zainab- inshallah you will have some very good news soon inshallah for your mom
rusalka- thanks sister
i submitted my application but its a very hard program to get into so i think i may get denied but i am making tons of dua...that would really help financially =(
Salam sisters! How are you all? Inshallah everything is good with you. I'm getting my sanity back a little. I'm taking a little break for half an hour before Sarah and I go to her physical therapy for the next two hours. Mashallah, this place is really doing good for her. Sarah would always stand on her toes with her right foot (from the stroke) and I'd have to push her foot down to get her to stand normally. She's been going there for a few weeks now and they've really been concentrating on her feet. Hamdillah, yesterday I noticed she was standing with her feet flat on the ground on her own. Its these little things that make a big difference! Tomorrow, we are going to be going to Orlando for the whole weekend for the special needs seminar. Inshallah, as soon as DH gets off of work (at 5pm) we're going to have dinner and go. I should be home around Sunday afternoon (in case there is no internet there).
Wantababy- Salam sister! Yes, inshallah, we'll be leaving for Germany next Sat. I will be taking my laptop with me and there is internet access in the hotel (once we finally get there as we are actually flying into Zurich and driving up) so inshallah I'll do my best to post here. If I'm unable to post here, I'm going to at least post updates on Sarah's blog (which is in my signature) because my whole family will be watching that while we are gone. I want you to know that I'm making duaa that you get into the IVF program. Don't lose your faith. Even though it is hard to get in, SOMEONE has to make it. Why can't that someone be you? Inshallah it'll happen for you.
Zainab- I know, people who are baby machines bug me. At least you got your job out of it!! LOL! Inshallah you'll have great news to share with your mom when you go to England. I'm glad that you're going and perhaps that stress-free time there will bring about pregnancy (it seems like your in-laws have you working hard!) We're all making duaa for you that you'll have a pregnancy ticker on your posts soon enough!
Rusalka- LOL! Don't call me that! Seriously, I just talk a lot and always have something to say! As for your story, your husband is sooooo sweet! I think he knows what a wonderful wife he has and that's why he's doing all this. Mashallah, you are truly blessed to have a husband who loves you so much. Not many women know this kind of love. Inshallah you'll always be this happy together. As for the fasting, I'm doing ok. I actually don't feel bad at all. I'm going to fast tomorrow but then take the weekend off (since we'll be in orlando) and then start back up on monday. Oh as for your comment about being a proud Turkish woman, did I tell you that my mom's actually Turkish? She's from Ankara, but my mom was born in Syria and grew up there. She didn't speak Turkish but my grandparents and uncles/aunts did. I've picked up a few words from my grandmother before she passed but nothing significant.
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Chips- I'm so so sorry. Can I ask you something personal? Is it AF or just spotting? Either way don't lose faith. Have you talked to the doctor? What's the next course? IVF? *hugs* I'm so sorry sister.
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Chips: You know I had made a mental book mark that I have to see my doctor on June 4 and you have your beta on June 5. I was really hoping you'd give us some good news... but as Sarahsmom says, don't loose your heart yet. I know, I know it's extremely heartbreaking. Memories of so many months pile up when I'd sit on the pot with a single-lined test strip and cry. You still have another shot at an IUI, right? You're def. in my prayers.
Sarahsmom: Keep posting all these little developments of Sarah, they seriously melt my heart. I can just imagine how much fun you guys will have in Iowa inshAllah. How is Sara with her cousins? Has she met them before? She must be a tiny baby if she did.
Ouch about the previous apartment people. I remember how your DH thought you were overdoing it with all the cleaning, it must be really frustrating to get that letter then. DH was telling me his land lady tried to rip him off once too, thinking he's just a recent student here and would be frightened to not pay... but he gave it to her and she backed out.
You know I didn't think about this before, she could probably go to jail in Yemen for photographing women at all-women places. I agree with you totally, at home and among women, we SHOULD dress up. Hijab is not a shackle, it's a promise of discipline, you dress up in a certain way in front of men and at all-ease with your husband and women. I actually love the Arabs for implementing this. In Pakistan, people think men and women are the same and you dress up in the same way in front of them... which is why most Pakistani women, when introduced to the Arabs in arabia are scandalized (I remember in Saudia, Pakistani aunties would sit in their shalwar qameez at all-women recreation centers, watching saudi women do aerobics in skimpy clothes and be all giggles and oh-my-God-oh-my-God... grrr!)
I hope you guys have fun in Orlando. It's so great they have avenues like that here, seriously.
Wantababy: You've got my dua with the shared risk program inshAllah. What exactly is their criteria for selection?
Faithandhope: 2 days behind hardly sounds like a cause of concern inshAllah. Hope you're enjoying being busy.
Zainab: Oh boy! Seeing your parents after THREE YEARS?!?! MashAllah, sister, you have some patience. I hope youre really enjoy visiting them inshAllah and have some awesome news to take along. Ameen.
About your SIL, I think we'll just let Allah swt judge whatever her reason is to re-think and may Allah SWT make it easy for her and for all of us to obey Him. The thing is, if we're doing anything right, it has a lot to do with the will of Allah too. If He were to suddenly remove all His guidance from me, I wont be able to do much.
But my friend (I dont know if i can call her that anymore - she removed me from my facebook list in protest of my protest - silly girl!), not only did her views change, she thinks the rest of the hijabis are just gutter-material... and goes on to "expose" them.
Rusalka: Of course Mr. Rusalka can join in inshAllah. Everyone gets their own reward for reading it as it is. So when do we start reading, inshAllah?
Simone: Where are you? You gave us our personals but didn't tell us how you're doing... I'd like to hear about you... what have you been up to...
As for me, I threw up a record 15 times yesterday. It was just saliva and stomach acid but it left me shaking and aching terribly all day. My OB/GYN said in today's appointment to start nibbling on things that sound good. So, in the process of this post, I just had one bite of mashed potato. I can hardly taste it (my tongue has a yucky white layer, it makes me throw up more when I try removing it with a tooth brush)... and my throat is so scrapped up from being dry and all the vomiting, it hurt to swallow that one little bite from the tip of a spoon. Prayers needed again, sisters.
Good news is, Mama's visa got approved Alhamdulillah, so she should be coming within this month inshAllah! I'm so excited about that, I just imagine her being home with me and it brings tears to my eyes.
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SARAHSMOM:...it started as spotting...but now its more than that....
I took the home pregnancy test ..it was negative...
Tomorrow is the 5th...I had to go to the doctor's office for BW ...I will call them tomorrow morning and see what they say...
The last I was there she said that if AF started she will give me a prescription for BCP ...so as to regulate the cycle and so I can get the next period...which otherwise wont happen on its own...
In the meanwhile I have to make an appointment with the doctor again...its called 1-B and is an insurance requirement...so when that is taken care of...First week of July ,if all goes well we will start the IVF cycle.
The DH is always saying that he has a gut feeling that the IVF will work for us...I hope so...Inshallah...
Today the DH got a binder from his work with info about medical and dental insurance.It said that every year they review the plans and decide if the will stay with the same insurance carrier etc etc...and they will be staying with the old one.
This left me wondering...what if it had changed and the new company never covered infertility...!??!....
Because our previous insurance covered nothing related to fertility treatments.
Just made me realize that I should be thankful to God....atleast I have a chance to try IVF...there are so many out there who can't try it.
Just another way to try to be optimistic,I guess...
Inshallah it will work for us and all those who are trying when the time is right...Inshallah...
I still havent updated myself with other sisters in the thread....I hope all of you are doing well.
SARAHSMOM you guys must be getting ready for the upcoming trip.I hope you guys have a safe journey and may Allah swt make it the best for Sarah and her parents...ameen...
NOMADIC:..I think we both were posting at the same time so I kinda missed your entry...hope you feel better soon Inshallah....
yaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyy...your mom is coming ...mashallah thats great...You will feel so much better with her around...*hugz*
Thats so sweet of you to remember the 5th of June.
Well it was the last IUI which was fully covered.we can do another one but will have to pay for the cost of the procedure.but we want to go to IVF now,God willingly.
You know what...I was a disappointed...but I had this feeling for the last 2 weeks that it hadn't worked...meaning I never had heightened my hopes tooo much ,so I guess it wasn't that disappointing...*sighs*
I hope all will fall into place when the time is right....inshallah...
Wa'asalam
Nomadic- Thanks!! I'm doing great just really tired these days. Congrats on your mom coming! That's just amazing...this baby is going to be bring alot of great things in your life : ) I gotta ask, What cDountry is she coming from. Cause DH's mom really want's to come for the baby and she lives in Lahore, Pak. To top it off I'm from here and don't even know the first step. So please do fill me in.
Chips- I know few people who have had IVF done with great sucess and it's great your keeping your spirits high!
Sarahsmom- Have a great time in Orlando! I miss my home : ) I don't know If I told you but I'm from Lakemary, FL. Miss it so much and can't wait to go back.
As for me...I'm doing great, just tired and very excited about my first obgyn appt next friday. Hope you guys are doing great.
Guy's has @ngel come back yet? I havent seen her post and was wondering how she's doing?
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Chips: Alhamdulillah you have a chance at IVF. Our insurance didn't cover anything related to infertility and MashAllah both you and your DH sound positive about IVF. July is not far at all. Is your doctor giving you provera to restart your cycle?
Faith: Mama is coming from Lahore. You basically need to send her some forms (I'll tell you where to download them from if you want), a letter from your doctor that states your due date. On her end, she needs to gather evidence to prove her ties to Pakistan (that she owns her own house there, has immediate family like other children and husband there) and that she's financially stable - stuff like that. I can give you a step-by-step to the process on where to apply, how to get an interview date, etc. Just let me know when you need all those details. I can soon become an immigration advisor, seriously
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One bite of mashed potatoes, twenty minutes of nausea, and then vomiting. I don't know what to do with myself.
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Salam all. Yes, I'm posting at 5 am. I got up to eat something before Fajir since I'm fasting today. I haven't been getting too tired until the last hour or so. Not bad, since Ramadan will be in Aug and I think our Iftar is at the same time as it is now (8:25pm). This would be a good time to move to the Southern Hemisphere as its winter there and I'm guessing their Iftar would be at 5pm. LOL! As for Reem, we haven't heard anything yet. DH actually asked me to email the embassy again yesterday. I was shocked that he ASKED me to do it (he's a little weird about things like that) but I did and I got a response saying that the visa is still pending. The sad thing is that most people who work in the embassy are Lebanese. I hope they have to go through this frustration the next time they have to apply for a visa somewhere. Then maybe they'll be polite when someone comes asking for their help. Hamdillah we are Americans because I don't know if I could go through this. I really think that Allah SWT was on our side. DH had applied for citizenship (he had a green card) last October. It was supposed to take over a year. They called him in for his interview in March and he took his oath April 15. They also said that the passport would take 5-8 weeks and it was in our hands 10 days later. Had it really taken the whole year, he would have had to apply for a visa or not come with us. I probably would have went with my dad or brother or something. So we got really lucky.
Nomadic- Sarah LOVES her cousins! My sister came when Sarah was born (actually she was there the whole summer and so she was there for about a month before I delivered too) and her three children saw Sarah when she was a few hours old. Since then they come EVERY summer. I think its because of my daughter actually. Before that, my sister would come every two or three summers. But I think its because of Sarah and her condition. My sister won't say so but before she booked her tickets to come to the US she asked if I was going to go to Iowa when she came. she said if I wasn't going there was no point for her to spend the money to book the tickets. My sister likes Sarah a little extra because I named Sarah after her.
I'm sorry about what happened with your husband but it does make me feel better. Actually a lady at the post office was talking with me when I was mailing my letter and she said her landlady pulled something like that one her too, not long ago. What's up with people ripping off other people? It drives me NUTS!! Well I told DH if we have to take them to court we will. And even if I pay the lawyer $1000 just to get out of paying them $500 I'll do it. I'd rather give it to the lawyer than to them.
You know, I never noticed that Pakistani women didn't dress up at all-women functions but now that you've said that, I remember three friends who came to my baby shower who were Pakistani. I kept telling them to remove their hijab as there was no male in the house except my 10 month old nephew. And they still didn't take it off.
I'm sorry that you're still throwing up but I'm glad the doctor gave you the green light to eat something. Can you drink? Perhaps 7-up that is flat (pour some in a glass and let all the fizz go away) would help. Or some dry toast. Inshallah this whole thing will be a distant memory very soon. Can I ask you something? Did the doctor say this will happen in each pregnancy or do you have a chance that next time it'll all be ok? I do hope its the latter part of the question.
I'm so glad that your mom got approved for the visa to come stay with you. I think you'll have so much fun together. When is she coming? I'm guessing she will stay for your delivery, is that correct? Inshallah she comes safely and has a good time while here.
Chips- I'm so sorry. I was going to say if its just a few spots to take a pregnancy test. *hugs* I'm sorry sister. Inshallah the IVF in July will work out. We're all praying and making duaa for you. You're right that you're lucky to have insurance that will cover IVF. Right over here...me....we don't have fertility coverage in our insurance anymore. Although its great insurance in other aspects, but nothing is covered not even the ultrasounds done with the Clomid cycle or DH's SA. And IVF here costs about $8,000 a cycle. So inshallah take advantage of your coverage. Hey..maybe they'll implant you with 8 babies and you can be like that lady in CA (LOL!) Sorry, just trying to make you laugh!
Faith- Salam sister! Glad to see your post. I'm glad to hear that the baby is doing well. Mashallah, you're at 9 weeks already. Inshallah you're pregnancy and delivery go smoothly. We'll be waiting to hear good news next Friday inshallah. I didn't know you were from Lake Mary. That does mean you should come down and visit us sometime. That would be so great if all of us could meet sometime! I have not seen @ngel but I hope she's doing ok.
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Nomadia- Thank you so much for the information and I would love to know!! My DH doesn't have a moment of time to do anything and I would love to do this for him. I know how happy it would make him. Please let me know the process and I'll get started right away. Thank you again!!
Sarahsmom-I loved living in LakeMary and some of my closest friends are still there and I miss them so much. I would love to meet up with you next time I'm there!
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I hope everyone is doing well inshallah...
we have record breaking weather in BC so it's just soooo hot I can't take it anymore!!! (yes yes Sarah this is probably like your fall or early winter but to us its just waaaay to hot and sticky to do anything!!)
So usually I am a bit crazy about taking the pregnancy test! I know even where there is no chance of me being pregnant I will randomly take a test!! the first time in ages I o'd and now I can't bring myself to take a test! I am just going to wait it out, see if I get AF or not..which is crazy because I don't even have a cycle so I don't even know when I think I would get AF!!
Sarahsmom - I am allhumdulilah so amazed by your strength in fasting at the moment! especially with the weather!!! May allah grant all your duas in these long roza's and give your sabr to finish all the remaining rozas...
Nomadic - This year I told DH even if I have to go for 1 day (it would take that much to get there and back!!) and see them at the airport and come back I would do it!! actually the first year I moved here I was still on a visitor visa so I couldnt come and then because of my application I couldnt leave the country and then I started to work and didnt want to ask for so long off so soon so when I was originally told that I wouldnt be kept on at work after the other lady came back I thought it's now or never! I think my parents are more excited than me though! for some reason my mum thinks she has to re decorate the house before I get there..like I am a guest or something!!! I just can't wait to be in familiar environment!
I have no immediate family in BC - (mum and dads extended are here but we dont keep in touch) so it's gonna be so nice to see everyone and DH can feel out of place for once with no familiarity! DH went to Jammat last year to England and after his days were over he actually went and stayed at my parents (without me even having to ask!) even though his grandparents and mums bro's and sis' all live there! I was very proud of him!!! hehe
allhumdulilah I am glad you are now able to eat...maybe as your stomach and I guess taste buds arent used to any food for so long it will take time to get used to it again..I agree with sarahsmom about trying dry toast..or even Ice cream??!! yummm..start with the sweet and you never know your stomach may think this is nice I think I will keep it in!!! Inshallah when the baby is born this will all be a distant memory..or when your baby grows up you can use this against him/her as emotional blackmail!!! lol
Chips I am so sorry it didnt work out this time..I hope you are doing as well as can do..inshallah next time will definatly be your time! my duas are with you sister...
faith - glad you are doing well... @angel is fine - her DH came back from China so I think she is just spending time with him - grieving all over again with him..I dont know if I told you guys but the day she started to miscarry her SIL gave birth to a baby boy and the day after one of our best friends gave birth too! so it was all a bit too overwhelming...I spoke to her over the weekend - she seemed fine..I think she just learnt that there is nothing she can do and Allah works in mystrious ways..if it was meant to be it would be..atleast she knows now she can get pregnant so there is still hope..
I dont know if I told you guys... @ngel and I have known each other since first day of high school.. so like 13 years now.. we lived opposite each other for years.. my parents and hers are actually related but they were never close...so we go waaaaay back!
will post back later inshallah... you are all, as always, always in my duas..
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Chips, *hugs*. I don't know what to say, but definitely this thread is full of ladies who understand you to the fullest. Please keep on praying without losing your hope. That day will come sister, inshaAllah.
Sarahsmom, I was just kidding about being a loud and proud Turk, I went to college in Sydney and there Aussies say "Turks are loud and proud". About your mom being Turkish, wow, if we dig a bit further we might even turn out to be relatives . Did I tell you that my dad's grand grandfather came from Aleppo, Syria. He belonged to a Turkoman family but still I have some roots in Syria .
Nomadic, Mr. Rusalka prays so hard for each and everyone of you, I told him to pray for us all that is. I didn't give any detail of your stories, I don't think that would be appropriate, but told him to pray for my soulcyster friends . Your mom is coming over, yaayy! InshaAllah you'll be able to eat comfortably soon, still praying for you.
Sisters, you can start reading your Quran juz' whenever you'd like to. As long as you finish reading by the 1st of July, it's fine. We might even arrange an extention of deadline to read the remaining chapters if no other sister decides to join our collective prayer.
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Zainab, I was thinking about you and this came to my mind: Maybe you might want to support your luteal phase with some progesterone. Have you heard of Natural Progesterone Cream? Since you ovulated on your own first time, adding some progesterone would be beneficial incase your body doesn't produce enough of it in order to let implantation happen. Just my two cents.
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Sisters, I'm normally a darkish blond-light ash brown, had put henna on my hair 6 months ago and recently the ashy color growing on my roots was killing me, something got into me yesterday and I decided to die my hair to platinum blond and it turned out WOW . Half way through the process I got so scared that the hennaed parts would stuck in the orange stage but alhamdulillah it went through to a very light golden blonde without much damage, then did the roots too and toned the whole head in the end. I'm so happy, my husband loved it, he kept stroking it whole evening . I know it's stupid but just wanted to share with you. It feels like it was a big achievement doing it at home all by myself, quite crazy as well .
Sarahsmom: Well, there's an 80% chance that I'll have Hyperemesis with ALL my pregnancies... so i don't know. Right now, I can't think about another pregnancy. This one is doing enough to my body. Imagine, I haven't had a bowel movement in three weeks now... all that must be getting messed up with my gall bladder and pancreas and everything.
Mama is coming between the 21-26 of this month, she's looking to buy a ticket between those dates. I was really hoping I'd be able to eat something at least before she comes but it doesn't look like that would be happening.
There's only one Pakistani family here, whose house I've been to, where I can really dress up and even take my hijab off, because they keep men and women separate throughtout the event. I guess that's the reason why I've met several Egyptian and Saudi sisters at their house.
I hope you guys are having fun in Orlando as I write this... and soon inshAllah you'll be off to Germany!!! I know it may be hard for you to give constant updates, but if you write an update on Sarah's blog, please be sure to write just a line here telling us you've update that blog so we can quickly run there and check out what's going on. I pray Reem et al are able to join you guys too...
Faith: Can you please pm me your email address, I'll send all the info to you inshAllah. When do you guys hope to call her here? Whenever, it's best to apply ASAP since sometimes they need to do background checks and that can take time. I'd be happy to help you inshAllah.
Zainab: It's so cute to hear how excited your family is you'll be going over to see them. Do you talk to them everyday? I feel something is missing all day if I don't talk to Mama first thing every morning. Both DH and I don't have any family near us. Before coming here, I was super-excited about that, I wanted to make new friends and not have to deal with family but now that I'm sick... oh boy, do I wish we had SOME family member around...
Keep us posted on @ngel... that'd be nice.
Rusalka: Mr. Rusalka sounds like such a great guy MashAllah. I reward him by giving him another juz to read... haha! InshAllah I hope to start reading by 2moro. Lets see when I get done.
And wohoo to the hair dye! And of course it's a big achievement especially because your DH seems to like it. Man, I really want to do something like that too and make my husband happy. Considering what I've been looking like for months now... I couldn't deal with the mess on my legs, and can't handle the pain of waxing and just told DH to trim everything down with his trimmer, and he actually did that. It looks even more disgusting now. Sorry for the unnecessary detail.
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So, ladies, the official word is, I am still not eating... or even drinking. I threw up all day yesterday... tried to sleep at 11 and was vomiting till 1:30. Things just aren't settling down. I'm really beginning to fit into the profile of women who have hyperemesis throughout their pregnancy and just live off the tube. Apparently they also have birth complications, low birth weight of the baby, etc etc... but I'm trying not to think about it.
Some of the "condolence" calls I get are from women who tell me how happy their pregnancies were, how they never threw up, but ate and ate all the right things, and shopped for the baby throughout and delivered perfect 9 pounders. Of course it hurts to hear this... but I've learnt my lesson from PCOS.
People WILL BE People. Fertility queens will always tell you how easily they conceived while you're crying over another wasted clomid cycle. Women who don't understand what it's like to live off a tube, with a dry throat and cracked lips will always tell you how fluffy their pregnancies were... but the bottom line is... this is what Allah SWT destined for me. I dont know why... but I'll not compare myself to others and worsen my problems by listening to their fairy tales.
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