My boss confided in me last week that she thought she might be pg. Why me? She started by asking me a million and one questions about pregnancy, so I started to suspect. I came out and asked her why all the questions. She told me she was 4 wks late. I finally convinced her she needed to take a pg test. She came back and told me it was positive. She went on and on about her fiance' and how she knew he wouldn't be happy. She cried on my shoulder all day about it. She finally went to the Dr. and told me her due date is Dec. 31st. She told her boss who is not real happy about her being out around the holidays. She cries on my shoulder again. Again, why me? I truly don't want to hear about her not really wanting to have a baby right now. I wish I could have either or both of my babies right now.
She has even resorted to calling me at home to talk about her pregnancy. I never gave her my number, she obviously got it from my file. She keeps asking me when I'm going to TTC again so, she won't have to go throught this alone. Can you believe this???
Gina
I'm not jealous, just not ready to hear all of this right now.
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Since she sounds completely DENSE, I would spell it out to her that, while you are happy for her, you really aren't in the appropriate emotional state (or whatever) for talking so much about pregnancy. I can't believe how dumb some people can be.
I'm sorry you're going through this. I hope she gets a clue one way or another sometime soon!
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I would tell her that you just can't hear about it right now b/c of all that you've gone through and to not call you at home b/c I don't think it's all that legal to take someone's # out of their file w/o their permission if it's not work related and obviously this is not work related.
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I cant believe that. She's way out of line. She is obviously clueless about what you have been through. I would simply tell her that you are really just not in the frame of mind to talk about her pregnancy after all you have been through in the last few years. You would think that this would be common sense for her, but I guess some people are either just that ignorant to loss, or that immature, or that selfish. If you dont want to come out and say something to her, just start acting like you arent really listening, give short and vague answers, etc, and she'll probably take the hint.
Actually Reebekah, it's all happened in less than a year. I lost my little girl in June of last year and my son in Feb. of this year.
This is the same woman who told me how she prayed for me and my baby this second time. (She wasn't my boss the first time.) She told me how sad she was when I lost my baby.
I have decided to refer her to an older lady at work who's had 5 children. I'll tell her that right now it's hard for me to talk about pregnancy with her, but, that I'm happy for her.
Thanks for your replies
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i hope you can find a way to tell her your feelings. i'm sorry you have had to go through this nonsense.
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Gina, I think referring her to the other lady is a good idea. Yep, she's an idiot.
And she probably WILL go through this pregnancy without a hitch. Both of my best friends were pregnant around the time I gave up on ever having a baby. It hurt so much to even find out they were pregnant. But I was devastated when one of them admitted that she didn't even WANT the baby. The only reason she didn't abort her was because she was farther along than she thought and a later abortion would "hurt too much." ARGH! Of course, her daughter's fine (and she does love her dearly; I think her guilt is what made her pull away after Rivi died). It's just weird how fate/God/whatever works things out sometimes.
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Oh Gina, I am so sorry you have to deal with this. Have you said anything to her yet? I can kind of empathize with what you are going through though. My boss's wife is pregnant (Due in August) and they made it a store thing. "Guess the baby's weight". We give customer form to do that, they fill it out while asking a billion questions about the status of her pregnancy.. you get the idea. I know this is awful for you. As far as her calling you at home when you didn't give yournumber or tell her she could - highly unprofessional and disturbing in my opinion. This is why she has a doctor. You are for more polite than me to refer her to the older lady. I personally would have told her not to call me at home and hung up. What a situation. {{{huggles}}} I'll be thinking of you. Let us know how it goes.
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I am so very sorry that you are going through this...hopefully she will clue in and realize how insensitive she is being towards you. Some people can be so dense and self-involved...that they forget another person's pain.
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I went in on Sunday with some pg book recommendations and I told her if she had any more questions she could look them up in the books or call her Dr. I guess she didn't believe me because she came to me with a question yesterday and I politely encouraged her to call her Dr. and went back to what I was doing. She asked me if there was a problem and I unloaded on her. I told her how I felt about her coming to me with questions about pregnancy so soon after my losses. She apologized and started to cry. I felt bad for her. She started telling me how her homelife wasn't good
how she was afraid to tell her mother, because she's not married and her Mother still treats her like a child. I told her the reason her mother treats her that way is because she acts like a child. I told her if she's going to exhibit adult behavior then she has to take it like an adult when it's time for consequences. I left it at that.
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Good for you. Hopefully she won't be shoving her pregnancy down your throat anymore. What an insensitive idiot. It seems that whenever you are suffering a loss there is always an idiot like that around to make things even harder.
My Boss is PG and I want to scream!!! 
I truly don't want to hear about her not really wanting to have a baby right now. I wish I could have either or both of my babies right now. 
