Chips- Don't worry about it. You're pregnant..not a bad person! You have so much hormones surging through your body, its perfectly normal to feel that way. I'm not even pregnant and when its almost that time of the month I get upset and angry at everything. It gets so bad that sometimes I just look at DH and tell him "I'm angry and I'm not sure why except that I'm supposed to get it in a few days". When I was pregnant with Sarah I used to cry because DH would comb his hair too loud for me when I was sleeping. Yup...comb...it's crazy I know.
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Hi everyone! I updated Sarah's blog with new pictures of her first day in intensive PT!
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Chips- I wish I could give you a hug. I know how diff of a situation your in and all your feelings are so legit and real. There is something I wanted to ask if you are willing to try and that's write your husband a email about everything that bothers you and is worrying you about your fil. And, Try to explian that you willl fully compermise if your husband helps keep the balance. I'm really sorry for what your going through and my message probably doesn't make much sense but I went throught something so difficult with my hubby and I wrote to him. It did help the situation. I hope the best for you.
Sarahsmom- Thanks for your wonderful advice...I'm looking into it.
I wanted to ask you guys if anyone has had Gestational Diabetes in their pregnancy. A friend told me some very scary things today that freaked me out. She was telling me abou how it affects the child and how much damage it can be to the child. I'm so scared. I have it and its confirmed after the 3 hour test. Please let me know what I should be eating...I won't be seeing the doctor till the end of the week
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Faith- My sister actually has diabetes (not just when she's pregnant) and has three beautiful healthy children. I remember the only thing is she had to go to the doctor more often than normal because they have to monitor the baby. Having diabetes can make the baby bigger than usual (just a fat baby) so they wanted to make sure that the baby didn't get too large. That's it!
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Faithandhope: GD is not that bad. Sarahsmom pretty summed it up for you. they will decide if they need to take the baby out or induce you if the baby is getting too big.
Chips: I really do feel for you. Please try faith&hope's method, it usually worked for me. Since he is his father, I will wait till he gets here and misbehaves again before I state my terms. If he behaves badly again I think u will have to tell DH to pick one, you or his father because if he decides to raise his hands to hit you, you would call the police cos DH will probably be at work and MIL will not be there to stop him this time. (I hope I didn't sound too harsh, the situation just makes my blood boil).
My MIL wants to come, but I have told DH no visitors, I know it won't be easy but I am willing to take the stress i don't want anyone to come annoy me, not even my mum. My mum mentioned it in passing that she was going to renew her VISA, I didn't even respond. Both my mum and MIL didn't really help when they came when I had Adam, it was from one headache to another.
Lauren: Salam, welcome back. Your cyst size are not too bad, i think the bcp should do the work. Are you also on Met ? Bcp works better to shrink those when combined with met.
Sarahsmom: I hope Sarah is having a blast at the therapy. The story u narrated really touched me. I will like to help the woman with some hand me down from Adam, if her son is younger. How hold is this and how do I mail the stuffs to her. Please PM me any info that can help. I pray Allah provides for her needs. Just when you think you have a problem, you see others with greater problem. Allahu Alim.
Diamond, rusalka, wantababy, nomadic, green etc- How are you my dear sisters.
Tyra, sister, thank you for asking dear. I'm kinda confused, my bbt hasn't gone down even if my period is over, it came quite late if you remember, I'm worried that this is a cyst or some serious problem, inshaAllah it's not. Will see...
Sorry ladies I've been a bit self-centered these days, I had guests from Sydney, 6 people, been running around like crazy. Now I have my brother over here, he's preparing for his "specialist in medicine" exams.
Welcome to mahjab, NHA and sakinah. Forgive me if I forget to mention anyone.
Salam to all sisters.
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Currently on Metformin 2000 mg/day
Salam to all the new sisters and welcome to this fantastic thread. If you really get into
this thread, you'll make some amazing some friends here. I know I have... who'll listen to
your rant and teach you things from temping, to meds, to how-to-clean-your-bathroom (again,
that's what my experience has been, Alhamdulillah!).
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I'll just tell you all why I've been missing and then try to get to personals.
It's Alhamdulillah great having my mom here but since she doens't have much to do, I try to
spend every possible minute of my time with her. I keep reading updates on this thread on my
mobile before sleeping but it's hard to write back since Mama will get bored it I'm just
sitting her typing away.
Sarahsmom: JazakAllah khair for asking about me sister. 35 weeks and still counting. Sarah
is MashALLAH so, so, so ADORABLE! I feel a quickening in my heart seeing her - I can only
imagine what you as a parent go through. And when I say quickening, I mean a quickening of
joy and courage. I think I have mentioned my masters was in psychology and I've seen plenty
of special children and Lina, Sarah is MashAllah so lucky and so strong compared to what
I've seen. Children with mild walk impediments and speech impediments were just put away as
if they were schizophrenic. Any updates on Reem?
Chips: Your story made me so angry first and then so sad that you should spend this
so-so-so-wanted pregnancy of yours in tears of frustration and fear. We all know it's
important to love and take care of your parents but Pakistani and Indian men tend to get so
bipolar about it, you feel like taking them to a therapist. I think it's just some weird,
contradictory conditioning that takes place in our socities that makes them like this.
There's not much I can add to what others have already stated but I have a feeling it'll be
another year or two before your FIL would be able to land in this country. Every man coming
from Pakistan on a visa and especially a K3/I-130 visa (meaning they'll be getting a green
card) has to go through background checks and that can take anywhere from 6 months to YEARS.
When exactly did your husband apply?
Also, I know how upset you must have been when your parents told you to "compromise". It's
the worst ouch but again, it's just traditions talking through them. Parents think the
safest thing for their daughter is to maintain silence even when they KNOW for a fact their
daughter is right and the in-laws aren't.
And chips, impossible as it may be, focus on your pregnancy. Write a journal for the baby,
you'll soon find out the gender (you haven't yet, right?), start doing research on cribs,
car seats, feeders... inshAllah it'll give you such positive energy.Keep us updated!
Faith: I can't believe your friend told you "scary" stories about GD. I mean, enough with all the morbid lessons on pregnancy we hear from people.
Rusalka: I love the Turkish president. Did you vote for him? I was telling someone I liked him and a sister in the masjid said he isn't that good. Really?
Bundle of joy, IMG, all other sisters, what's up? Hope you're all doing well...!
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Sarahsmom- SubhanAllah that story is so sad. May Allah give her patience and reward her for her struggles.
Nomadic- My husband acts a little bipolar about his parents as well. although he swears up and down he doesn't. But Alhamdulilah it's not too bad.
Bundle of Joy: Alhamdulilah it's not. I think it is getting better. When I first started running I would get some abdominal pain after, but that is mostly gone now.
Sorry for being a little out-of-touch. Life is manic at the moment. Too much to do. But Alhamdullilah .... once I am done academia will have contextualised the voice of the believing Muslim woman. Please make loads of dua for me. I really need to just "Keep calm and carry on!".
Chips my PhD is amazing, a blessing from Allahswt! I argue from the standpoint that Islam is inherently emancipatory to women, but that Muslim women however are doubly marginalised. By patriarchal culture within Muslim societies that denies them divinely ordained rights and also by pluralist society that does not understand their faith-based values and hence sometimes perceives them as oppressed or simply 'different'. I believe that by giving the Muslim woman a voice to participate in discourses relevant to her life, she can contribute (more that she already is) towards inter-community dialogue and understanding, leading to more cohesive societies, InshaAllah
I warn you sisters, you shouldn't be setting me off about my PhD. Next I will be trying to paste entire chapters here!!!
Chips your FIL seems to be a problem. But you need to talk to hubby about your concerns. The best way is to disarm men. Tell him how you want to love and look after your FIL and which you should too. And then tell him that you have concerns. I don't understand much about Visas, etc so cant advise there.
Faithandhope all will be fine. Not that I know anything about pregnancy and PCOS or the likes. But I will make dua for you, and dua ALWAYS works. InshaAllah.
Lauren, Ahlan Wasahlan, Welcome! I guess you won't know me because I am rather new. Its a nice place here, SubhanAllah. Again I don't understand much but will make dua.
Bundleofjoy good for you!
Rusalka take it easy sis. Are you going to go and see your doctor soon? Will make dua. Congratulations to your sis-in-law
SarahsMom, Sarah is lovely. MashaAllah. You are so blessed to have her. Has the weather there cooled down.
Here its definitely getting cold brrr... Autumn means that my front and back gardens need urgent raking. And me and DDH (darling DH) are too lazy to do it. Last Sunday I planted 6 containers with spring bulbs - daffodils, mini tulips and crocus. Thinking of getting a few more. Hubby says I spend his money on my garden but doesn't complain anymore, MashaAllah! I think he is still impressed with all my home-grown tomatoes! My the way sisters because we had our first frost I had to pluck all the remaining tomatoes from my plants. Many are still green. Any recipes I can use please? also does anybody else enjoy gardening?
Diamond
Wantababy
Everybody else
PS: One last thing, my blood tests results came through. Everything was normal except as I expected "concern: PCOS". I am going to see my doctor next week to talk about this. Please keep me in your duas.
I am almost over my flu cold whatever it was...I was knocked out the whole weekend! I can't believe I spent an entire weekend sleeping! but i think it did the trick! I dont want to have that feeling ever again! I have never ever felt that bad before!
I was prescribed tamiflu (even though my GP ruled out H1N1) and it has gelatin in it so i didnt take it for the first couple of days..I confirmed with an Imam that it was permissable to take it (he said yes- for medicinal purposes) and so I started to take it and boy does that thing kick in!! lol...
So back to work..cooking..cleaning...blah blah!!!
I have my Gyn appointment next week - this is the 2nd dr. i am going to...both my GP and the 1st Gyn ruled out PCOS...so somehow after 7 years of it it disappeared but i still have all the symptoms...Inshallah this Gyn will be more helpful...otherwise we are gonna start taking meds to help us concieve..
Nice to see Rusalka and Nomadic here again...inshallah you both are doing well...
Welcome to the new sister..
Chips - my duas are with you - the stories I could tell you... (I know exactly where you are coming from) inshallah sabr and faith will help you through this rough time...Allah tallah is the all mighty and everything happens for a reason so there must be a lesson in all this... please make your baby ur #1 priority at the moment, hard as it may be...please also look after yourself...
sarahsmom, faith, green, bundle, and everyone else hope you all are doing well inshallah..
Please keep me in your duas you all are as always in mine...
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Dgnsd 1999 ish
No treatment or medictions at the mo.
'Bare the trials and tribulations for today for tommorrow is another day.'
Greens - you totally need to pickle those green tomatoes, with loads of garlic, and green chillies.....Mmmm!!!
Thanks, sounds delicious..... Do I simply pickle them in vinegar, salt, garlic and green chillies? If theres more to it, please can I have a slightly more detailed recipe.
although he swears up and down he doesn't. But Alhamdulilah it's not too bad.
) are too lazy to do it. Last Sunday I planted 6 containers with spring bulbs - daffodils, mini tulips and crocus. Thinking of getting a few more. Hubby says I spend his money on my garden but doesn't complain anymore, MashaAllah! I think he is still impressed with all my home-grown tomatoes! My the way sisters because we had our first frost I had to pluck all the remaining tomatoes from my plants. Many are still green. Any recipes I can use please? also does anybody else enjoy gardening?
