I have been dealing with this for a while. I found out I had PCOS in 2002 I think. It has been a while. I have been to 4 different doctors trying to get another diagnosis, but I have had no luck . I hate that I have this, I have always been a very hyper person up until I had my second child. I noticed things get a little crazy as far as my harmones go. I have been married for 11 years and he is so angry with me and tells me all this is in my head that it is all a mental thing. Do you now how it feels to have the man that you would lay down and die for to tell you that you are CRAZY! I have always had pride in myself and took care of myself, excersise was just a given and having the energy to do it all was also a given. I could stay up half the night and still get up early and have so much energy to run circles around anybody. We made a mutual decision for me to stay home and take care of our children so I quit work. That was a hard thing for me to do, because I have always been the type of woman that did not want a man taking care of me. I noticed a couple of years ago that my weight was getting worse and my energy level was dropping fast. I became very depressed. I stay tired and according to my husband I do nothing to get tired over! I am so mad and hurt. He yells at me and tells me I am lazy, stupid, a moran, I don't know what it is like to be in the real world. (This is why I didn't want a man taking care of me!) He flat out refuses to go to the doctor with me or even look on here or read anything that I give him and I don't know what else to do. HE THINKS ALL OF US ON HERE ARE MENTALLY ILL AND DON'T HAVE A THING WRONG WITH US. I am far from lazy but I do not have the energy level I once had. I am going to find the book on the IR diet. I am going to join Curves and get back in to shape and I will be able to say that I done it myself with out a mans help.
Please post and let me know what you think about "being mental", not.
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Fortunate enough to have had my children before PCOS. I had my little boy in 1994 and my little girl in 1998. I was diagnosed with mild displaysia in 1995 and I had surgery removing part of my thryoid in 1997.
I guess if we're all mental, then our dr's are ALSO mental, since they diagnosed us eh?
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Hi,
I Sympathsize with you whole heartedly,Its frustrating when the one person you would like support from,just will not open there eyes to understand.This is why getting the word spread around that PCOS is not just a "Mental problem"or "Just in our heads" is crucial.
In my own personal life,it was very difficult to get people to believe there was something wrong with me,I was accused of be "lazy",and "not being able to face real life"When I finnally got an official diagnosis in 2,003.My own family members were not ready to accept I had a problem,they couldn't grasp the meaning of PCOS no matter how much I would explain it.
It was a very hard time,and I know exactly how that feels.I think in time your husband will come around,just dont push him!
And yes you are right about one thing YOU DONT NEED A MAN to give you the emotional support you need.
Show him the pictures of ovaries with cysts all over them that Kat posted somewhere on here and ask him if he sees them too or are you just making them up. Intelligent people can't deny actual physical evidence.
I found a link http://www.pcos-doctors.com/polycystic_ovaries.htm
If his testicles looked like this, it'd be a totally different story!
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Finally diagnosed-4/2002
PCOS & IR
Spironolactone
Ortho Tri-Cyclen
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Last edited by virtuous1908; 04-26-2005 at 05:31 PM.
Your husband is being abusive. Coping with that is hard since he gets his jollies off putting people down. Usually with emotionally abusive types, the more feelings they have for you, the worse they can act.
Try to get a shoulder to lean on. Try not to go into circular debates.
Try to take care of yourself and understand this is "his stuff" not you. He will do this with ANYONE he is close to. The more you understand it is NOT YOUR FAULT, the stronger you will be.
Only a fool would say he knows more than a doctor who has 10+ years training in diagnosing symptions.
This extreme ignorance/stupidity is sad and to be pitied.
If he was open to consuling, I would go that route. I will pray. +
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i agree with the above post. that seems kinda abusive. my hubby was like that before we got married. saying i blamed everything on my PCOS. i told him that everything in a woman's body is effected by how her hormones react; weight, mood, sex drive, everything! he still told me he didn't understand how i couldn't lose weight and he could in a day and why is it so hard for me to have children blah blah blah.
i told him i didn't ask to have PCOS and if all he was gonna do was talk me down that i didn't want him. i have enough to worry about and stress makes it worse so either read up and shape up or pack up and ship out.
now he understands more, he knows what meds i take and why, he was willing to get a semen analysis and we found out he has low motility. go figure. so we are both on fertility blend.
i too feel tired all day long and he used to say i was just lazy but i just really didn't care what he thought. eventually you will learn to take care of you first and let him fall into place. get up and get out of the house and work part-time if you don't wanna stay home. if he feels that you can make it without him believe me he will shape up fast! find a way to communicate with a third party. a lot of times when people say things they don't understand how rude and hurtful they are being until someone else tells them.
people change everyday. marriage is for better or for worse. men are more apt to deal with the physical and what they can see and women just the opposite. so he will never understand because he can't feel what you feel but at least he could work on emphathy.
sorry so long. i just know what you are going through!
My missing periods isnt in my mind (if only my mind were that powerful)! And I bet that women who have PCOS and try to get pregnant a billion times but physically cant arent crazy either. Your husband sounds...to put it nicely...ignorant. Just like people are ignorant about depression, but at least you cant 'see' depression-you can physically SEE cysts in an ultrasound.
I would ask him what has happened in his life that makes him feel better to put you down. I would also ask him..."Do I have a past as a hypochondriac? Why would you think I would make something like this up? Don't you think if I had energy I would use it and lose weight like I did before?"
Also, it isnt your fault that your husband isn't 'up' on medicine. You should be proud of yourself for being pro-active and studying up on it yourself instead of ignoring it and getting some sort of disease or cancer. I guess if you got uterine cancer he would say THAT was all in your head TOO?
HEH...sorry. I am just imagining my boyfriend saying that to me and how I would react.
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Thanks to everyone. I will be showing him this post and I hope it hits home. I just can't believe what he has been saying to me lately. Not like him at all. Tought I knew him better than this. Guess not!?!?!?!
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Fortunate enough to have had my children before PCOS. I had my little boy in 1994 and my little girl in 1998. I was diagnosed with mild displaysia in 1995 and I had surgery removing part of my thryoid in 1997.
My husband thinks we all have mental problems 
I have been dealing with this for a while. I found out I had PCOS in 2002 I think. It has been a while. I have been to 4 different doctors trying to get another diagnosis, but I have had no luck 
. I hate that I have this, I have always been a very hyper person up until I had my second child. I noticed things get a little crazy as far as my harmones go. I have been married for 11 years and he is so angry with me and tells me all this is in my head that it is all a mental thing. Do you now how it feels to have the man that you would lay down and die for to tell you that you are CRAZY! I have always had pride in myself and took care of myself, excersise was just a given and having the energy to do it all was also a given. I could stay up half the night and still get up early and have so much energy to run circles around anybody. We made a mutual decision for me to stay home and take care of our children so I quit work. That was a hard thing for me to do, because I have always been the type of woman that did not want a man taking care of me. I noticed a couple of years ago that my weight was getting worse and my energy level was dropping fast. I became very depressed. I stay tired and according to my husband I do nothing to get tired over! I am so mad and hurt. He yells at me and tells me I am lazy, stupid, a moran, I don't know what it is like to be in the real world. (This is why I didn't want a man taking care of me!) He flat out refuses to go to the doctor with me or even look on here or read anything that I give him and I don't know what else to do. HE THINKS ALL OF US ON HERE ARE MENTALLY ILL AND DON'T HAVE A THING WRONG WITH US. I am far from lazy but I do not have the energy level I once had. I am going to find the book on the IR diet. I am going to join Curves and get back in to shape and I will be able to say that I done it myself with out a mans help.
