Thread: My best friend is pregnant...

I just found out that one of my best friends is pregnant. This is really nothing new, as I am the only single one of all my friends and all of them have kids. This one just seemed to hurt the most for some reason, probably becasue this particular friend was "with me" the longest. We were both single the longest, and when she got married a year ago, I was so depressed (but I sucked it up, and was a great bridesmaid If I do say so myself) But this pregnancy is so hard to accept...I want a child so bad, and I am so fearful that I will never have one. I have a boyfriend, but he is 5 years younger than me (i am 31) and not ready to talk marraige yet.

People always tell me that I am young and that I should not worry, but I AM worried...These people don't know about the PCOS. They have no idea what I am going through. I feel completely alone, and so sad. I think I cried for a week and I feel like I need to get over this and just be hapy for her, but I feel sick at the thought of organizing, and even attending another baby shower. I feel so selfish!! I feel like I need to suck it up and just be happy for her, but everytime she starts talking about her pregnancy, my heart hurts...How do I get past this??

I feel so sad and hopeless..sorry to complain...but I just feel that I need to talk to some people who understand the way that I am feeling..thanks for listening

patti

I am sorry! I won't tell you how young you are and that it will happen someday : ), but I did want to say that I hope you find your prince charming and are able to get pg real easy and you live happily ever after!

Just think how great of an "aunt" you will make since aparently you were such a great bridesmaid!!!

I can relate to how your feeling right now as I found out today another friend is pregnant, she is 21 weeks gone and first I knew was when she announced it and told everyone on another forum we use and put up her 11 week and 20 week scan pictures...

Don't get me wrong I am pleased as punch for her, she is single and the baby was not planned (although I suspect it was....) but I am also jealous....

That's her + 3 other friends expecting now!

Thank you for your kind words, and you are right, I will make a great aunt.
I just need to get past this, and realize that there is a plan for me...for all of us...some of us just have to be more patient than others I guess.

I think I am going to get together with her this weekend, and I am going out tonight to get a little gift...so I guess I am coming to terms with all of this. It is so great to be able to have support from people that I have never even met. You know just what to say.

Ajhyer...I see that you are from Indianapolis...I am going there to visit a friend of mine in a couple of weeks, and am considering relocating to Indiana soon (that whole change of scenery thing !!) Just wondering how you like it??

I like it. I have lived in Indiana my whole life, but specifically in Indianapolis about 11 years. I live close to downtown and have easy access to everything I need. There are plenty of great places to eat and also some great places to shop. Plus if you feel like traveling, we are close to lots of places. We go to Cincinnati all the time (in fact I was down there today) and not too terribly far from St. Louis etc. If you have any specific questions that I can answer PM me or e-mail me at ajhyer@sbcglobal.net and I will see what I can tell ya!

I hope your meeting goes great!!! I wish you the best!!!

Thank you for the kind words... I really do appreciate all of the support. Being able to read these notes made me more positive, and I was able to spend some time with her today... She did talk about the pregnancy, A LOT...but you were right "Pisces Girl" I think that if the tables were turned she would be geniunely happy for me...I even managed to go shopping with her, and you KNOW we ended up in the baby aisle but I stayed positive, and was able to go home feeling happy and excited to meet my newest "niece" or "nephew"...

I couldn't have done it without you guys..I was in such a slump... It is amazing what a few positive words can do for someone. Soulcysters are great...I wish I had known about you all sooner !!!!

I am so glad that you had so much fun! I think it is great that you are able to look at the positive!

I definately know what you're going through. When I saw one of my close friends very pregnant it sparked something in me and I went into a funk for quite a while...begging my husband to ttc. I was jealous, but happy for her at the same time.

I'm sure that you can also be honest with your friend. Tell her that you are genuinly happy for her, yet at the same time you are having a hard time due to your PCOS. If she really is a great friend she will understand and be there for you too, just like you will be there for her through her pregnancy.

(((HUGS)))