I bought a Dove chocolate bar. They are actually three bars in one (not sure if anyone has eaten from them but they are soooo good). Sarah ate two, yes TWO of the three bars. Her face was all chocolate and her eyes would light up at the sound of the wrapper being peeled off. She's such a girl! A master's in education? Wow! Inshallah you'll do great. When do you start your research? I've already started mine and I feel like I'm going to fall off the computer soon! Inshallah you'll do great. My dad has a PHD in education and he loves it. He's a principal for the Islamic school in Austin, TX. I'm glad you've found your calling though, its really hard to be a teacher. Carbs are my secret friend. I've fallen off the wagon recently but I'm trying to be good. I do the South Beach Diet which I've found to be the best. You only take out all carbs the first two weeks, then you slowly add them in. I know its hard. What I did was make cake but cake that I think is gross (like carrot cake). I spent time baking and decorating it and telling DH it was his to eat. This way I knew I wouldn't touch it. If i made chocolate cake, I'd eat about half! LOL All our food is carbs (between rice and bread). I had to modify a lot of different foods and eat a lot of sugar free jello! I actually have been ovulating recently. After I lost the weight, I ovulated in Dec, Jan, and I'm hoping in another week I will again. Before that, I hadn't ovulated in almost a year and half. Low carb is hard, but you can buy things that will make it easier. I always bought the ready made sugar free Jello or the veggies that are already washed and cut. Makes it harder to by lazy that way. BTW, I say pick up when your family calls. Talk to them normally, brag about school and let them know what you're doing with that. If they decide to bring up a baby mention that it's hard to juggle a master's and a newborn and that you've decided to be selfish and put yourself first. I say be snotty like "Oh I'm going to further my education what have you done lately??" (but I'm normally rude like that! LOL!) They'll get the hint and move on to another subject.
Sara- Why are you named Sara? I named my daughter after my sister. Its not nice to say but she's my favorite sister and I love her to bits. She lives in Kuwait (she's 8 years older than me) but we still manage to talk to on the phone almost each day. Inshallah you will ace your exams. Don't forget stress makes your period late. It might be a good thing to not have your period until exams are over, this way you're not worried about cramping while in the middle of it.
Sisters- Lets stop and think for a moment. We all have the 'curse' called PCOS, right? Why think of it as a curse? Think of it as a positive thing. Do you know how much hasanat we get because we are coping with a life long illness? How much hasanat we get for the hearache of not having children or having to go through all these medications and doctors in order to concieve? How much more are we going to love our children, compared to those women who have a baby every other day and then complain constantly that they are driving her crazy? The saying is easy come easy go. But we don't have it so easy, do we? So its going to be that much sweeter. Also, our illness is nothing compared to those with cancer or with diseases no one knows about. Last week, I watched, on Discovery health, about a girl (who is 8) who is the only known living Mermaid girl. She has a condition at birth, that fused her legs together. That little girl had the biggest smile on her face throughout the whole hour long show. They filmed her from age 6-8. She was so positive and so cute all I wanted to do was to hug her. No one like her lived past 2 or 3 days so they don't know how to treat her or anything, they are making it up as they go. Hamdillah, we are not like this. I say we get out of this rut of a depression we are in. I want to hear good news from you ladies...yalla...each person say something good that happened to them that day.
But you can still vent when you're angry!!
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4/07
(HUGS) 
but I've managed to get in the routine let's hope I stay on it. And 'Sarahsmom' is right, you've got a new baby why aren't you sleeping whenever you get the chance? lol Your new bundle of joy must be keeping you busy! (HUGS) 
(so much for the diet, huh?)
