I'm kind of alone in this because my boyfriend didn't want the baby in the first place. He wanted me to have an abortion but i said no and he had already accepted the fact that I was going to keep it when the miscarriage happend. I don't want to talk to him about it because i feel like he's glad the baby didn't make it (even though he's never said it) Also, my family didn't even know i was pregnant. I want to do something special because I want to celebrate the fact that there's a baby that belonged to me in heaven....how cute is that..
Any ideas on what i should do?
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Plant something in your Lil' Angels memory!! Then you could put something by the tree like a plaque in memory of your angel!! I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my prayers!! ((((HUGS))))
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I have a few suggestions...
a) if it's within your budget, purchase a ring or picture frame or something with the May birthstone.
b) If it's within your budget, make a charitable donation in memory of your angel. www.nationalshareoffice.com is a good place to start, or perhaps www.compassionatefriends.org
c) Plant a tree, flower, etc. in your angel's memory. If you don't have a yard, this might not work, though.
d) Visit an animal shelter and play with the animals there...they need love and affection.
Hope this helps. We'll all be thinking of you here.
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You could visit a special place, like a park you've never been to or a woods or beach or lake... talk to the baby. If you ever need to feel close to the little one again, you could go back to that special place to talk. My husband and I have the cemetery, but there are lots of options for you. You could even get yourself a bouquet of flowers as a little memorial, and no one needs to know why.
Best Wishes for a meaningful day,
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This day is hard...i'm sending you lots of hugs and i know you will get through it...
I cant garden and i dont want to plant something here cuz i think we may move...i dont want to leave it behind...so for me i wanted something i could keep with me no matter where i went.
one thing i did was buy a locket...i was lucky enough to have a picture of my girls...but even if you dont...a birthstone maybe...its something you can wear every single day....mine became a kind of extension of them...i protected it, worried that i'd lose it, wouldnt let it get wet or dirty and i even kissed it every morning when i got up...it was my way of nurturing my babies even though they werent here with me. It might sound weird but it just sort of happened that way...if i was extremely busy i'd tuck it into my bra so i wouldnt lose it... :o
okay so now that you think i'm TOTALLY weird...i still wear it every single day...and night...i'm never without it, except for a shower. My kids at work and at home know its 'my babies' and they open it to look at the pictures...its just so normal and comforting now.
just an idea...hope you find something meaningful for you to do...it will come to you.
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Hi ladies,
I want to thank you all for being so sweet and supportive. I was sad all day yesterday but I'm learning to understand that everything happens for a reason. I saw pregnant women and babies everywhere i went and it made me sad...but i'll be fine.
I ended up talking to my boyfriend about it...I'm glad i will because he was very supportive- We decided to buy a tree.
He even talked about it with his mom because since i don't own a house
we're going to planted at her house. SHe's into gardening so she's been very helpfull.
We weren't able to plant it this past weekend because the tree that i want is not in stock at any of the nurseries that we called so we we'll wait.
I'm glad i'm doing this because I'll be able to see the tree everytime i visit his mom. Thanks again for everything...talk to you soon.
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I'm glad to hear your boyfriend's mom is being so supportive. The "angel tree" will be in good hands, and since she's such a good gardener you know she'll pay lots of attention to it.
I have one of those Italian Charm bracelets, and I bought a birthstone charm (ebay) with my angels' stone.......)
I just hate having to explain it to people who ask......
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Deb, I'm glad you came up with an idea to honor your little one!
Kim said, "okay so now that you think i'm TOTALLY weird...i still wear it every single day...and night...i'm never without it, except for a shower." I have Rivi's pic on my desk AND on the flip down sunvisor in my car AND on my nightstand. And I'm getting a tattoo to remember him by. I can't imagine not having any of these reminders, and I don't think it's weird at all (although other people might not get it).
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Meghan - I always wanted a girl first. So I was trying really, really hard to picture cute little pigtails. But, I kept calling the baby "he and him." When we went for the US, I wasn't surprised that he was a boy - I think I always knew.
My due date was May 1st :( 
